lacasera14:
Pls don't mind the moniker, it's only a passage.
I and my boyfriend have been dating for a while. What we feel for each other is very strong and that led us to some extreme commitments like: His fingerprint can unlock my phone and mine can unlock his, our Google photos are synchronized so I see all his pictures and he sees mine in case of any intruder sort of, he has access to my facebook, whatsapp and messenger and goes through my chats. I do same. All these happened while we were still in same city. I left for a while (school purposes) and returned recently. After a while he locked his whatsapp with a password, prior to this, I noticed he chats with a girl and after the chat he'll archive it so I won't see it. He digs it up from archived chats to continue. Now he's WhatsApp is locked I can't access it, he has also removed my fingerprints from his phone barring all access to it. I've confronted him, he said it's because I go through his phone alot and he's no longer comfortable with it.

I think he's cheating, nairalanders what should I do?

punisha:
U must be a lacasera addict...come and collect one carton of lacasera for the shutdown period later.

theTransporter:


Lacasera babe, how about you taking a look at it like this, maybe your boyfriend got small sense and realized his mistakes, see ehh, the fun of the relationship goes when you know him in and out, he becomes predictable, a conquered territory, u will be the one who is now looking outside, why because you "have secured him". Those little quarrels, suspicion, suspense, misunderstanding, thinking, uncertainties are the spice of relationships, you can chose to believe me or not, in a relationship , "see finish " is not a good thing, it backfires with time. He has disobeyed a redpill rule "the way u start with a woman is the way u end with her", that's why u are agitated. My advice, just clear your mind from all those suspicion and pretend nothing happens, but if it becomes obvious that he is a cheat, dump his ass. Simple

lacasera14:
Pls don't mind the moniker, it's only a passage.
I and my boyfriend have been dating for a while. What we feel for each other is very strong and that led us to some extreme commitments like: His fingerprint can unlock my phone and mine can unlock his, our Google photos are synchronized so I see all his pictures and he sees mine in case of any intruder sort of, he has access to my facebook, whatsapp and messenger and goes through my chats. I do same. All these happened while we were still in same city. I left for a while (school purposes) and returned recently. After a while he locked his whatsapp with a password, prior to this, I noticed he chats with a girl and after the chat he'll archive it so I won't see it. He digs it up from archived chats to continue. Now he's WhatsApp is locked I can't access it, he has also removed my fingerprints from his phone barring all access to it. I've confronted him, he said it's because I go through his phone alot and he's no longer comfortable with it.

I think he's cheating, nairalanders what should I do?

Jayslicky:
Drink more lacasera to ease your mind!!!!

jayinfo2:


dumping the guy isn't d best route for now; no prove he is cheating : I'm always chatting a lady does not mean I'm cheating on my babe.

justnock:

And she should always mind her business too.

Stacyomolola:


To the extent of archiving his chats with her
What does that mean

jayinfo2:

really!! archiving his chat with d said lady isn't a verdict that he is cheating: he might just archive d chat with her may be just not to let d gf see d chat and feels jealous because they have been chatting too much. can you see it this way.

Stacyomolola:

I would like to see it from ur point of view but why all of a sudden
Why the recent secrecy with his phone

lacasera14:
Read in between lines and understand that everything was vice versa in case you don't know what that means, it means he also checks on my whatsapp, messenger and Facebook messages, now he's is locked while mine is still open, I've done the needful btw. So the space thing you're talking is pointless because he's also in my breath, up in my space. About the smelling and dress sense, that's totally uncalled for.

Stacyomolola:

It's their relationship and their business together

lacasera14:
Pls don't mind the moniker, it's only a passage.
I and my boyfriend have been dating for a while. What we feel for each other is very strong and that led us to some extreme commitments like: His fingerprint can unlock my phone and mine can unlock his, our Google photos are synchronized so I see all his pictures and he sees mine in case of any intruder sort of, he has access to my facebook, whatsapp and messenger and goes through my chats. I do same. All these happened while we were still in same city. I left for a while (school purposes) and returned recently. After a while he locked his whatsapp with a password, prior to this, I noticed he chats with a girl and after the chat he'll archive it so I won't see it. He digs it up from archived chats to continue. Now he's WhatsApp is locked I can't access it, he has also removed my fingerprints from his phone barring all access to it. I've confronted him, he said it's because I go through his phone alot and he's no longer comfortable with it.

I think he's cheating, nairalanders what should I do?

frozen70:


Assuming you are married and sharing phone access with each other, it would have been better to understand

You are just dating and you want to monitor his communication, you will end up getting hurt

Leave his phone for him, if he wants to be loyal to you, he will be, guys will always explore

You too, keep your lock to yourself, it's your privacy and don't think sharing it with him means love, noo ❗ ❗ ❗

It doesn't work that way

If you want to love him and be loyal to him, it's your choice and if you want to have them many, it's your choice and not his business

You can't monitor a man even on your wedding night, unless you want to get frustrated

MainJoe:


Totally disagree with your advice and I will tell you why.

People have different tolerance rate and different commitment status. People who know they are committed and highly devoted in their relationships, want the same. To you it might feel like just dating, to another, it takes emotional devotion to stay in a relationship.

I bet she is the open type, committed and not jumping from one to another. She does not have men buzzing her phones, talking of past escapades. Such a person will not see the relationship as just dating and wants same commitment from the other.

The fact is, if the other is not ready to commit, she should move on to a more focused and serious person. She knows what she wants in a relationship and she should look for that. Compromise means destroying who she really is.

Petyprincess:
Isn't it obvious? Something that is so obvious nd you still asking rhetorical question
He is definitely cheating so dump him b4 he dumps you!!

lacasera14:
Pls don't mind the moniker, it's only a passage.
I and my boyfriend have been dating for a while. What we feel for each other is very strong and that led us to some extreme commitments like: His fingerprint can unlock my phone and mine can unlock his, our Google photos are synchronized so I see all his pictures and he sees mine in case of any intruder sort of, he has access to my facebook, whatsapp and messenger and goes through my chats. I do same. All these happened while we were still in same city. I left for a while (school purposes) and returned recently. After a while he locked his whatsapp with a password, prior to this, I noticed he chats with a girl and after the chat he'll archive it so I won't see it. He digs it up from archived chats to continue. Now he's WhatsApp is locked I can't access it, he has also removed my fingerprints from his phone barring all access to it. I've confronted him, he said it's because I go through his phone alot and he's no longer comfortable with it.

I think he's cheating, nairalanders what should I do?

dukeprince50:
don't panic if he is cheating, distance destroys relationship.
Sit him down, tell him u left for school and now u are back and want d r/ship to b stronger, if he is still interested he should make up his mind and let both of u work it out, if he is over u, he should let u know so u can move on as well, I think he'll get the message.