1beat:
your solution is big problem mke I clear you
Is ur parents living separate ? because this nonsense, how do u intend to build happy home

baralatie:
don jazzy

SultanOfPuna:
Ever wonder why dating is sweet but marriage is difficult??
It all starts when you both start living together..
You see each other many times and then she/he becomes BORING to you.
Now you go out to look to someone else to cheat on..
Distance creates tension
Too much Familiarity brings insult..
The relationship always going great until she moves into your house.
From my experience, I dated one sweet girl for 2yrs..
Our relationship was perfect until after 1 yr she decided to move in my apartment.. I said hell yeah, why not.
Boy what a mistake.

1. First thing I noticed is that when you are still dating her and don't live with each other, you tend to miss each other company and you want to see each other more,
This will make you not take each other for granted..

2. Women have 3 version of themselves they hide from you.
They reveal their hidden behaviors at different levels.
When you first started toasting a girl she shows you only one side of her
When you start dating her you see another side of her
When you move in with her, you begin to see the "real" version of her.

3. Most women feel once they move in with you, they are now in control of you and the house. She starts moving your stuffs without telling you. She starts complaining about how the room arrangement needs to be changed..how you leave the toilet seat up, how you place your shoes..
Basically the smallest things begin to piss both of you up.

4. Now you have given up your personal space, you are no longer in your comfort zone. This makes you unhappy with her and you guys will start quarreling about useless, small things..

Finally you can fake your lifestyle when you are living alone.
At first She can decieve you to believe that she is beautiful,clean and hard-working but when you finally move in with her. You get to see her true real identity...

SOLUTION
I Think for marriages to last long in this era
Husband and Wife Should live in separate rooms or houses.
It's expensive but this will make your marriage look fresh as you will get that same feeling as if both of you are still young and visiting each other like you did during courtship..

zexy2030:
only when they start having kids the women won't let u rest as u will need to carry d baby.

healthserve:
Gbola

SultanOfPuna:
Do you think this solution will work??
I'm just talking from experience..

SultanOfPuna:
Ever wonder why dating is sweet but marriage is difficult??
It all starts when you both start living together..
You see each other many times and then she/he becomes BORING to you.
Now you go out to look to someone else to cheat on..
Distance creates tension
Too much Familiarity brings insult..
The relationship always going great until she moves into your house.
From my experience, I dated one sweet girl for 2yrs..
Our relationship was perfect until after 1 yr she decided to move in my apartment.. I said hell yeah, why not.
Boy what a mistake.

1. First thing I noticed is that when you are still dating her and don't live with each other, you tend to miss each other company and you want to see each other more,
This will make you not take each other for granted..

2. Women have 3 version of themselves they hide from you.
They reveal their hidden behaviors at different levels.
When you first started toasting a girl she shows you only one side of her
When you start dating her you see another side of her
When you move in with her, you begin to see the "real" version of her.

3. Most women feel once they move in with you, they are now in control of you and the house. She starts moving your stuffs without telling you. She starts complaining about how the room arrangement needs to be changed..how you leave the toilet seat up, how you place your shoes..
Basically the smallest things begin to piss both of you up.

4. Now you have given up your personal space, you are no longer in your comfort zone. This makes you unhappy with her and you guys will start quarreling about useless, small things..

Finally you can fake your lifestyle when you are living alone.
At first She can decieve you to believe that she is beautiful,clean and hard-working but when you finally move in with her. You get to see her true real identity...

SOLUTION
I Think for marriages to last long in this era
Husband and Wife Should live in separate rooms or houses.
It's expensive but this will make your marriage look fresh as you will get that same feeling as if both of you are still young and visiting each other like you did during courtship..

blackpanthar:


From your plenty off point, its clear you are not married or even planning to. So you are in to way qualified to speak on this matter.


I have a simple question for you sir
Who created the idea called marriage?

When you find out who did then you will get answers to all these.

eazzzy1:
There are no boring or unhappy marriages. There are boring or unhappy people. The solution for a happy marriage is to be happy and marry someone who’s happy. By happy I mean internal joy, being happy with yourself and the state of your life.

eazzzy1:
Disadvantages being that;

1. It becomes easy for her to cheat
2. She learns to live without you
3. Fights that will usually last a few hours will last longer.

movement2020:



One of the principles in social work is Individualization. It means, two individuals can have the same problem/crisis, even in the same environment. However, the intervention and probable solution can never be the same. Reason being that, two distinct individuals are involved and as such, should be treated differently. Though, the solution to Mr A could be be tried on Mr B but that does not mean it can or cannot work for Mr. B. You have to treat Mr. B's problem/crisis differently.

Back to your marriage problem, the basic problem facing marriages today from experience is that, people going into it are not well prepared. Either parties attach one reason or the other before going into it forgetting that change is constant. When expectations fall short, they become agitated. To say it becomes difficult and grudges emanates.

With this, there is no single solution to marriage problems because it would continue to happen. What social workers encourage is heart to heart discussion between couples. Communication is key when it comes to marriage. Tell your partner in anyway you deem fit your grudges and your expectations. It goes a long way in resolving issues.

What we detest is domestic violence. Whenever that occurs seek for quick intervention, not a third party but welfare unit or counsellors. Lot of homes have parted ways due to third party intervention especially in-laws. Couples should endeavour to shield their home from in-laws.

SultanOfPuna:

3. What do people do after they fight?
They separate for a while to calm down and reflect on their issues.
Their absence will make you miss them more and have more time to reflect and want to forgive them, because you miss their company. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
When you live together after a fight, you don't get to separate to calm down. You are stuck with that same person and the memory of the fight still lingers and anything they do becomes more annoying. That's why husbands go out with boys to calm down after heated argument. When they come back they face the same wife who then starts arguing why he came back late and thus another fight starts..

SultanOfPuna:

Boredom is a result of over Familiarity between to people.
When you live with someone for years you know each other too much, that every move can be predictable
So you take them for granted..
That spark and chemistry that was alive during dating period goes off when you both move in and start getting used to each other's antics and seeing her true nature unfold..