So, I am what people call "MUMU" and this crosses across all genders. But since I would not marry a dude I'd talk about my relationship with girls.

Whichever girl comes my way we get talking and if she just seems to be very nice I fall in love immediately. Now before you start saying it's infatuation blah blah... I know what I feel and whenever they end it I get hurt. Not hurt for 1 week. I am still hurt by girls that broke up with me 10 years back.
Whenever they come, whatever problem they have I get so worried and try to source out money to get them out (yea, almost all of them). I always want them to be comfortable.
When they wrong me I say sorry, when I wrong them I say sorry.
I dont get too protective, I give them their freedom and also call them out when they're wrong and I still end up saying sorry.

Even the ones that hurt me when they send me a message something in me just ignites and says "could they be thinking about coming back?" But, it never happens, it would be just a "hi-how've-you-been?" Like they care

I am not rich but, I try my best. As a matter of fact, I am below average financially (maybe that's the problem)

The Last girl, I emptied my account for her just cuz, I felt I am at home and she needed it more cuz she was in school. One day she stopped responding to my messages or picking my calls.

I hear girls like rough guys that dgaf, I tried that and then still ended up apologizing. Clearly that ain't my thing.

Before they break up with me I see signs but, I choose to believe I'm just being too sensitive and then, it happens.

I've tried with high class girls and lowclass girls but, they all act thesame way towards me and I'm like "wtf is wrong with my emotional life?"

God knows I am good looking, educated, tall, not dark, smart, creative... the only thing I feel I lack is ability to socialize (clubs, bars, football, FB, Twitter etc), money, job and the ability to be a douché.

I'm above 30, so yes, I'm old enough.

So, I want to know if anyone has any clue to stop loving girls totally. Cuz, maybe I'm a sacrifice on earth, cursed not to ever be loved.
I hear girls don't like people who apologize, who are sincere, who are nice and seriously I can't be anything else so maybe this thing ain't for me.

As my moniker says I am not a troll but, I don't wanna be stigmatized so I used a different account.
You can ask me questions and I would respond, just need to be done with this
Thank you

IamNotATroll:
So, I am what people call "MUMU" and this crosses across all genders. But since I would not marry a dude I'd talk about my relationship with girls.

Whichever girl comes my way we get talking and if she just seems to be very nice I fall in love immediately. Now before you start saying it's infatuation blah blah... I know what I feel and whenever they end it I get hurt. Not hurt for 1 week. I am still hurt by girls that broke up with me 10 years back.
Whenever they come, whatever problem they have I get so worried and try to source out money to get them out (yea, almost all of them). I always want them to be comfortable.
When they wrong me I say sorry, when I wrong them I say sorry.
I dont get too protective, I give them their freedom and also call them out when they're wrong and I still end up saying sorry.

Even the ones that hurt me when they send me a message something in me just ignites and says "could they be thinking about coming back?" But, it never happens, it would be just a "hi-how've-you-been?" Like they care

I am not rich but, I try my best. As a matter of fact, I am below average financially (maybe that's the problem)

The Last girl, I emptied my account for her just cuz, I felt I am at home and she needed it more cuz she was in school. One day she stopped responding to my messages or picking my calls.

I hear girls like rough guys that dgaf, I tried that and then still ended up apologizing. Clearly that ain't my thing.

Before they break up with me I see signs but, I choose to believe I'm just being too sensitive and then, it happens.

I've tried with high class girls and lowclass girls but, they all act thesame way towards me and I'm like "wtf is wrong with my emotional life?"

God knows I am good looking, educated, tall, not dark, smart, creative... the only thing I feel I lack is ability to socialize (clubs, bars, football, FB, Twitter etc), money, job and the ability to be a douché.

I'm above 30, so yes, I'm old enough.

So, I want to know if anyone has any clue to stop loving girls totally. Cuz, maybe I'm a sacrifice on earth, cursed not to ever be loved.
I hear girls don't like people who apologize, who are sincere, who are nice and seriously I can't be anything else so maybe this thing ain't for me.

As my moniker says I am not a troll but, I don't wanna be stigmatized so I used a different account.
You can ask me questions and I would respond, just need to be done with this
Thank you

. You need a tutorial brah . Dm me let me teach you how to be an asshole . It’s good to dump them than them being dump you �. There has never been a win -win game . It’s either win-lose or lose-win .

How can you stop loving girls ? .

By killing yourself Olodo .

When you're too nice, people take advantage of you. My advice is, try to be more selfish. put yourself first before others especially women; as they hold your weak spot.

I’m going to woo you for calling him olodo ����

Riele:
How can you stop loving girls ? .

By killing yourself Olodo .

you have to unlock the real-man in you,you were meant to lead the opposite sex,the only one who you must obey is God and the ones a woman must obey are God and their husband(man),know this and be free

My brother, please focus all your energy on making money and been successful. And every other thing shall be added unto to you in this world.I was once in your kind of shoes!

By giving your time and attention to only someone reciprocating your advances.

Try loving yourself.

Tame your mind, and make it not to be too sensitive,stop spending ostentatiously Just to please girls,don't ever put your whole heart in a relationship, just keep an open mind when dealing with girls
Focus on making money first,
in summary reduce your dependency on girls

Visit www.miseducations.com or try the profs profile here on nairaland, www.nairaland.com/ubunja

You can also download "the manipulated man" by Esther villar. In PDF version.

All your writeup comprises of "I" "I" "I", life is not about only you, you and you alone. The problem is not about you. What they(other people) think about you doesn't matter. What matters is what you think about yourself. Work on yourself and stop taking blames for what people think about you. No one cares about you. Work on yourself.

Stop blaming people about yourself. Stop forcing yourself on people who don't give a shit about you. Dont cast your flowers to the pigs because they will trample on it. Motivate yourself, read books, inspire yourself, believe in yourself. Join a group in your neighbourhood, football club or brotherhood club, (not secret cult )ooo, listen to them share your worries and laugh it off your chest.

We need you bro, your life is precious!!!

Freelane33:
. You need a tutorial brah . Dm me let me teach you how to be an asshole . It’s good to dump them than them being dump you �. There has never been a win -win game . It’s either win-lose or lose-win .

At 30+, I think Op needs to settle down, as in, get married. That's why he's asking for advice. This is not time for dumping games

IamNotATroll:
So, I am what people call "MUMU" and this crosses across all genders. But since I would not marry a dude I'd talk about my relationship with girls.

Whichever girl comes my way we get talking and if she just seems to be very nice I fall in love immediately. Now before you start saying it's infatuation blah blah... I know what I feel and whenever they end it I get hurt. Not hurt for 1 week. I am still hurt by girls that broke up with me 10 years back.
Whenever they come, whatever problem they have I get so worried and try to source out money to get them out (yea, almost all of them). I always want them to be comfortable.
When they wrong me I say sorry, when I wrong them I say sorry.
I dont get too protective, I give them their freedom and also call them out when they're wrong and I still end up saying sorry.

Even the ones that hurt me when they send me a message something in me just ignites and says "could they be thinking about coming back?" But, it never happens, it would be just a "hi-how've-you-been?" Like they care

I am not rich but, I try my best. As a matter of fact, I am below average financially (maybe that's the problem)

The Last girl, I emptied my account for her just cuz, I felt I am at home and she needed it more cuz she was in school. One day she stopped responding to my messages or picking my calls.

I hear girls like rough guys that dgaf, I tried that and then still ended up apologizing. Clearly that ain't my thing.

Before they break up with me I see signs but, I choose to believe I'm just being too sensitive and then, it happens.

I've tried with high class girls and lowclass girls but, they all act thesame way towards me and I'm like "wtf is wrong with my emotional life?"

God knows I am good looking, educated, tall, not dark, smart, creative... the only thing I feel I lack is ability to socialize (clubs, bars, football, FB, Twitter etc), money, job and the ability to be a douché.

I'm above 30, so yes, I'm old enough.

So, I want to know if anyone has any clue to stop loving girls totally. Cuz, maybe I'm a sacrifice on earth, cursed not to ever be loved.
I hear girls don't like people who apologize, who are sincere, who are nice and seriously I can't be anything else so maybe this thing ain't for me.

As my moniker says I am not a troll but, I don't wanna be stigmatized so I used a different account.
You can ask me questions and I would respond, just need to be done with this
Thank you

Eayah I was actually feeling pity for you. Now listen you have to understand that relationship are games so you need to learn how to play them. That’s your problem right there, there are rules to this things, otherwise you just keep getting used even if you have a lot of money. So read up on ubanja and the rest to start learning.

You need Ubunjas miseducations. You'll be fine Las Las. A lot of girls stupidly misinterpret affection for weakness; a major flaw in their design, by so doing you lose their respect and attention. So you need to learn how to make them desire you like a drug...Read and learn.

SavageMaster:


At 30+, I think Op needs to settle down, as in, get married. That's why he's asking for advice. This is not time for dumping games

if he gets married like this it will be worse; he'll clean the house, prepare meals, wash his wife's and kids' clothes whilst also working to make money for his family. He's emotionally soft...
he has to get things right mentally and let his mind control his heart.

Very funny guy.

I think it is safe to assume that no woman wants to be married to a man who is not assertive. Even these so-called feminists won’t marry such a man. They want equality but they prefer to wrest it from your hands rather than have it on a platter.

You don’t need to change into an asshöle. Just be more assertive. Apologise only when you’re wrong. And no long apologies. Just a sorry with an occasional gift. If she doesn’t apologise when she’s wrong, tell her immediately that she’s childish. Don’t accept unruly behaviour. Provide leadership in the relationship right from the start.

Look at this example. In an organisation, if a woman is asked to choose her husband, she is more likely to choose her boss over a guy on the same level with her. Even feminists. They enjoy a man who gives them cause to fight for a seat at the table than a guy who welcomes them to the high table.

A man who lets women walk all over him won’t win the loyalty of even feminists.

I’ve said it here once. Women love bosses.

www.understandingrelationships.com

www.themodernman.com

You need to understand the true nature of both sexes and learn to maintain attraction with women by using their natural instincts to your advantage.

There's nothing wrong with you. Just be open minded and ready to unlearn all those b.s you see in movies and fairy tale books.

And don't ever take a woman's advise when it comes to how to treat women.

My sister in-law once told me that it's a privilege for a woman to want to visit you.

Imagine the kind advise that one will give me

SavageMaster:


At 30+, I think Op needs to settle down, as in, get married. That's why he's asking for advice. This is not time for dumping games

It's orientation like this that pushes people to become desperate.

A man should focus more on making money and having children at that age that pursuing marriage.

StandUpGuy247:


It's orientation like this that pushes people to become desperate.

A man should focus more on making money and having children at that age that pursuing marriage.

He didn't complain so badly about money.

And are you advocating him impregnating a lady out of wedlock? Hmm

SavageMaster:


He didn't complain so badly about money.

And are you advocating him impregnating a lady out of wedlock? Hmm

Who says man can't start having children before getting married?

I really appreciate all your responses and advises. Means alot to me that some people will take their time and try to help.

I will work towards your advises cuz, now I know I need to work on focusing on other things and set a guard on my heart.

I'm still going back and forth through your comments and they really are good thoughtful comments.

Thanks y'all

Riele:
How can you stop loving girls ? .

By killing yourself Olodo .

Trouble Maker

Be yourself, don't apologize for things you did not cause or do.

To finding the right partner you need first find yourself, your purpose and goal.