Scholar94:
Let me simply advise u on how u can help him. It is as simple as giving him a topic u will like to discuss with him prior to the day u guys are gonna meet. Of course, u will have to do that with maturity. I use this trick to carry any lady I found interesting to talk but who might not share similar interests with me or perhaps are not that current. Trust me he will do anything to make sure he holds his points before u guys meet if truly he's into you.

U can follow this format;

ME: (just in d middle of discussion), This incident of George Floyd really hit me. I can't still stop thinking about it he lost his life just like that

SHE: George Floyd?? Who is he?

Me: he is an African American murdered recently in Minneapolis in USA by a USA police officer. He was accused of spending fake $20 at a grocery store. Americans and their racism!! I'm sure the guy was murdered because he's black

Her: (crying emogy)...

Me: I'm even thinking we talk about this when next time we meet.

This might look like ya forcing thing. But really to me, it is not. We are simply bringing out the best in each other. It is almost impossible to find a partner that will fit into all u want. U will have to build the castle yourself!

truthsayer009:


It depends oh, gods get levels.

jansonn:

Seriously, you send them messages and they just answer with "OK" I dont even get self!! I go just delete the number give myself peace of mind jare, youre not eternal life oo

Ejiod:
4 things in relationship I can’t do: 1. Date an undergraduate 2. Date someone not smart 3. Date someone who knows no shit about computer. 4. Date broke gal

Salem17:

If u don't mind me asking sir,why won't u date an undergraduate ?

Sadteen:

I like your moniker. Eye catchy lol. Did you jam this billions suddenly true true? If yes, Abeg bless your boy, if no, when you eventually jam am, still bless your boy..

smiliyB:
Huh Nah Nah!! Hahahahahahaha I may accept to be your friend but not as gf ooo You're right about the reality part, it's nice you have learn to live with it but for someone like me, I haven't oo
I simply avoid it, if not it may interfer with my right frame of mind and I don't want that.

Kfed4ril:


I swear I totally relate, I’ve meet a lot of dumb girls on Twitter who claim sapiosexual, but when I engage them in conversation the outcome usually is a turnoff for me.
See we have very few girls in Nigeria who can hold an intelligent conversation apart from Instagram, make up and celebrity gist. Very few.

Caseless:
we're now friends and i will teach you 'how-to'.

Ejiod:

1. You are always trying to come down to her level since you are way ahead of her
2. Poor communication as you two are of different times/age
3. They mostly feel entitled and if not convert you to assistant daddy
4. 90% of them are damn immature.

Faysuze:


You are so correct, perfect description of my ex. He even told me there is nothing to talk about. As big as this world is, there is not a single thing to talk about? I gave up

lanibi:
hmmmmm
Pray tell
What is it about Melania Trump and Michelle Obama? I'm curious about your comparison.


BTW, you seem intelligent. I like that.

bukxy:
u are always anxious to knw more about michell obama....
i observed dat though

lanibi:
Yes, you're right. Actually, someone always refer to me as M.O without giving reasons no matter how much I pester him to.

Ariza:
When I said most Nigerian relationships are baseless, meaningless and lifeless some folks thought I was exaggerating. Truth is most only want what's made, no one is ready to help another grow. They study one another for few months and leave when they find out little shortcomings about the partner with the mind of finding the perfect one elsewhere. They don't know what commitment, sacrifice, growing together, Compromise or friendship is. They only exhibit compromise when they are old with little or no choice.
No time to study or get to know who their partner is but they are very quick to ruffle the sheets and bill.

I'm an introvert ,a shy one at that but when I want to come out of my shell and talk. The only thing that would stop you from shutting me up is that you may never get to hear those beautiful words again. In relationship I talk and play but listen more. Do I then break up because I find my man a talkative? That's where understanding comes in. Understanding and accepting difference that complement your relationship. So far he isn't saying nonsense, I listen.

This thing isn't really a hard thing, find what attracts him , get knowledgeable about it and create communication with time introduce him to your interest and everything will be fine. It's just that people are mostly too self-centered to always put themselves first.

iBubbler:
Cynosuree darling, I totally sympathize with you. Anyone who doesn’t didn't or can not see your use (and command) of English as a pointer to the fact that you are not any man’s average everyday girl.
And guess what? I’m totally in a bind on this one. I can’t think of anything, for the life of me, how to deal with this.
Perhaps, you could send him a link and jocularly say you want to discuss the issue later that day so he’d do well to read up on it. Else, no prize (whatever he likes).
Good luck girl. I feel you deeply.

cynosuree:
Good morning. This issue has been bothering me for a long time, and I feel like it's too sensitive to ask for second opinions from people I know so I figured I'd maybe ask some strangers on the internet.

I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he's everything I ever wanted in a man. Physically, he's gorgeous, and he also loves me alot. He's kind, he's patient, communicates effectively and all. You know, all the good stuff.

But here's the problem, he cannot hold a conversation beyond "what are you doing" , "what did you eat" (and all that boring stuff) to save his life. I'm not even talking about intellectual conversations like quantum theory or anything, normal conversations about stuff that's happening around the world or around us. Anytime we try to, it usually fails spectacularly. He either ends up missing the ENTIRE point and saying something totally unrelated, or he just waits for me to say what I think so he can go "Yeeaaaa that's true" , leaving me really pissed.


He has absolutely NOTHING intelligent to contribute to any serious conversation, and this hurts me alot because it is a HUGE turn off and I'm slowly losing interest in him. It's a very tricky situation because he does/did well academically, he graduated with very good grades but that's about it...nothing more. I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

The latter option is what I've been doing and it's gradually killing me. I fear that I'll fall out of love completely with him and end up hating myself for ruining a good thing, because he's a really good guy .

I'd like to know what you think

If you want someone to talk quantum theory and mechanics, get a nerd. Your boyfriend is clearly not the chatterbox.

IMO, he's the definition of a "real man" - talk less, act more.

Nbote:
If he was smart enough to make U fall in luv with him den he's smart enough to b ur boyfriend.. Thing is U've found someone much more sociable dan he is and U are now beginning to see flaws.. If U have lost interest in the relationship jus waka pass and leave d young man alone

Snipespeter:
This life self, you try to hold a meaningful conversation with your girlfriend she will say that you are claiming you know it all.
You keep quiet for peace to reign, they say you are not smart. I tire oh

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