dario078:


This is a worthless advice. Why do you advise a man to let other people steal his inheritance?

That's why we are suffering in Africa. We leave everything for God.

Poster, don't listen to this cowardly advise. Claim your rightful inheritance and do not be apologetic about it.

Except there is a will that clearly states that the properties is his. He never mentioned anywhere in his post that his late father left this and that to him.

So he should just go and claim the property because he is the first son, thank you...

Go and clear the things in that store and put them elsewhere.
Allow the burial happen and put a closure to that
I feel for your mom too
Sad how our people take advantage of bereavement

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

Best advice OP.

That is not possible na, u should be in control except u are not financially capable but inspite of it u should be very involved and informed

OnyemaB:


Why will he not fight for for father's properties is he not his father's next of kin? Can he fight for his uncle's properties when they die in future? Man your father's properties belongs to you by Law and traditionally not to your uncle's.

Do not listen to those telling you to let go! Your father's corpse belongs to you not your uncle's and you are the head in decision making concerning your father's burial, they're to complied by any decision you made, man up guy.

You can not go and detate to their children when and how to bury them when they die or share from their properties be wise.

it is not an easy decision when it comes to property especially when uncle are greedy and has waited all their life to consume their sibling inheritance. Tey can kill and maim and go spiritual to any length to secure food and money for their greedy stomach o. Becareful when you enter war with a frustrated greedy man. He can do and undo.

donbachi:
Go and transfer ur late father's corpse to another mortuary or u go back to that very mortuary u deposited his body,and warn them not to release his corpse to anybody,unless u come in person.as for the shop,buy another key and lock it.while u plan for his burial..do not give room to anger and exchange of words.

So if you lock the shop, you go sitdown for The front dey play ludo?

Foodqueen:
Leave the shop for them.

Whatever is not work for, never last for long. They will squander the money, and go poorer.

If they didn't tell u d date of the burial, don't ask just go there the day of the burial and act cool. Leave immediately after d burial.


Their life will never remain the same again.

God bless u for me. Best advice

[sup][/sup]

femmyapson:


You joined nairaland July 2018. And you have commented on NL for 210 times. And you are saying u don't usually comment What if you want to comment

Reason nah 210 is small since 2018 nawa for you oh

[quote author=Foodqueen post=90331776]Leave the shop for them.

Whatever is not work for, never last for long. They will squander the money, and go poorer.

If they didn't tell u d date of the burial, don't ask just go there the day of the burial and act cool. Leave immediately after d burial.


Their life will never remain the same again.[/quote

Their lives will become much worse than it presently is.
Anyone who takes a Fatherless or motherless person's inheritance will pay for it in so many ways that are not palatable.
@Ops, be very prayerful, God will see you through.

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

shun one's father's burial? You must have a bad upbringing.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Its simple, you are not regarded. Was your mum married to your dad? And what tribe if I may ask.? My candid opinion, sit a meeting with the elders if you have got the time and clear your doubts. But please, saying be careful is not my thing. Be a Though breed and be more conscious spiritually because wetin kill your papa fit start to hunt you if your uncle has an ulterior motive....

1. Play a fool, why u gather all Intel's necessary
2. Gather all the elders and Air your view
3. Before your dad's demise, was your uncle playing any vital responsibility for your family....?
4. May God give u the heart to bear his loss
5. Seek wisdom, nah self them take dey follow village people before the sand when go cover your dad go cover all of una

Ibime:


Only listen to this guy if the properties hold little value and cannot be sold.

If the properties are valuable, go to the funeral with Police Escort, and after the funeral, take physical possession of what your dad worked for to pass to his sons.

The advice just tire me.
In this age and time, he want the guy to be acting like a chicken over his father's properties.

SKINDOGGY:
[sup][/sup] Reason nah 210 is small since 2018 nawa for you oh

I joined july 2015 ..And its 369. And I am active..

Are your uncles Christians or not, do you have elders that they listen to or not. If yes, I advise you report the issue to either the church leadership or the community leaders or both.
Pls sustain the suppression of your anger throughout and be very careful with them.

Above all, be prayerful.

Your write up is not well articulated but,
Better don't listen to all those people telling you to be docile. Your uncle is watching your reaction and seriously hoping that you remain docile and not challenge him. Challenge him and make his greed know to whoever you can. Shame him asap if not you'll be on the losing side. It is your father that brought you to this world and what belongs to him legitimately is yours except it is a communal property.
Stand up for your right. He didn't hustle with your father

Are you an Igbo boy/man ?
If yes:
Rules

1. Never ever miss your fathers burial/funeral ceremony except for clear circumstance beyond your control
2. You must ask questions why you were not involved in decisions made
3. If you have access to documents, collect and hold on to them
4. If they request for money for ceremony, provide as you can, don't try to please anyone
5. Must keep your cool
6. Again, you must keep your cool, and none should perceive you as an enemy

Do this and they will respect you

Abeg go meet a real pastor to pray with you and your sisters because dem go soon end you like your papa.(I'm very sorry to say this).... They are all evil

femmyapson:

I joined july 2015 ..And its 369. And I am active..

E dy small nah

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Hmmm... It's obvious they planning on confisticating all your dads properties, what about your mom, does she has a say in this or they still feels you are still young...

Modified : 24yrs is old enough naw, as the Diopa you have every right to know what'd happening, you need to stand for what is right, but trade with caution, but first discuss the matter with them politely especially with the eldest, ask him the way forward so that u can have a clue of their plans for you and your siblings

Thank God you ask for advise ,your father is gone forever,if you don't want your uncle to kill you before your time,be ready to tolerate them for now,they shall expose themselves very soon. To deal with men successfully you must be ready to suffer long ..They don't mean well for you but be smarter than them in your response to their willful declaration of war. Pretend as if you are not offended and pray that God expose them ..if they have hands in your father's death you will soon know

SKINDOGGY:
E dy small nah

come and give me puppy bro

This is caused by lack of money. I pray for an upgrade in your financial status which will then give you a voice that will silence your wicked uncle.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

just be careful they may end up killing you, try to get all documents first

Never get into issues with this thing.

It does not end well.

Let it go. As long as you showed love to your father while alive, you have no business with the dead.

Let the dead bury their dead.

Asper property case, the lawyers and courts will be your best bet.

MPESA:


Due to your age and in final I will advice you to let them be and play along with them though they will certainly frustrates you and threatens you regarding aspects of properties .... You are not yet old enough to drag with them.... Calmly follow and play along with them like mumu and if you are the only son then you have to be extremely careful and always watch your back.
P.s
I believe you are from Ala-Igbo , this your uncle can't be trusted even if you are under 20 they supposed carry you along the burial arrangement BTW why can't you call your mother's people into this case.... Because las-las they will just sell one or two of your father properties and tell you na wetin they do the burial... Just be careful with them.

24yrs is old enough to assume leadership in absence of his dad naw

Even if he will, u will still tell him to leave it for them. One thing must kill someone...get your fathers property... report at police station...get the shop seal by the police till further notice.
They will call u and explain to u the reason y the shop is open then, maybe they contribute to the shop and the house.
Useless set of uncle's.

Mind u am not praying for u to die...but people die everyday, don't let someone scare u with that.

Even if he will, u will still tell him to leave it for them. One thing must kill someone...get your fathers property... report at police station...get the shop seal by the police till further notice.
They will call u and explain to u the reason y the shop is open then, maybe they contribute to the shop and the house.
Useless set of uncle's.

Mind u am not praying for u to die...but people die everyday, don't let someone scare u with that.

Stand your ground. This is your father and you, not your uncles, should deem it fight (by tradition) to fix the day of the burial. Supposing they take all of your dad's properties, will still keep quiet? Be a man and act like one.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

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just be prayerful

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

Aizen123
This is your best advise.
Please use it.
Your uncles and aunts are your father's siblings. They have some rights too...

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Whatever you do, let wisdom be the principal thing.
Be bold, yet humble in getting what is due you.

Ibime:


Only listen to this guy if the properties hold little value and cannot be sold.

If the properties are valuable, go to the funeral with Police Escort, and after the funeral, take physical possession of what your dad worked for to pass to his sons.

I'm sure you're still a kid. Probably a teenager and/or undergraduate...
Life will teach you lessons and experiences When you grow up...