Norahsthought:
Hey guys, so a little background story. I'm 25, finished school quite early (schooled abroad), and got a good headstart. I am pretty comfortable, I have a good job with a great growth trajectory. So really, I'm focused on my career right now and not particularly interested in starting a family soon.

So here's the real story. I have two male friends who have shown interest in marrying me. They are both doing very well and from equally good backgrounds. I initially wasn't interested in marriage (at least for now) but you know friends and family. I am not in love with any of them or even with anyone at the moment (I am a woman of war lol) but they are both great guys.

So my challenge now that I have decided to be open to marriage is this, how do I choose? Should I even listen to the advice of friends and family to open up to getting married to one of these men or should I just wait till when I feel ready? I need advice and please be nice.

tyup:
listen to the advice of friends and family to open up to getting married to one of these men And also wait till when u feel ready

Do the two since you're confused

aylive02:
if I tell you to choose A, and your mind goes for B, you will definitely do what you wanted. follow your instincts

Norahsthought:
Well, my instincts are drained in everyone else's opinion right now. Ordinarily, I don't feel ready but you know the woman's clock thing..

Norahsthought:
Hey guys, so a little background story... I need advice and please be nice.

Norahsthought:
Hey guys, so a little background story. I'm 25, finished school quite early (schooled abroad), and got a good headstart. I am pretty comfortable, I have a good job with a great growth trajectory. So really, I'm focused on my career right now and not particularly interested in starting a family soon.

So here's the real story. I have two male friends who have shown interest in marrying me. They are both doing very well and from equally good backgrounds. I initially wasn't interested in marriage (at least for now) but you know friends and family. I am not in love with any of them or even with anyone at the moment (I am a woman of war lol) but they are both great guys.

So my challenge now that I have decided to be open to marriage is this, how do I choose? Should I even listen to the advice of friends and family to open up to getting married to one of these men or should I just wait till when I feel ready? I need advice and please be nice.

majamajic:
How can people u are not dating be telling u about marriage ? Ok me too want marry u

I don't understand

As in i just weak. This OP is ridiculously ridiculous

She better dey her dey, any marriage with either of them guys is a disaster waiting to happen, if you know, you know

majamajic:
How can people u are not dating be telling u about marriage ? Ok me too want marry u

I don't understand

Norahsthought:
Well, my instincts are drained in everyone else's opinion right now. Ordinarily, I don't feel ready but you know the woman's clock thing..

Romanoff:


Don't marry because your clock is ticking o.

Many women are singing songs of lamentation because of this grave mistake.

I believe you're not open to love or marriage for now so don't marry cause your friends and family are pressuring you or because two guys are available.

If you are really friends with these guys, you should be able to tell them how you feel if they can be patient with you till you know what you really want.

Any one who can't wait will tell you.

Kobicove:


Since they're both equals in almost all ramifications I would advise you choose the one you're most comfortable talking with

Crunchyg3:

My advise is marry who you love and don't marry anyone under pressure

rockstarB:
Try and be friends with both of them, that you're not particularly ready for marriage doesnt mean you dont have a vision of what you want your forever to be like. Marriage like any other venture is a risk, waiting till forever will not guarantee a happy ending either.
You should go for whoever's fills into that vision, someone that you can absolutely be yourself with. I wish you luck

Norahsthought:
I don't understand. How please?

BigTableShaker:
Whoever you choose, do not pick a Igbo.

rockstarB:

It is true. People hardly date in the olden days and they stay longer in marriages than we that date for years and yet nothing to show for it.
Some men come really clean. "I want to marry you" maybe because they've been doing some background check without the other persons knowledge, but it is real, tho not common again.

michlins:
Like you said, you are 25 and have great growth trajectory. Be open to making newer friends and since you didn't school around here, I advise you take your time.

Before they pressure you into anything, remember we will be here to advise you how best to go around a messy divorce.

Norahsthought:
Who/what is a Igbo dear?