abbey621:


Then my statement still holds true, she's not using her get out of jail card, unles the D is really explosive or her self esteem has hit rock bottom, no woman likes to be a punching bag and still be the breadwinner, na marry she marry she no kill person abeg!

Holamilekan97:


Ẹgbọn ẹ jhur, ẹ take ẹ easy abeg

enemyofprogress:
thank you jare. I ate people that are carwords like the op. He was there when the woman was bean beated but he didn't did anything to him and he camed here talking rubbish. It's very painful

Acidosis:
Endurance is a virtue. It's not necessarily bad.

I mean, we all endure some difficult situations in one area or the other.

Some endure a difficult boss, toxic work environment, difficult customers, etc. You have the option of leaving, don't you?

Women endure abuses in marriage for the same reasons Nigerians endure the Nigerian government. Buhari is bad, Atiku is corrupt, bla bla bla, but here we are, many have the option of leaving but hey, more than 150 million people are still here and none can revolt. Hypocrisy, isn't?

As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't want to get involve with someone without that virtue. It doesn't mean an abusive or toxic relationship is right.

Acidosis:
[s]Endurance is a virtue. It's not necessarily bad.

I mean, we all endure some difficult situations in one area or the other.

Some endure a difficult boss, toxic work environment, difficult customers, etc. You have the option of leaving, don't you?

Women endure abuses in marriage for the same reasons Nigerians endure the Nigerian government. Buhari is bad, Atiku is corrupt, bla bla bla, but here we are, many have the option of leaving but hey, more than 150 million people are still here and none can revolt. Hypocrisy, isn't?

As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't want to get involve with someone without that virtue. It doesn't mean an abusive or toxic relationship is right[/s].

Hathor5:



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y--5IlljO78

Acidosis:
Endurance is a virtue. It's not necessarily bad.

I mean, we all endure some difficult situations in one area or the other.

Some endure a difficult boss, toxic work environment, difficult customers, etc. You have the option of leaving, don't you?

Women endure abuses in marriage for the same reasons Nigerians endure the Nigerian government. Buhari is bad, Atiku is corrupt, bla bla bla, but here we are, many have the option of leaving but hey, more than 150 million people are still here and none can revolt. Hypocrisy, isn't?

As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't want to get involve with someone without that virtue. It doesn't mean an abusive or toxic relationship is right.

Acidosis:


Lol... What for? It's very easy to preach Check your life, you would see that you're enduring one hardship or the other. Most of the time, we can actually walk away but we choose to stay put anyway

Plead:


Your comparisons makes no sense. Imagine comparing domestic abuse to toxic bosses and work environment.

You obviously beat up your wife that’s why you posted that rubbish.

Acidosis:
What are you smoking ?

ibkayee:

Lol nah the question is what are YOU smoking?

Plead:


Your comparisons makes no sense. Imagine comparing domestic abuse to toxic bosses and work environment.

You obviously beat up your wife that’s why you posted that rubbish.

Acidosis:


Lol. I'm smoking TRUTH

bukatyne:



What is the difference between a toxic work environment and a toxic marriage?

ibkayee:

You aren’t to be honest, and it’s concerning lol, so many things wrong with what you wrote, for starters imagine putting domestic violence in the same boat as ‘difficult customers’...

Lol it is well

Acidosis:


I understand the concern. I'm not trying to justify domestic violence or abuse instead I've tried to answer the question: Why do Nigerian women endure abuses in marriage?

It is not a question of whether abuse in marriage is wrong or right. We all know it's wrong. But the knowledge hasn't changed the trend.

I'll still maintain that people endure abuses in marriage for many reasons that are related to the same reason we endure abuses at the workplace, family, nation, etc.

ibkayee:

I don’t think you were trying to justify it, and I get that this was your way of explaining the concept of endurance itself.

But the way you kind of threw it in with those other examples (which are also unfavourable situations in their own way) came across as you somewhat trivialising it, as well as the complexities of handling and leaving an abusive relationship.

bukatyne:




Tomorrow

Good morning

Acidosis:


Lol... What for? It's very easy to preach Check your life, you would see that you're enduring one hardship or the other. Most of the time, we can actually walk away but we choose to stay put anyway

Acidosis:


It wasn't intentional Abuse in any form is not something to be taken as a norm.

I had to throw in the meaning of endurance because I believe that not all forms of abuse in marriage must lead to outright separation.

Hathor5:


In my world endurance is sometimes a necessity not a virtue and I avoid hardship whenever I can. It is the most natural thing for every living being to avoid pain and seek happiness in one form or the other but many of us have been conditioned to accept pain in the name of culture, tradition or religion to our determinant and the benefit of others. Imagine an animal running into the claws of a predator and call it a virtue.

I believe that many people accept abuse because many people were raised in abusive homes. They are used and numbed to it.

ibkayee:

But OP said it's a continuous thing.

I recognize that there's a difference between say...a one off, atypical case in 10 years of a relationship vs being regularly abused. It will still be a heavy choice, but there's more room for giving someone the benefit of doubt in the first scenario than second in my opinion. I don't get the impression you were making much of a distinction between these types of scenarios, felt more like you didn't give it much thought and just threw it into the same basket. Anywho...nevermind sha lol

Acidosis:


Loool IBK it's always very difficult to disagree with you so I'll let this pass.

Acidosis:


Loool IBK it's always very difficult to disagree with you so I'll let this pass.

ibkayee:

Because I'm a massive sweetheart right

Hathor5:




When will the introduction take place?
Ibkayee, you will have to tweak some of his views a little bit but I think he is a sweetheart deep down.

ibkayee:

Because I'm a massive sweetheart right

Hathor5:




When will the introduction take place?
Ibkayee, you will have to tweak some of his views a little bit but I think he is a sweetheart deep down.