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Re: Marriage: Before And After by Saintly01(m): 8:48pm On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick:Hmmmmmm. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Liposure: 9:13pm On May 28, 2020 |
canDy4eva:lol. I like ur honesty. it is well |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by realtalk19: 9:24pm On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: Exactly how I feel too with relationships which is why I narrowed it down to enjoy the moments with my kids till I am emotionally stable and ready. Am here to learn. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by realtalk19: 9:25pm On May 28, 2020 |
Carchoice: Very true |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by coolhuster: 9:28pm On May 28, 2020 |
Ingriid: Very important |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Saintmary(f): 9:40pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:What!!!!! I thought you loved your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by coolhuster: 9:42pm On May 28, 2020 |
Carchoice: My brother, no one is making marriage look scary. It is easier said than done. Nobody ever planned to go into marriage to divorce. Everyone envisage a happy home but when things don't go as planned, if care is not taken, that's the END. So, it is not always about getting married to the wrong person or being the wrong person. I am a social worker, I have seen best of friends become worst enemies. Close pals to the family wondered why everything got so awkward early. If not for confidentiality purpose, I would narrate a recent case. In my agency, we have even concluded that it is not about the right people getting into marriage, it is about matured and prepared minds. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:01pm On May 28, 2020 |
coolhuster: Someone who is not matured and prepared is not right na. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:05pm On May 28, 2020 |
ibkayee: The person you quoted summarized it. For a marriage to fail means one or both of them are wrong. A wrong marriage partner doesn't mean a bad person; it means a bad fit. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together except they agree? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:07pm On May 28, 2020 |
Ingriid: What do you mean by 'be a man'.? |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:12pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: @bold: This is the major problem of modern marriages. By the time the spouses met, they are almost too set in their ways aka dry fish to infuse into themselves. Unfortunately, the advise today keeps telling young people to 'build their careers' before they think of getting married. It is a complete recipe for disaster. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:14pm On May 28, 2020 |
Dyt: Dyt, Your marriage is certainly how you and your spouse make of it. Once the right mindset of pleasing one another, selflessness and sacrificial love aka love (man) and submission (woman) is in place, the sky is just the stepping stone. Goodluck. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:17pm On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick: Add their kids to the mix. The kids need to be shown the efforts both parties are investing to the success of the marriage. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by ibkayee(f): 10:17pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne:I definitely agree that there can be couples who are just wrong for each other and I also don't think it necessarily means either of them are 'bad' I just meant that sometimes, without even hearing the intricate details about a marriage in question and why certain things a things are the way they are, I've found that some people automatically default to 'you were wrong for x, x was wrong for you'. I just feel that sometimes situations aren't always that black and white 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:34pm On May 28, 2020 |
unmask:Most people want children more than they want marriage. However, for an organized society, marriage is necessary for a two parent, child rearing. Not every child will have this for circumstances beyond their control but most children do and that’s good for society. I still think marriage is unnatural. Also, some societies have made marriages civil, there are benefits attached to being married. I guess it’s that society’s way of encouraging marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:36pm On May 28, 2020 |
Angelfrost:Yea, marriage is not a bed of roses but some DO have easy marriages. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:37pm On May 28, 2020 |
Asour:Exactly! |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 10:38pm On May 28, 2020 |
Saintmary: Lol. I love my husband, doesn't mean I love being married. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:39pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne:Not all marriages are contracted for procreation. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by CsRockefeller(m): 10:42pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Forgive me Mrs. You just confused. You need some time out. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by bukatyne(f): 10:42pm On May 28, 2020 |
liberalchick: How is your post a response to my comment? Anyways, I have a few cases where children want to marry a prototype of their parents without seeing the sacrifice they put in to make it work. Those that see it do not want to invest it in their future relationships. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:49pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne:Apologies, indeed, it had nothing do with your post. I am replying to multiple mentions at a time, so I am skim reading. I guess some spouses think this is the way to handle their marriage and it has worked for them. Kids are not always privy to the real deal of their parents’ marriage. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 10:50pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne: But our parents did not make sacrifices to send us to school just so that we will become dependent on others. Even back then, my parents would tell us girls to make sure we are self sufficient before getting married. He never entertained suitors for any of us untill we were through with school and working. If it worked out so well for them, they won't be dishing out such advice. The truth is that money empowers. A lot of the ill treatment women endure is because they dont have the financial capacity to stand on their own. Power corrupts. A man who has absolute financial control over his wife is very likely to abuse it. I think the men just need to learn to compromise more. 8 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 10:52pm On May 28, 2020 |
CsRockefeller: Why is it so hard for you people to understand that not everyone wants to answer MRS? Are you guys scared that you are becoming irrelevant? It's bound to happen anyway, sooner or later. So start getting used to it. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by CsRockefeller(m): 10:53pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2: Ok Uju. Go live your life. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 10:55pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne:Thank you Ibkayee. That person did not quote a failed marriage. While he would be right in a totally different context, it had nothing to with a post trying to be realistic about changes that might occur in a lifetime marriage. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 10:57pm On May 28, 2020 |
CsRockefeller: Thank you. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 10:59pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:Sometimes it's not money. It's just low self esteem imbibed by culture and religion. They abound everywhere. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by liberalchick(f): 11:01pm On May 28, 2020 |
bukatyne:Which would always be a good advise for women that want a career and a marriage. I wanted both and because I couldn’t secure my career before marriage, the first few years of my marriage were a bit challenging, in-spite of a very loving, liberal and understanding husband. A wife that isn’t whole can never bring 100% to a marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by Nobody: 11:26pm On May 28, 2020 |
UjuJoan2:Maybe you should bother about being the best wife you can be. |
Re: Marriage: Before And After by UjuJoan2: 11:43pm On May 28, 2020 |
Gaggi: You can paint it all you want, once a cheat always a cheat. You broke your wedding vows and you are dismissing it casually by claiming you 'explored'. Doesn't sound to me like you are worth anything as a husband. But I guess for some reason you think you deserve a 'virtuous' wife. 7 Likes |
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