adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

adontcare:
. Y r u so bitter? It is well with ur soul. Take a little honey

Omijin:
Talking from experience, I don't think this thing as to do with anything like spirit. From my experience, one major cause of drug use is idleness, I have observed that when ever I sit for a long time doing nothing, the Sweet memory of how good I will feel if only I take some dose. Another thing to ask him is, what led him to using drug, everybody into drug, something pushed pushed them into it. It could be one challenge he was facing, to find a solution to that problem, he probably went to different people seeking advice and maybe one person suggested the drug aspect to him and he tried it and the thing made sense to him then. I have a reason for using the I'm using. But the reason I'm now using the drug now is not what led me into it but because my body now needs it to function normal. Your brother case is too bad, his probably into combination of drugs, using several different drugs at a time. If his one particular drug, he won't be that bad.I have been into this is thing for 9 years, you can never notice it in my behavior. If don't tell you, you can't know. I use just one particular drug though in much quantity. I promised not had any other one nothing even alcohol. When ever me and my friends go out, they go for their brands I settled for malt or coke, they will be like what is this but I didn't allow that to shake me. Use of drug is bad whether one or combination. That is why I always try my best not to introduce anybody into it. When I read some comments here I laugh. Some people said chain him, some said take him for deliverance. You can never understand if you have not been there. From my experience the best way to stop, is to reduce the dosage gradually till the brain can function well without it. 85% of ppl in drug wants to stop but its is very tough to do. Me I want to stop. What I'm doing is reducing the dosage. Normally I take 450mg a day, now I take 150mg but I will have to combine with ibuprofen to make it more effective. I think I'm making progress. Anybody that is advicing a person into drug to stop it totally at once is a killer. The person will cause more problem than solution. Its almost impossible to do without replacement. Cutting down the dosage and getting active all the time will bring much improvement. I pray I'm able to stop it totally one day.

Omijin:
Talking from experience, I don't think this thing as to do with anything like spirit. From my experience, one major cause of drug use is idleness, I have observed that when ever I sit for a long time doing nothing, the Sweet memory of how good I will feel if only I take some dose. Another thing to ask him is, what led him to using drug, everybody into drug, something pushed pushed them into it. It could be one challenge he was facing, to find a solution to that problem, he probably went to different people seeking advice and maybe one person suggested the drug aspect to him and he tried it and the thing made sense to him then. I have a reason for using the I'm using. But the reason I'm now using the drug now is not what led me into it but because my body now needs it to function normal. Your brother case is too bad, his probably into combination of drugs, using several different drugs at a time. If his one particular drug, he won't be that bad.I have been into this is thing for 9 years, you can never notice it in my behavior. If don't tell you, you can't know. I use just one particular drug though in much quantity. I promised not had any other one nothing even alcohol. When ever me and my friends go out, they go for their brands I settled for malt or coke, they will be like what is this but I didn't allow that to shake me. Use of drug is bad whether one or combination. That is why I always try my best not to introduce anybody into it. When I read some comments here I laugh. Some people said chain him, some said take him for deliverance. You can never understand if you have not been there. From my experience the best way to stop, is to reduce the dosage gradually till the brain can function well without it. 85% of ppl in drug wants to stop but its is very tough to do. Me I want to stop. What I'm doing is reducing the dosage. Normally I take 450mg a day, now I take 150mg but I will have to combine with ibuprofen to make it more effective. I think I'm making progress. Anybody that is advicing a person into drug to stop it totally at once is a killer. The person will cause more problem than solution. Its almost impossible to do without replacement. Cutting down the dosage and getting active all the time will bring much improvement. I pray I'm able to stop it totally one day.

adontcare:
yes. And it's a big yes. Foundation of upbringing matters

prettysassygirl:

Your Christianity is so warped. May the Lord have mercy on you

merahki:


You darling, have zero honey inside you. None at all. Not empathetic, not respectful, not kind. The OP respectfully warned you off her thread, but no, you had to come back like a cricket, dancing on every mention you received, all in a bid to have the last word. Meanwhile you were/are wrong.
This shows the kind of person you are.
Real shame.
Continue.

atoleybaba:
at all, na her type they think say everybody Dy plot evil against her hence she must call fire on them to consume them. God is really a patient God ooo. If not, who knows, God for don clear am comot for bringing reproach to his name

drfav:

You have nothing to say..I suggest you shut the *uck up..one of my cousins actually has the same issue the Op's brother has..I once stayed in their house and I can tell you his parents gave us the best family upbringing anybody can have..they are even pastors..infact at a point this same cousin of mine was a Sunday school teacher before he gained admission into the university and joined some bad groups. The point I am driving at here is that most times it's not really about the parent but about the child, your parents can only do their bits, the bulk of the work lies on the child..Biko don't bring the man's parent into this..may you not have a child that be like this ooo..that's when you will know that it's usually not the parents fault..

raphy:
my advice as a legend on here is for them to try to re admit him in the psychiatric hospital .I.know it won't be easy .but thy can inject him to deep sleep when he is sleeping.like strong guys hold his hands and leg and hamd cuff him to. a bed then they give him the injection that will.make him sleep for like 1hour.

am not a Dr or medical student i just share my own sense of treating a mad person.



I hop am helpful

may God bring him back to his right senses amen.

homesteady:
Wow!! This will be very difficult. A 40 something year old man.

I suggest you take him for another rehabilitation, because the truth is that he is a "nuisance" that you can't do away with. He can't be driven out of the house because he will still come back. It's so sad.

iamloyalty:


From ur foolish and wicked comments here is obvious ur parents failed in ur upbringing. May they not reap what they sowed from u

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

adontcare:
na mad man know who mad really

Temidayo9:

With the way you reacted here, it shows you also suffering from excessive drug intake. Watch yourself Couse you are already a product of failed home. Be careful

Fulcrum15:

That means u re mad!!! Bravo..

adontcare:
not true though. But d spiritual control d physical. Keep wailing in ignorance.

atoleybaba:
what bible portion says that?

Temidayo9:

With the way you reacted here, it shows you also suffering from excessive drug intake. Watch yourself Couse you are already a product of failed home. Be careful

adontcare:
Ephesians 6:12 for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers, against wickedness in high places.

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

adontcare:
Read this comment from a nairalander. And meditate on it.

1.I think a lot African parents ( mothers in particular), tend to treat their sons as mini-kings who can do no wrong in their eyes. This is where the culture of Male entitlement starts from; the upbringing. The boys grow up with a sense of superiority that somehow absolves them of certain responsibilities.

2. Staying in toxic relationships for the children. In many cases,the children end-up worse off psychologically ,than kids coming out of two healthy parents living separately.

3. The "if Kevin can do it ,you can do it too ".mentality. you have a lot of parents who see the neighbour's kid doing well selling bread ,& they start pushing their own children towards that trade or career without assisting them in what they are really good at so that they too can be a shining example in their own right. You see the results of this in many African markets ,everyone sells the samethings ,hardly will you find people who produce the products or selling something that is not readily available.

star4ever:


Our worry is that his situation has brought the family's name to disrepute going by his insane behavior. Otherwise, the family would have moved on since.