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| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Blackmann001: 12:22pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
kurlz: Have you been married..? Or du u plan to break ppls home with ur ignorance.... Do you know marriage is a bare it all relationship...? How can you advice a woman to hide things fro. Husband ND only care about a child who is going to leave them only after 15years....are you ladies now this sick upstairs...? I pray God my path never cross with self centered, unloving hipocfites like u ND the op..... 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Keketu(m): 12:23pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso:hi please pm me thanks |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by demoBaba: 12:24pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
aeion: Please and please distance yourself from this advice. He didn't asked you for money, just to know your salary, I don't see bad thing here my able sister. You know we've been settling matters up and down since last week, please don't add your matter for us to settle. |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by fastseo: 12:24pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso:Madam please inform your husband your total financial status. He is your husband not a stranger. Even in ordinary relationship like boyfriends and girlfriend settings partners do talk about their financial status e.g estimate of what they earn etc. Please go home and tell your husband what you earn and so you both plan ahead with what he earns... He is your husband and the father to ur kids... The part you said next of kin who do you think he will chose as his next of kin? His brother or your children or kids? Madam don't use your hand and scatter your marriage.. Trust us necessary and the way you went about hiding your finance made him seize those cards and made those annoying statements. Please don't give devil a chance. Making him aware does not mean giving him access 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Justseyii: 12:24pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Is your husband not on nairaland  1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Nobody: 12:24pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso:We will like to hear his side of his story tho!! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by solok: 12:25pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
[quote author=UzorChinonso post=90357098]Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of. I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place.... But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ... I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is? He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment! What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin. please know and be reminded that next of kin is not same as beneficiary in the event of death intestate. \ |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by chatinent: 12:26pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
"Is this how marriage is?" Of course that is how he turns out for most people. |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by futuremoma34: 12:26pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso: Based on experience... Open another account, transfer all your savings into the new account.. Then always keep not less than 10k in the orda account he has your ATM... 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Blackmann001: 12:26pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
... I made a mistake of commenting on this thread... Never checked to see the wife is igbo........ All their ladies are rather after money than love... That's y drams in that side of the world in marriages are unending...... Nonsense lady! GOD forbid! |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Iceyjayz: 12:27pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso:Copy and paste |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Alamuro1(m): 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Did he not know your salary before you married him?if you love him there is nothing bad to open your salary issue to him, but he doesn't has any access to hold your ATM card. My advice to you, don't fight him |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by PHIPEX(m): 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
How do you daily share a bed and your body with someone you can't trust with your finances? Is your money worth more than your body? Both of you are heading for a very bumpy ride if you keep hiding your finances from each other. How exactly will both of you plan as a family if you dont know how much both of you have? Seizing your ATM is a first stage of crises escalation, if you dont resolves these 'secrets' you might not have a marriage in the near future. Both of you might just be co-habiting and bearing children. |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by solok: 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
please know and be reminded that next of kin is not same as beneficiary in case of death intestate......the former is close relation to be contacted in case of emergency while the latter is the beneficiary of estate (or specifically assigned portion of it) in event of death. |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by dangotesmummy: 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Another one about to hit the rock over emotional manipulation and sociopathic tendencies |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by twinskenny(m): 12:28pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso: sure there is love in this marriage |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by PremierGuy(m): 12:30pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Nothing wrong in your husband knowing about how much you earn. Let him know how much percentage of your salary you can contribute towards the household finance. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Nobody: 12:30pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
He's a thief. It's a pity u guys re married 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by vivalavida(m): 12:30pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Thryphosa(m): 12:31pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
I think it's not a big deal for you to let him know your earning, you guys are married for God sake, you shouldn't keep your earnings as secret. The only thing I know is that some women spend their money on frivolities, which we don't like. For instance, my wife bought an item we don't really need at this period and made it a surprise for me, I made her to understand, you don't spend anyhow in this coro period, besides that's not our priority for now. So sometimes, men need to advise our wives on prudent spending and the need to save. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by kurlz(f): 12:31pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Blackmann001: I bet you did not see the later part of my post hence you fly into conclusion. |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by PHIPEX(m): 12:32pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Blackmann001:You need to check yourself well. How many Igbo people have you met one on one? 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Harrytrentz(m): 12:33pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
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| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by NoToPile: 12:33pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Having the info about how much you earn might not even be the issue. Seizing ATM card by force and demanding for the pin is the real problem. Na wa. What kind of marriages are we having nowadays |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by wasi9ice: 12:34pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
What is wrong if your husband ask about your finances, don't you know his?? This may be bitter, when a man or wan marries you, He or She marries you and your properties which includes your so called finances,, In Christianity, a woman should submit to his wife in all things and a man should love his wife as Christ loves the Church Any woman who isn't ready to submit to his husband should still remain single and any man who is not ready to love his wife as Christ love the church, should pls reamin single Marriage entails sacrifice, trust and love Pls take note |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Aunty,You want to just be a setback to the man.So it's a crime for your husband to know your earnings but you know his.Madam you were not ready for marriage. U go be very stingy woman before now. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by iyepe(m): 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
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| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by bmdmixer: 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
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| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by zero911: 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
StubbornGENIUS: That's how they run their forum to keep it interesting and engage users otherwise front page would be boring. Most accounts you see here is run by them, they create and backdate the accounts to convince people. They create topics and push their own topics to front page to engage users. They work in group. Its not a bad thing anyway because even radio/TV stations do it sometimes, most blog also do it. I no mention names o Goodluck. GentRoyal = Aududunine11 = bunnae = crownedrookie = moreb2cum = ?? What lol |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by nuggarito: 12:36pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
the story is of mischief, a man won't just ask of your financial status if you aren't contributing anything to the family. perhaps you are the type that just lurk around without contributing any dime yet you are working, my elder sister and husband were lecturers they divide their finances, the woman takes care of feeding, the man takes care of rent and fees. it seems your money is not going anywhere in your family. my advice for you is never reveal your salary pay to your husband but rather share in responsibility, that way he won't have to complain and the burden on his shoulders will reduce. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Vyzz: 12:36pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
UzorChinonso: Open another account, transfer 80% to 90% of ur money there. Then sweetly tell him the pin 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Wants To Know Everything About My Finances. by Talkingoil(m): 12:37pm On Jun 06, 2020 |
Lexusgs430: This is a good question she needs to answer 1 Like |
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