Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

Pheurly2:
Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

My heart is terrible shaken with grief. Your trauma is still weighing you down, and your parents have done poorly in seeing you through. Trauma from abuse can diminish many aspect of one's life. I can imagine how difficult it is for you to concentrate and complete long-term tasks without being weighed down by those bad memories.

It's best you deal with it by yourself. Remember that you only have one life to live, don't let the handiwork of your abusers stop you to living life to the fullest and being better. Your abusers are not worth the importance. If you can't cope alone, reach out to those that can help and council you shrewdly.

If you can have access to your abusers now, I'll advice you seek for vengeance!

Please, try to lift yourself up. I know it's not easy, and trauma from abuse can last for many years. Depending on the type of abuse, trauma from abuse can affect the way you interact and associate with people. Don't let your life and potential waste because of the handiwork of the scumbags (your abusers). You are too precious to let that happen, and your abuser not that important or significant for you to let that happen. Get well soon.

Pheurly2:
Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

sorry honey,, being abused is a terrible thing,, but please go to school ,, u r not doing it for ur parents but urself ,, don’t let a very bad moment in ur life , ruin you ,, atleast u hv parents who do the needful ,, just console urself ,,, get the degree , make ur parents proud ,, over come everything,, that’s the only way u can feel better ..

It’s nice u telling ur story, atleast many men will understand why rape victim never speak up till it’s most time too late ,, but the good thing is that u do speak up.

Pheurly2:
Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

Big man, you want someone to talk to? I can hear you out, and help in any way I can. Shall we talk via WhatsApp?

My WhatsApp number 08181959472...if u wish to help

Liliantalks:
sorry honey,, being abused is a terrible thing,, but please go to school ,, u r not doing it for ur parents but urself ,, don’t let a very bad moment in ur life , ruin you ,, atleast u hv parents who do the needful ,, just console urself ,,, get the degree , make ur parents proud ,, over come everything,, that’s the only way u can feel better ..

It’s nice u telling ur story, atleast many men will understand why rape victim never speak up till it’s most time too late ,, but the good thing is that u do speak up.

BBy gal u won't understand...i can't carry anything up like book...100l though...and me not studying wat I desire increases my depression....do u know how set my mind is towards leaving home....
The trauma is too much...my heart aches everyday...the pain...do u know wat it means too feel being useless..not useful....that's how I feel....so wast is book needed for....if I even get I desired course...it's still better...but right now....nope

Pheurly2:




BBy gal u won't understand...i can't carry anything up like book...100l though...and me not studying wat I desire increases my depression....do u know how set my mind is towards leaving home....
The trauma is too much...my heart aches everyday...the pain...do u know wat it means too feel being useless..not useful....that's how I feel....so wast is book needed for....if I even get I desired course...it's still better...but right now....nope

what r u studying ?

Liliantalks:
what r u studying ?

They transferred people , some they said...it's capacity was full already...from med lab to Health,safety and environment..

Pheurly2:


They transferred people , some they said...it's capacity was full already...from med lab to Health,safety and environment..

that’s a beautiful course !! Cmon please just discipline urself,, many people r fighting for admission but hv non Dear , please just study,, focus ur pain in being a better person !!

Pheurly2:
Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

Contact me on my email cosibekelly@gmail.com so I can give you my number.... The WhatsApp on my siggy ain't working

Bro its a good profession,
I understand the sadness of seeing others study your dream course and the agony of your fellow students under-estimating the department make you think you are treading on a fruitless path.
Trust me I have worked in a few organisations and I can always assure you that every prominent institution, firm or organisation requires the services of health safety personnels. Talk about Oil/gas drilling and refineries, Hydrology companies, Civil engineering contractors, FMCG plants, British American Tobacco company, Government parastatals(NAFDAC, Ministry of Environment...etc). There's even a professional certification(H.S.E) every field worker is running after now. Its a part of your course. I work in the financial technology sector and we still have a department for worker's health and safety on the job.
Bro open your eyes.

Pheurly2:


They transferred people , some they said...it's capacity was full already...from med lab to Health,safety and environment..

God's your help dear

IceColdVeins:
Bro its a good profession,
I understand the sadness of seeing others study your dream course and the agony of your fellow students under-estimating the department make you think you are treading on a fruitless path.
Trust me I have worked in a few organisations and I can always assure you that every prominent institution, firm or organisation requires the services of health safety personnels. Talk about Oil/gas drilling and refineries, Hydrology companies, Civil engineering contractors, FMCG plants, British American Tobacco company, Government parastatals(NAFDAC, Ministry of Environment...etc). There's even a professional certification(H.S.E) every field worker is running after now. Its a part of your course. I work in the financial technology sector and we still have a department for worker's health and safety on the job.
Bro open your eyes.

Bro it's not just about the course. ..wat have passed through. Not as if I don't like it. I love it. But.trauma has caused a lot for me...

Pheurly2:
...I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

Sorry, it's quite a sad story you are going through.
And true bad ugly things happen in this world.
In as much as I understand you sympathize with your pain, I won't cry with you. Whats good will that do?
What I do is seek solutions to problems... That's what will give you relief.
So first, why did you post your story here? what is your purpose? What are you trying to achieve?
In other words, what do you want? Knowing this will help everyone help you.

Liliantalks:
that’s a beautiful course !! Cmon please just discipline urself,, many people r fighting for admission but hv non Dear , please just study,, focus ur pain in being a better person !!

health environment,a beautiful course? in this country? da fuq? tell him the truth.

op....you've really been through a lot no doubt but I tell u...a lot of people have been through worse but came back better and stronger.......I understand the fact that your parents messed things up big time but u gats make peace with em and start life afresh... hopefully,u are in level 1 in the University.....u made your hatred for your present course known several times in your write up,well I guess it's not too late to change your course or probably write another jamb....it's not too late.

I'm just crying for you here, may you find help and may the peace of almighty God locate you.Wicked world

Davash222:
If you can have access to your abusers now, I'll advice you seek for vengeance!

Support.. Clean vengeance that no one will suspect you

g8662:


Sorry, it's quite a sad story you are going through.
And true bad ugly things happen in this world.
In as much as I understand you sympathize with your pain, I won't cry with you. Whats good will that do?
What I do is seek solutions to problems... That's what will give you relief.
So first, why did you post your story here? what is your purpose? What are you trying to achieve?
In other words, what do you want? Knowing this will help everyone help you.

That is a good start.

nuelsam:
health environment,a beautiful course? in this country? da fuq? tell him the truth.

it’s actually a good course , u hv chances of using ur degree to further in medicine, work in schools, hospitals etc . That’s a good course to me

No one can know what exactly you are going through. But I want you to put all faith and hope in God that things will only get better. If u have friends pls talk to them, especially a friend who u can pour ur heart out to.

Sadly, nt every one gets to have parents whom they can talk to and i know that because i av been der b4. I had bad things happen to me and i couldnt talk to mine because they didn't believe me. Over time i learnt to rely on myself and friends for emotional support. Also, the one thing i promised myself is dat i would make it in life so i dont av to rely on anyone and no one would get to use me like that ever again.

So please, pick up the pieces of your life, u dont have to be at ur best right now but just keep moving, find a purpose, reasons to keep living and to be happy. Dont let these people define who u r please. I wish u d very best.

Pheurly2:
Nairalanders, pls don't mind my spellings or English...i've posted but no much comments to help me...pls guys....i will summarise...cos if I have to write my full story...it wld be too lengthy...i begin
I'm a guy that have been abused sexually before by a lady. Then in lag is...inwas between the ages of 10 and 11...she made do dirty things for her, guys also molested me they did anal s** on me...i was left in pains...i have a little scar on my bosom though..i could not tell my parents though they threatened me...even to kill me...at my age ,I should b scared....even if..i wouldn't have told my parents...u can't talk to them...too serious , stoned faced...i couldn't..me keeping it made me an introvert....my parents have never advised me before even toll now as I am grown up....their own is so far they pay school fees....and give food that's all...being d first child...most times I feel useless...i feel used....i feel like I'm a sex object to people...this thoughts affectt me till now...i wld have committed suicide last year...i read something wgich stopped me..... I'm depressed ..my studies have dropped even in sec school..and now that i'm in d university....the trauma is affecting me madly....when i wake up...and i see them,i feel pains,my heart them each time...whenever I remember what I've been through. ...i become sad and cry....late last year I decided to tell them and I decided to change. That was my dad was telling me story blanka..of how he was almost raped...Nd in my mind if he had advised me before now wld I have passed through everything....he was even telling me if I say anything..he wld slap me...imagine...how u talk to someone that was molested...it made me angry d more...but I had to keep it....but I can't again...i'm feeling the trauma once again...i've stopped doing things at home ..becos I don't do it from my heart..their own is their paying school fees my accommodationfood...is that all...
I decided to leave d house..i can't keep bearing all what I'm bearing...i might do something I wld regret.. I wld go anywhere...they are not helping..the coursee i'm studying is not even what I want. Use my talents to survive.. It's adding to the depression...im in pains...i write all these with tears...this is my mind..to write will make it lengthier than this...
Nairalanders..pls help me..

I'm so sorry about what you've gone through especially with the way your parents reacted.

Please stay strong, don't commit suicide. I'll advise you to go closer to God. He's the only one that can truly console you and strengthen you.

Also, don't look up to your parents or friends for your happiness. Find a way to be happy. Deed has been done, but don't give the devil the chance to see you sad.

Stand up and fight depression. Say positive words to yourself everyday. You are not to blame for being raped.

g8662:


Sorry, it's quite a sad story you are going through.
And true bad ugly things happen in this world.
In as much as I understand you sympathize with your pain, I won't cry with you. Whats good will that do?
What I do is seek solutions to problems... That's what will give you relief.
So first, why did you post your story here? what is your purpose? What are you trying to achieve?
In other words, what do you want? Knowing this will help everyone help you.

Okay �

nuelsam:
op....you've really been through a lot no doubt but I tell u...a lot of people have been through worse but came back better and stronger.......I understand the fact that your parents messed things up big time but u gats make peace with em and start life afresh... hopefully,u are in level 1 in the University.....u made your hatred for your present course known several times in your write up,well I guess it's not too late to change your course or probably write another jamb....it's not too late.

I did take another jamb actually....
Hmm..thanks bro

Christeety:


I'm so sorry about what you've gone through especially with the way your parents reacted.

Please stay strong, don't commit suicide. I'll advise you to go closer to God. He's the only one that can truly console you and strengthen you.

Also, don't look up to your parents or friends for your happiness. Find a way to be happy. Deed has been done, but don't give the devil the chance to see you sad.

Stand up and fight depression. Say positive words to yourself everyday. You are not to blame for being raped.

What way should I find....my own is to move out...

OP,we all understand their is a problem and the good thing is you are speaking out about it, and we alknowleged it also , based on the effect it has on you such as your observations;
*stalk helpless and loss of focus
*loss of faith in protective power of your parent
*prone to and may be subject further abuses by a sexiual preditor
*feeling of being dirty and worthless
*feel of being guy or straight.
*low productivity in your daily activity
* being tense
*finially depression
the true is op all these and lot more which might be runing though your mind with negative emotions , flooding per minutes .
you need solutions ,you need to come out from the wells of denial, regret ,it has happened their is nothing anybody can do about it, but help you pass these phase of life. open up let discuse issues whatever that cross your mind , i will try to put your though.
Remember commiuncation is key.

PHOTSEE:
OP,we all understand their is a problem and the good thing is you are speaking out about it, and we alknowleged it also , based on the effect it has on you such as your observations;
*stalk helpless and loss of focus
*loss of faith in protective power of your parent
*prone and subject further abuses by a sexiual preditor
*feeling of being dirty and worthless
*feel of being guy or straight.
*low productivity in your daily activity
* being tense
*finially depression
the true is op all these and lot more which might be runing though your mind with negative emotions , flooding per minutes .
you need solutions ,you need to come out from the wells of denial, regret ,it has happened their is nothing anybody can do about it, but help you pass these phase of life. open up let discuse issues whatever that cross your mind , i will try to put your though.
Remember commiuncation is key.

Thank u so so much.....

Pheurly2:



Thank u so so much...081...whatsapp number

Okey modify or edit your number now pls

Pheurly2:


Thank u so so much...081...whatsapp number

Okey edit your nos like mine