Love is a wonderful, special feeling, it is addictive that is why heartbreak is usually a tough thing to deal with. Recovering from a breakup is quite similar to recovering from an addiction, it hurts so much and it sometimes takes days, weeks, months or even years to move on.

A breakup changes everything you have become acquainted or familiar with. You won’t be having those special moments anymore. Even though you were the one who initiated the break up, there are still going to be moments you miss your ex or feel pains depending on the circumstances surrounding the break up. If you’re the one who got jilted, you may have moments when you start questioning yourself: “What happened?”, “Is it my fault?”, “Maybe it was my fault…” Wallowing in self pity will not relieve the pain. Below are some recovery tips that would be helpful;

1. Talk to someone: A problem shared is a problem halved but make sure whoever you are sharing your burden with is someone trustworthy, you do not want your story all over the place because it might hinder the recovery process. Sharing your pain help you with a shoulder lean on and valuable advice that will help make you feel better in no time.

2. Feel the moment: Do not hide from the pain because it might haunt you, and it might take a longer time to move on. Face the reality that you are no longer with that person. Cry when you feel like crying, listen to sad love songs, hit wall or the bed, scream if you feel like. Don’t just hold anything back, unleash the bitter feeling. It is all part of the process, with time the pain will be gone.

3. Write down your thoughts and feelings: Writing is a good way to ease the pain. It’s just you, your paper and pen. Write everything bothering you down, write how you feel, put all your emotions on paper, write a letter to yourself, encourage yourself.

4. Know your story: Always remember everything, do not hide any memory or alter any memory to make you feel better. You knowing your story helps you prevents you from making the mistakes you made in the past in your future relationship. Know the things (baggage) you might want to drop and things you might want to keep.

5. Build yourself find a hobby: Find something positive to take your attention, use this period to reflect on yourself. Take that course you’ve always wanted to do, start that business you’ve always loved.

The Don’ts.

6. Do not hate your ex: Hate is a negative emotion and it should be avoided by all means. It breeds obsession and other negative emotions that would be detrimental to your recovery. Acknowledge that thing did not work out for you guys and move on.

7. Do not contact your ex: I’m not saying you should write them off, sometimes you might become friends with your ex this life is unpredictable. But when the break up is fresh try as much as possible not to contact them so that you won’t do things you will regret or slow down your recovery.

8. Do not go on a revenge mission or have a rebound partner: Dating should not be in your radar if you are still heartbroken. Sex won’t cure the pain and hurting innocent people just because they share the same sex with the person who broke your heart is really not a good option.

A break up is not the end of the world, it just the end of a chapter with someone. There are still a lot of lovely stories and many more beautiful chapters for can make.
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