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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by mctony5050(m): 9:01pm On May 23
All because the world is drawing to a close,, Rapture is very much round the corner and one of the easiest way the devil will make anyone miss rapture is making them to disobey God by indulging in pre marital sex, Rapture is real my people and we should be prepared because we don't know the day or time

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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Damilolasmarto(m): 9:44pm On May 23
lailo:
watch ur comments on this topic bcs Jesus is on this platform and whatever u say will stand against u on the judgement day.#nosayinowarnu

You are a mumu man
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Emanodimo(m): 9:58pm On May 23
Fabulouzjoseph:
The world has changed. undecided

So don't expect things to remain thesame. Kids are now smarter and there is easy access to information.

There is also contraceptive and birth control which is easily available so you can have sex without getting pregnant.

Sir, u have answered well that things and time has changed....So also the human body chemistry and physiology drive for sex too....Who make sex a crime?... Tagging 18 years old is for maturity stage of the body development....
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by JiffyLou(m): 10:12pm On May 23
I'm a young person and I have still not gotten a share of this premarital sex that is everywhere... plus where can I get it
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by edoairways: 10:58pm On May 23
Rich4god:
To me, a chunk of the blame goes to religious organizations another goes to social media exposure.

These days, in a bid to garner members and make more money, pastors/priest hardly preach against sexual immoralities. Church members involve in sex openly these days, funny thing is, even head of groups in churches are fully aware, but no one condemns it.

Then on the other hand, exposure to internet have given young people information that they won't be privy to at that young age. This info have exposed and corrupted their mind right from an early age.

These days, if you are above 25 and you are still a virgin, people look at you awkwardly as if you are not a human being.

I still advocate for people to remain a virgin till marriage.
Some churches still preach against premarital sex.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by vickydankal(f): 11:06pm On May 23
1. Internet
2. Technology
3. Moral decadence
4. Social media
5. Marketing sex
6. Political correctness
7. Spiritual misalignment
8. Not having a strong personal boundaries
9. Ignorance and gullibility
10. Poverty of all kinds and levels

The above list has contributed in no small way to what sex has turn to in our time. I got married a virgin . From that night wedding till date I still believe sex over rated. With years of marriage im yet to know that thing in sex that people can destroy their destiny for.

When I was younger I taught to be careful in doing those things God who created me doesn’t do like :
1. Sleeping
2. Drinking
3. Sex
4. Laziness
5. Lies etc
Some of them may not be sin, but the method and times of usage may turn it to sin.

Self control is key.
No amount of sex you have today that can last you a year, so why kill your self. Keep yourself so that while in bed with your partner in the future you will not be comparing him with Steve who uses drugs or Emeka who drinks aphrodisiac to make love.

Jesus still grants self control through his spirit.

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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by meobizy(m): 12:21am On May 24
The world has changed and with it people have too. There are too many concerns in life to leave pre-marital sex as one. People's tastes have evolved and with it new habits got formed while old ones were trashed. Prudeness helped further no one's status in life so the 'virtue' got discarded. Do you know, with the benefit contraceptives give, a woman can have sex with as many as a hundred men or more in her lifetime? Cavewomen did not have such a priviledge. It also helps men since the key to bedding a female is possessing average looks.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by meobizy(m): 12:29am On May 24
kikero:


1.It was always there mind you. People did not talk much about it back then, but it was there.

2.Delay in getting married and long life. In the good old days, a child went straight to adulthood. Nothing like adolescence (even in Europe up to the 1950's children left school between 14-16 and started working. University was for the very intelligent minority, and was not a must). And also, a while ago, you could be dead by the time you were 50. So, you got married when a teenager, and libido was satisfied.

3.Until the 1950's in my opinion, most Nigerians lived in small villages. Everyone knew everyone's business. You sleep around, you got easily shamed. Now, many of us live in urban areas. You sleep around, no one is going to come and shame you. For what? Do your aged parents living in the village know what you are up to every day??
Point 2 benefitted a lot of people in the long run. I wonder why the white man discontinued the culture in favour of an 18-year-adult-first-before-marriage custom. There's no person who can give better sex than a human in the prime of puberty. There's no better period to birth children for both genders than the time. I remember reading somewhere that Einstein had his first marriage at 14 to a 40 year old woman. There is no way such a teenager won't have a more level-headed mindset than the 24 year old babies who inhabit here. The time one will originally dedicate to destructive peer pressure will transmute to creating something for him/herself in the society.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Momoreoluwa90(f): 2:31am On May 24
vickydankal:
1. Internet
2. Technology
3. Moral decadence
4. Social media
5. Marketing sex
6. Political correctness
7. Spiritual misalignment
8. Not having a strong personal boundaries
9. Ignorance and gullibility
10. Poverty of all kinds and levels

The above list has contributed in no small way to what sex has turn to in our time. I got married a virgin . From that night wedding till date I still believe sex over rated. With years of marriage im yet to know that thing in sex that people can destroy their destiny for.

When I was younger I taught to be careful in doing those things God who created me doesn’t do like :
1. Sleeping
2. Drinking
3. Sex
4. Laziness
5. Lies etc
Some of them may not be sin, but the method and times of usage may turn it to sin.

Self control is key.
No amount of sex you have today that can last you a year, so why kill your self. Keep yourself so that while in bed with your partner in the future you will not be comparing him with Steve who uses drugs or Emeka who drinks aphrodisiac to make love.

Jesus still grants self control through his spirit.
Thank you so much for this. Many will not agree but I admire your standing for the truth. The world has become a strange place and we should be the 'light in the darkness'

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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Rafoski: 3:44am On May 24
Kobojunkie:

Wiser? According to a report I read not too long ago, wisdom is something we have not gotten more of in the last 150 years. People aren't wiser..
True!
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Lekozy(m): 7:22am On May 24
My comments might look somehow..but other countries re trying to find cure of certain diseases like cancer etc they re making d art world better and improving their country and we are here talking about pre marital sex ..so .what if someone does it and someone does not what changes... please dats d person life ..u that u re not having d so called pre marital sex how re u sure u re d Divine one.. please let's leave this and talk about how we youth can make the economy of Nigeria great and a better place for our children to leave..ok what if I don't have premarital sex and I masturbate..so....my opinion though..
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by whizbee(m): 8:08am On May 24
lailo:
watch ur comments on this topic bcs Jesus is on this platform and whatever u say will stand against u on the judgement day.#nosayinowarnu

So Jesus has a moniker on NL? Pls show me undecided
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by simid38: 8:15am On May 24
Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.wink

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?cheesy

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?
If sex is meant for only married couples then the our sexual organs will strictly only start functioning after marriage!! The world is moving fast and people are becoming wiser, people shouldn't be held up in the bondage called marriage. Marriage isn't for everyone. But everyone is entitled to enjoy sex in any form once he/she is of age.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Blaqy(m): 8:53am On May 24
The norm nowadays on TV, social media helps to fuel the act of premarital sex. What you behold is what you become. When I what movies and soaps, all I see is a young man and lady living together and not married.thats what molds our habits.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by ebenezer95(m): 9:02am On May 24
I can't even understand it because I could remember my first girlfriend we only meet and talk no kiss and no sex till we endup the relationship in those days now everything has change to another level that if u can't rape a girl now you become s lazy man to her and to everyone around no respect or relationship standard anymore
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by thinkmoney(m): 10:02am On May 24
Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.wink

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?cheesy

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?
MARRIAGE BOOSTER

AVOID PREMARITAL SEX

Premarital Sex is The Mother of Extramarital Sex.

If a Man Says He is a Christian, Yet He Has No Problems Knocking You Up, Having Premarital Sex or Living in Sin With You

My Sister, You Have to Ask Yourself, “What Version of Christ Does He Believe In?

If You Can Eat Food Before it is Yours Then You Can Also Eat Food That is Not Yours.

Any Woman That Allows a So Called Fiance Sleep With Her Before He Marries Her is Only Training and Equipping Him to Cheat on Her if He Does Go Ahead to Marry Her.

Sex is Not an Entitlement. It's a Privilege That Goes With Marriage.

Premarital Sex Defrauds The Future Marriage Partner of The Person With Whom You Are Involved.

You are Robbing That Person of the Virginity and Single Minded Intimacy That Ought to be Brought into a Marriage.

Thus, Sexual Impurity is as Much a Social Injustice Against Others as it is a Personal Sin Against God.

And Do Note That There is a Difference Between a Fiance and a Customer.

If He Sleeps With You and Gives You Money, He is a Customer Not a Fiance

Surrender to Sensuality Paralyzes The Powers of The Moral Person.

We Have to Begin Giving Our Youth the Whole Truth About Premarital Sex and The Difficulties it Can Cause.

Teach The Youth About CONDUCT and Not CONDOM
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Calabar1stSon: 10:50am On May 24
eagleu:


Another sex starved deviant opening a useless thread to cover his sexual deprivation. Of all the problems in Nigeria today sex is of most importance to you?
You should checkout my other threads dude. I'm way wiser than you're. Anumpam
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by od501: 10:58am On May 24
Bacteriologist:
Whatever happened in the past should stay there.

So does sex automatically and suddenly become something sacred/accepted because of marriage (which is itself, merely a certificate with two names and signatures, and few people invited to a feast)?,

The idea of premarital sex was to reduce the rate of unwanted pregnancies and to guilt trip people into getting married before having sex. Unwanted pregnancies can be abolished by using contraceptives and adequate sexual education. And marriage in all sincerity has outlived it's usefulness.

So "premarital sex" doesn't command much fear as it used to. And this may not change soon. Sorry.



So what's ur point bro? Sex is not secred, it that?
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by stormborn28(m): 12:15pm On May 24
Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.wink

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?cheesy

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?
poverty... Parents are no longer morally upright
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:38pm On May 24
Why will a grown person say this in public? Shame no dey catch you??

Calabar1stSon:
Back in those days, parents would always advised their female daughters that talking to boy who get them pregnant.wink

Infact religious organizations preach against it even more but you find many of their members involved in the act.

Do you know even at 18 I still thought that kissing a girl would get her pregnant?cheesy

What went wrong with the society of today? Why is Pre-marital sex a norm in the society today?
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:41pm On May 24
The premise itself is false. Having sex, whether pre or post-marriage is not inherently bad.

xendra:
parent of those days caused it, they wanted to preach decency to children but they couldn't be decent themselves to set example

And they were educating a girl child about sex they refused to scold the Male child. ignoring the fact that it takes 2 to tango and the Male child should have got more education because he has the upper hand.

Parents failed. Now?
If the foundation be destroyed what can anyone do?
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:41pm On May 24
Yes. Sometimes.
cococandy:


Because it’s beyond unreasonable to think that you can encourage sex amongst boys and somehow have the girls be all virgins. Are the boys sleeping with themselves?

Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:42pm On May 24
Let's not rob girls/women of their agency. If a girl wants to do, she can start the doings.


MajorOvakporaye:


na weak man u be
legbere like u!
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:44pm On May 24
That went from zero to hundred real quick. The man, in this rare situation you ended with, doesn't have to be exclusively homosexual. There are a lot of bisexuals.


Nooil:
Because women are doing everything men want


We need to have sex. I can't be in a relationship without sex. Women will agree.

We are polygamous in nature, leave us to cheat. We will always come back to you. Women will agree.

I can't be the sole provider of this house. We have to contribute equally. Bearing children is a natural default. Women will agree.

In the future;

I can't keep entering your wide vagina. A man's asshole is tighter. I feel attracted to men now. Allow me to be a homosexual. I'll always be your husband. Women will still agree.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:45pm On May 24
What is? The fact that OP did not go to Biology class or what?

frozen70:


It's just an unfortunate situation
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:46pm On May 24
Thank you for your honesty. People are here forming what I don't know.


SyberKate:
Because I don't want to be stuck with a one minute man
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Austin234(m): 2:48pm On May 24
You need Jesus Christ in your life now



iCauseTrouble:
This life is too short. There is no gain in dying a virgin.
You need to be fvcked atleast once!!!
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by cooooooks(m): 2:49pm On May 24
And what if your daughter grows up scared of sex and ruins her relationships. What will you do when her fiancé calls off the wedding, divorces her or starts sleeping with other women with her knowledge or even her blessing??

STOP. MENTALLY. SCARRING. YOUR. CHILDREN.

Eulalia:


Are you sure you understood what I wrote here before quoting that portion?

My mum wasn't threatening us. She only scared us by saying the men will tear our private parts not she.

It will work on my children because I grew up in this century therefore i know what's up and would know how to handle them accordingly by the grace of God.

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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Darlingboy4sure(m): 2:58pm On May 24
It is because the scriptures must be fulfilled.
In recounting the activities that will precede the close of the age, Jesus made mention of the "abounding of iniquity". So sin must abound.

In this century, If u are up to 18 yrs and u don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend, u would be regarded as archaic or outdated.

God help this generation!

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Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Austin234(m): 3:02pm On May 24
You need Jesus Christ in your life now



iCauseTrouble:
This life is too short. There is no gain in dying a virgin.
You need to be fvcked atleast once!!!
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Nooil(f): 3:54pm On May 24
cooooooks:
That went from zero to hundred real quick. The man, in this rare situation you ended with, doesn't have to be exclusively homosexual. There are a lot of bisexuals.



A time will come when they will be exclusive.
Re: Why Has Pre-marital Sex Become A Norm In Our Society Today? by Makschinchin: 10:26pm On May 24
donnie:
The so-called religious organizations don't have the power to build or change society. ISRAEL must return to their identity as the people of YAH and keep the Commandments.

The spirit of YAH can quicken his people who are called by his name to obey.

Which one be YAH?? Na wah o

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