Abort a year ago, i was in my fiances place, he went to tak his bath, a small nyloy fell from his troser pocket,i try to see wat was their it look lik dry leaves so when he comes back ,i ask him about it and he said it herb for pale. Around Dec again i was looking for sometin in his walldrope, so i search one of his pocket and i saw d herb again my mind told me he lie about wat he told me befor, so i took part of it and ask somone in my office d guy said is hemp. i was so dumdfounded for dating someone for 4years witout noticing he smoking hemp. pls advice me i don't no wat to do, if he can hide dis from me for 4years any guy can do more dan dat.

Just pray he doesn't wake up one day to commit murder! anyway, if he is already an addict, dump him! he iz nt worth it

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Dump someone because they smoke lil weed?

@OP
Confront him, ask him to come clean they offer to help him drop the bad habit.
Do you have a problem with smokers?

OP.
There is nothing wrong with it . . . .Omolola smokes and sniffs too

Dsense, i see you are in one of ur periods! @jayb, ofcourse! wuld u advise her to stick wiv smone who iz an addict

Serious?

Huh?

Omolola1:

Dsense, i see you are in one of your periods! @jayb, ofcourse! wuld u advise her to stick wiv smone who iz an addict

Why not as long as the addiction ain't indirectly affecting her physically,emotionally or financially.

Would you advice a woman to divorce her husband cos he smokes weed?

wel,in ds case she is nt married to him! if a woman finds out afta marriage,she wuld jxt av to help him,4 beta 4 worse

advices younow dats serious!anyway,its eida u deal with it or walk away,ur Choice

And what if the dude is the perfect partner (less the weed) she has been praying for all her life?

Abeg, forget perfect partner! Perfect partner my foot, smone dat not only smokes but smokes hemp??

Oh i 4got that weed is a big deal in naija.

so much pregnancy issues rising today

only today 11/1/11 this is the 5th pregnancy issue on site today!!

seems xmas s[i]e[/i]x has started paying dividends

@post
if he smokes weed

Join him

@jaybee, loool its not Naija mentality o! its my personal thought!

Personal thought or preference?
Even with preference what are the implication of dating a guy that lights-up?
I know in naija it's mostly acceptability issues but my point is if you love someone u don't just dump them, you help them through things

{smiles} It really a herb. it help to cure many thing just that it not put in kaikai but put in paper and lighted. i hear it cure bad sight and help you to eat well just like any multivitamin.

very true,its nt easy 2 dump d one u lv,bt an addict?its not easy 2 help an addict,it takes tym nd i dnt av dat patience

I dont think cutting him off is the solution cos i believe both of you are matured enough to understand each other, what is the probability that he has just started smoking the weeds
2. if the weeds is not even his own
3. before you saw the weed how was his behaviour
4. have you tried talking to him abt it
5. what kind of food does he eat and the frequents intake of the food
i.e if he eat a heavy food alot.
try and talk to people who knows the effect of an addit so that you can always monitor him.
if truely he smoke you can be of help to him.
takie i believe God will direct your motives.

Omolola1:

very true,its nt easy 2 dump d one u lv,bt an addict?its not easy 2 help an addict,it takes tym nd i dnt av dat patience

I doubt the dude is an addict as addicts don't hide their bad habit.

That is what am not sure of coz the poster didnt say

Omolola1:

That is what am not sure of coz the poster didn't say

hahahhahaha GBAM. You are now in a corner Lola.
How can you advice her to dump him without being sure if the dude is actually addicted to weed. For all we care, the weed could just be a recreational occasional spliff.

Jaybee, abeg! lol. . .well, i took a wild guess because d poster said its been going on for 4years

Gurl com' mon, your guy is human and ev'human has their vices and smoking hemp is his. Don't get me wrong here, am not supporting him neither am i saying its a good thing, but heck, some of us have been on earth long enough, we've seen men (ladies you're no exception) addicted to death wif p'orn, dirty to the bone like pigs, some drunks, others rapists, sex maniacs freaks, robbers, a'rmed-robbers, murderers, the list goes on and on and still nobody throws 'em away.
My bullsh!t aside, Lady stick by your man, help him get over this addiction, let him know how much you and his future kids care about him and would not want a silly drug addiction to steal him away from you. Pls let him see a shrink and maybe Rehab.
Sidenote: This are trying times and only love conquers all, this is the time he needs you the most so please don't abandone him. You can scold him all you want for not telling you earlier regardless of his own reasons.justified. Hope this brings you guys closer than ever. Goodluck.

Omolola1:

Jaybee, abeg! lol. . .well, i took a wild guess because d poster said its been going on for 4years

Wrong. They have been dating for 4 years which suggests dude is not an addict for her not to have noticed except they hardly see each other which i seriously doubt.

If he were an addict -wouldn't she have noticed?

@jayb, Lookn at d post again,she suspectd hm twice (a year interval) meaning she didnt knw about it 4 a period of one yr