Oluromantic:

StrongandMighty:
You have to understand that is not every girl you're close to that you've to ask out before you guys can be in a relationship. You should have left things the way they are and take full advantage of it but now you've bleeped things up by asking her out , now you've given her the power to torment you emotionally.. na you set yourself up

Blacknote:
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Iblak:
Hello nairalanders


I eventually confessed my feelings to her on phone(last week), she sounded so surprised (we've been friends like two sessions) and said a long wowww thrice and asked if I was serious, I said yes. I told her she could take her time as she seemed so surprised.


Then I asked her if she had thought about it 3 days later on WhatsApp and then she replied with "ehm I'm in a relationship" (which sounds funny, not true or convincing to me cos we were closer, flirted more, she asked for hugs and would even hold my hands in public when we're walking together before the COVID break)


I then asked if we would still remain friends and she said yes.


3 days ago she texts "hey"

Me: "Hello"

She: no reply 

Me: "how are you"

She: "How are you, I'm good"

Me: "I'm gooder"( a kind of small inside joke) 

She: No reply 


PS: I told her over the phone because school was suddenly suspended due to COVID 19


I regret telling her I like her, I'm heartbroken


What do you think I did wrong? I plan on letting her be, do you think that's good? Or is there something I can do to remedy the situation?


Do you think I should still be friends with her?

keenn:



he did not bleep up and he hasnt set up anything.

a good movement is that you made your intentions known to her, hence she no longer sees you in that friendship light but a romantic light, though she might not be attracted to you yet.

infact, my play is to tell ladies have met that i intend dating how i find them sexually appealing, and my expectation is to expect a strong No from the onset.

then i take it up from there, sloowlllyyyyy

keenn:



he did not bleep up and he hasnt set up anything.

a good movement is that you made your intentions known to her, hence she no longer sees you in that friendship light but a romantic light, though she might not be attracted to you yet.

infact, my play is to tell ladies have met that i intend dating how i find them sexually appealing, and my expectation is to expect a strong No from the onset.

then i take it up from there, sloowlllyyyyy

StrongandMighty:


Read my first paragraph again!
I don't want to believe it's a kid that's behind your handle.

keenn:



he did not bleep up and he hasnt set up anything.

a good movement is that you made your intentions known to her, hence she no longer sees you in that friendship light but a romantic light, though she might not be attracted to you yet.

infact, my play is to tell ladies have met that i intend dating how i find them sexually appealing, and my expectation is to expect a strong No from the onset.

then i take it up from there, sloowlllyyyyy

kalufelix:
Wow ! ..baba educate me more on this reverse format please...thanks

Easybela:
oga,the guy you quoted is 100% right, women aren't same,what worked for a girl will not work for another. That guy just described my person, if am crushing on you and you want our friendship to last,just don't ask me out,allow things flow naturally. Any day you pour out your heart to me,I will begin to avoid you like no man's business

keenn:


thats why i wount waste my time on you in a bid to have romance, how long will i wait till things flow natutally.

last i checked, your gender lives longer than mine.

keenn:


thats why i wount waste my time on you in a bid to have romance, how long will i wait till things flow natutally.

last i checked, your gender lives longer than mine.

Easybela:
Sorry sir ,you don't have to wait,am taken,this covid 19 made me shift my wedding but not to worry,.........still trying to reorganize things,I will definitely pass my I.V across to you

keenn:



he did not bleep up and he hasnt set up anything.

a good movement is that you made your intentions known to her, hence she no longer sees you in that friendship light but a romantic light, though she might not be attracted to you yet.

infact, my play is to tell ladies have met that i intend dating how i find them sexually appealing, and my expectation is to expect a strong No from the onset.

then i take it up from there, sloowlllyyyyy

Oluromantic:
To be frank with you, my advice is wierd but if you care to listen, it shd help you...

First, you need to woo as many girls as possible 3 or 4 or so. The idea is all girls do not have same countenance, temperance and personality. Not all are unreasonable and irrational or play hard-to-get. Even if the one who agrees for you is not the one u like, she'll still be a back up plan of relief when you're rejected. Bcus the more you're obsessed with one, the more she plays with ur emotions. That's the secret behind men including married men keeping more than one girlfriend after their wife. Only few girls are sensitive enough to understand the feelings of rejection.

Secondly, you can get a brothel customer. It has helped a lot of men. It has even saved many marriages. Most brothel patronizers are married men.

Thirdly, wise up, it's a brain task, not an emotional game. It shouldn't stop you from facing your studies diligently. And you shd be secretive enough. You don't have to tell anyone your plans except when advice is seriously needed and get advice from mature minds not boys..

StrongandMighty:
You have to understand that is not every girl you're close to that you've to ask out before you guys can be in a relationship. You should have left things the way they are and take full advantage of it but now you've bleeped things up by asking her out , now you've given her the power to torment you emotionally.. na you set yourself up

Easybela:
oga,the guy you quoted is 100% right, women aren't same,what worked for a girl will not work for another. That guy just described my person, if am crushing on you and you want our friendship to last,just don't ask me out,allow things flow naturally. Any day you pour out your heart to me,I will begin to avoid you like no man's business

keenn:



he did not bleep up and he hasnt set up anything.

a good movement is that you made your intentions known to her, hence she no longer sees you in that friendship light but a romantic light, though she might not be attracted to you yet.

infact, my play is to tell ladies have met that i intend dating how i find them sexually appealing, and my expectation is to expect a strong No from the onset.

then i take it up from there, sloowlllyyyyy

Aroboi:
There's nothing wrong in making ur intentions known to a lady esp one u av a close friendship with..the only mistake u made was agreeing 2 b jst friends aftr she declined ur advances..u wld av jst continue wit d flow nd nt suggest jst being frnds.

Jas80:
I don't just understand guys on this romance section. Don't you guys learn from the mistakes others have made?.

You must have heard times without number that you should never ask a girl out? And you still went ahead to ask her out, why? Because you think your case is different. Well done sir.

My only advice is that you should forget about her. Try and work yourself, read books, watch movies and play video games, listen to musics. Stop chatting with her because that will only make make you stick around.

Oga, abeg listen to the advice when I give you so o, if you like still go dy call her, na u know.....I don go

akaahs:

He bleep up by asking for friendship. A confident
guy wouldn't accept friendship if she asked after the made is intention known.
Let him forget her and watch how things play if at all he is still interested in her.