Wait I wanted to contribute but you as a lecturer I refuse to be convinced.

gbagyiza:
I will be frank with u, you brought this on yourself. You saw a girl that came to write weac, you lust after her, n that was the beginning of your problem. What could have saved you from that manipulation of the devil was your spirituality in Christ, but I have doubt in your spiritual level n reason you easily fall to it. The damage has been done, I pray that the Lord give you a solution to this.

There is something the op is not telling us.....

After reading this story I'm sure you're omitting some things sha

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

It's one thing to date sm1 bt its a totally different thing/game to marry them. U can date alot of people bt u can't marry just anybody. U need to know this and always remember it.

She's a worthless piece of shit. How old is she? Probably young and free, still wild and wants to explore. She wanted attention not marriage and a baby.

When she matures she may get back her senses bt that will take a while.

funmisticqueen2:
he is now a single father. The child is his responsibility, not his parents. Simple.

I couldn't agree more to this comment. Tell me where you aware you wrote this or someone took your phone?


Hmm looks like Jaubdu really is rubbing off on you.

funmisticqueen2:
he is now a single father. The child is his responsibility, not his parents. Simple.

Him don get pikin for free,and he is here crying,who wife epp?ladies of nowadays are not wife-able,they are just good for baby mama's.

Millenniumlady:
You couldn't last long on bed that was why she left judging from your threads

sex is not very important for ladies all they need is excess money,may the man is stingy.

afribabe:
leave her. Let her go. She probably went in search of someone that can last longer in bed na
https://www.nairaland.com/3657342/how-one-last-long-bed

some men don't last long yet their wives and gfs still appear happy because there is excess money....na money sure pass.

cococandy:
No. Your decision is not wrong .

You are still a crowned princess,corona virus notwithstanding...

Omar09:


I couldn't agree more to this comment. Tell me where you aware you wrote this or someone took your phone?


Hmm looks like Jaubdu really is rubbing off on you.

Ta!!

Actually this is my thought process, and it is one of the reasons I bash men.


The reason why there are less single fathers than mothers is because of the stupid thing men do of shipping their children to his parents. Never taking responsibility for their actions.

As if he will die if he changes a diaper or assist his child with assignment. That's why I wrote all those years ago not to allow anyone to guilt you into being a single mom as a woman.

Just dump the child at the father's house and live your life

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

most times MISTAKE they say is inevitable, I believe your mind was clouded with unrealistic pleasure that made you fail to first of all plan and define your supposed relationship .
the last thing you need to do now is to jump into another relationship simply because you want someone to take care of your son
all you need do is to take the child to your mother ,give out your best to make sure he doesn't lack anything!!!

also bear it in mind that someday that whatever stuff that is controlling her will still lure her back to you or probably demand for her baby just to bring another problem in your life.
Dont ever mix emotions with decision making especially when it involves marriage.

rise up to challenges that makes you a man.

Ryocaj:
What I realized abt ladies.. Never fall in luv with them.. their feelings switch.. A girl might luv u n act like she can't breathe without u.. only to leave u later for another guy. the luv she had for u now switches to another guy..

you are correct.

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

oh here we go again with the same bullshit story... and which one is "remember, your family never liked her" nigga come on, what's wrong with your brains man?

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

Go and reconcile with the other lady you were dating before she her

You and your father, should go and meet her family and tell them why you don't want to continue the failed marriage with her, that's if their was a proper marriage

Go with the dowry and return it back to her father, that's if any dowry was paid

Her father told you that you she is not a material yet you went ahead

Am sure you have learnt your lesson

funmisticqueen2:
Ta!!

Actually this is my thought process, and it is one of the reasons I bash men.


The reason why there are less single fathers than mothers is because of the stupid thing men do of shipping their children to his parents. Never taking responsibility for their actions.

As if he will die if he changes a diaper or assist his child with assignment. That's why I wrote all those years ago not to allow anyone to guilt you into being a single mom as a woman.

Just dump the child at the father's house and live your life

exactly...SM are disadvantaged. Even if he accepts responsibility and sends upkeep its the lady that will be with the child. But for single dads? Just dump the baby with your parents then people will praise you saying "at least he didn't deny the pregnancy,he is a good man"