No wonder marriage doesn’t work for many people. If you set the wrong address in Google maps and then follow the instructions, you will not arrive at your desired destination. No matter how carefully you follow the directions, you can’t overcome the fatal mistake of selecting the incorrect route.

So it is with many marriages. These trendy things in marriage add up to us. We assume they will lead us to what we desire–meaningful relationships which last for a lifetime. But they don’t. Instead, they point us in the opposite direction of success. We fail, but rather than questioning the map, we double down. We try harder to follow the societal rules assuming that adherence to the rules will ensure success. It won’t.

As we still fail we draw wrong conclusions:

Something is wrong with marriage. Many people have given abreast of the concept of marriage believing that because they haven’t experienced success, the institution itself must be outdated.

Something is wrong with men/women. Others draw the conclusion that their struggle for fulfillment may be a sign that modern men/women are tousled . How frequently have I heard, "Where are on the whole the great men?” or “What’s wrong with women these days?”

Something is wrong with me. Sadly, some conclude that something is intrinsically messed up with them. They see others have success and assume they haven’t found it because of an internal flaw with themselves.

It’s true that something is wrong. But the problem isn’t with the institution, the entirety of the opposite sex, or even within us. The problem is that we've created modern rules for marriage that don’t work.

These Trendy-Things in Marriage Don't-Work

8 Trendy-Things

Many believe the thanks to success in marriage is to follow the fashionable rules.

1. Discover your soul-mate. There is someone created just for you. This is your true love. When you find this person, life are going to be whole and marriage are going to be easy.

2.Agony is unnatural and a sign that something is terribly not okay. No one likes pain so we must do everything in our power to not be near it. Pain is so uncomfortable it must be wrong.

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