Hi, greetings to everyone.

Please I need advice. Before now, I was sexually active. While growing up, I started having sex when I was 14yrs, I use to enjoy sex a lot with guys but suddenly when I became an adult, I noticed I stopped enjoying sex with guys. I noticed I was craving for a woman, at this point, I haven’t had sex with any girl yet (I was 19yrs).

So I decided to have sex with a girl so that all the craziness can stop because I know my mother will kill if she find out what am thinking (my mother and I are very close). But honestly, it become worse, I literally turned to lesbian sex addict. I had sex with any girl that showed interest on me, I even had sex with most of my friends ( I will indirectly lure them with nice things)

I know this is very wrong but I couldn’t tell anyone my problem not even my mom because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings! I decided to go to church and seek for deliverance, after delivery, it will feel like I’m healed but throughout that period, I will not be my normal self. I will be so lonely and depressed and before you know it, I will commit another sin.

I tried to get a man and fall in love with him but it didn’t go well because I couldn’t satisfy him sexually, I have gone to every church I can for deliverance and I have taken doctor’s prescription to boost my sexual libido but to no avail.

The only time I can have normal sex with a guy and enjoy it is when I’m on drugs.

I really hate myself and I have lost interest in having sex with everyone both men and women.

I don’t know how to improve my situation please help me.

I’m very scared of disappointing my mother! She means the world to me.

A little about myself.

I’m done with school and waiting for NYSC, would have been serving if not for covid 19.

I’m 26yrs old

I’m currently learning software engineering!

This 1 pass my matter

I have nothing to saying this, maybe the op below has an important point

how i am reading what you wrote

At 14 to 19, it’s unfortunate that you have been having sex, I wonder if you were raped at 14 or it was consensual. Anyway, it’s a good thing you have presently lost interest, since you are still young, face your studies, move closer to God, and make sure you are very hardworking, focus on building a career & forget about men or women in relation to sex for now, after you have become something or someone meaningful in life I believe your libido would have improved with time, if not, come back to this platform, that would be the right time for us to advice you. Anyone advising you on sex now isn’t helping but leading you to destruction. May God assist you to heed........ A word

Women are one kind of creature . The truth Is most women can be attracted to each other , most of them are bisexual at least by heart which is rare among men. Any men that's a gay self should be stoned.

Now back to you, always be around guys , have guys as your best friends and bestie, with time, you'll be used to guys and might eventually fall in love with one.

Just come out with it that you're a lez and stop the long story.

It's no different that you enjoy sex with girls but doesn't with guys

You are a lesbian case closed.

Next

Mayng01:
At 14 to 19, it’s unfortunate that you have been having sex, I wonder if you were raped at 14 or it was consensual. Anyway, it’s a good thing you have presently lost interest, since you are still young, face your studies, move closer to God, and make sure you are very hardworking, focus on building a career & forget about men or women in relation to sex for now, after you have become something or someone meaningful in life I believe your libido would have improved with time, if not, come back to this platform, that would be the right time for us to advice you. Anyone advising you on sex now isn’t helping but leading you to destruction. May God assist you to heed........ A word

Thanks so much for your time and effort!
I just modified my post after reading your comment, I realized that I didn’t include my age.
I’m actually 26yrs old now and I’m done with my first degree.

Shit.

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Alionamarshall:
Hi, greetings to everyone.

Please I need advice. Before now, I was sexually active. While growing up, I started having sex when I was 14yrs, I use to enjoy sex a lot with guys but suddenly when I became an adult, I noticed I stopped enjoying sex with guys. I noticed I was craving for a woman, at this point, I haven’t had sex with any girl yet (I was 19yrs).

So I decided to have sex with a girl so that all the craziness can stop because I know my mother will kill if she find out what am thinking (my mother and I are very close). But honestly, it become worse, I literally turned to lesbian sex addict. I had sex with any girl that showed interest on me, I even had sex with most of my friends ( I will indirectly lure them with nice things)

I know this is very wrong but I couldn’t tell anyone my problem not even my mom because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings! I decided to go to church and seek for deliverance, after delivery, it will feel like I’m healed but throughout that period, I will not be my normal self. I will be so lonely and depressed and before you know it, I will commit another sin.

I tried to get a man and fall in love with him but it didn’t go well because I couldn’t satisfy him sexually, I have gone to every church I can for deliverance and I have taken doctor’s prescription to boost my sexual libido but to no avail.

The only time I can have normal sex with a guy and enjoy it is when I’m on drugs.

I really hate myself and I have lost interest in having sex with everyone both men and women.

I don’t know how to improve my situation please help me.

I’m very scared of disappointing my mother! She means the world to me.

A little about myself.

I’m done with school and waiting for NYSC, would have been serving if not for covid 19.

I’m 26yrs old

I’m currently learning software engineering!

I believe you can change to who you desire to be, if you truly desire.

Alionamarshall:


Thanks so much for your time and effort!
I just modified my post after reading your comment, I realized that I didn’t include my age.
I’m actually 26yrs old now and I’m done with my first degree.

Okay, i see, well, you are truly no longer a kid and I will therefore suggest for you a sex education and counseling, & that is where l see you benefiting from a treatment approach which will be aimed at the causes behind your condition, & recommendation may include sex education, counseling, medication or hormone therapy. Therefore, l recommend you talk to a sex therapist, or counselor skilled in addressing sexual concerns cos a doctor may want to review the medications you have been taking to see if any of them tend to cause sexual side effects. Along with counseling, your doctor may prescribe medication to boost your libido ( Food and drug administration) Good luck.

Do you know why God commanded Adam and Eve not to eat of the fruit that gives knowledge of what is good and evil?

Because as humans with such knowledge, the tendency to do evil will outweigh good. God is Holy and pure and as such cannot be corrupted.

Then the Lord God said, Now the man has become like one of us ( The Father, Son and Holy Spirit) and has knowledge of what is good and what is bad.

Like the biblical King Solomon, you've experimented with sex both male and female and you've come to the realisation that sex is vanity of all vanities hence, this Ecclesiastes.

Economists call it the "law of diminishing returns". You're at the level of dis-utility.


What you need to do now is to look for a good bible believing church where you'll be exorcised of the demonic spirit of insatiable lust for sex and the spirit of lesbianism.

It's going to be a process and a battle but with faith in Christ you shall come out victorious.

leksite120:
Women are one kind of creature . The truth Is most women can be attracted to each other , most of them are bisexual at least by heart which is rare among men. Any men that's a gay self should be stoned.

Now back to you, always be around guys , have guys as your best friends and bestie, with time, you'll be used to guys and might eventually fall in love with one.

Wow really? Please do more research before coming here to spew rubbish and give women a pass for everything.

Alionamarshall:
Hi, greetings to everyone.

Please I need advice. Before now, I was sexually active. While growing up, I started having sex when I was 14yrs, I use to enjoy sex a lot with guys but suddenly when I became an adult, I noticed I stopped enjoying sex with guys. I noticed I was craving for a woman, at this point, I haven’t had sex with any girl yet (I was 19yrs).

So I decided to have sex with a girl so that all the craziness can stop because I know my mother will kill if she find out what am thinking (my mother and I are very close). But honestly, it become worse, I literally turned to lesbian sex addict. I had sex with any girl that showed interest on me, I even had sex with most of my friends ( I will indirectly lure them with nice things)

I know this is very wrong but I couldn’t tell anyone my problem not even my mom because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings! I decided to go to church and seek for deliverance, after delivery, it will feel like I’m healed but throughout that period, I will not be my normal self. I will be so lonely and depressed and before you know it, I will commit another sin.

I tried to get a man and fall in love with him but it didn’t go well because I couldn’t satisfy him sexually, I have gone to every church I can for deliverance and I have taken doctor’s prescription to boost my sexual libido but to no avail.

The only time I can have normal sex with a guy and enjoy it is when I’m on drugs.

I really hate myself and I have lost interest in having sex with everyone both men and women.

I don’t know how to improve my situation please help me.

I’m very scared of disappointing my mother! She means the world to me.

A little about myself.

I’m done with school and waiting for NYSC, would have been serving if not for covid 19.

I’m 26yrs old

I’m currently learning software engineering!

It is ok to lose interest in sex. Take this time to concentrate on your I.T skills and other career stuff. Don't worry about sex. The urge will return when you focus on other things. As for the usuage of drugs, it is a no no pls

there's a simple reason for dz:
u haven't had a good dick!

Ehn. Started having sex at the age of 14. O lo far ooo,

call me let me wake up ur interest, lost interest ke, when ur clit is growing, ur interest in sex as a woman dies at 65.

Watch porn b4 hving sex . It works , ur libido will cm back to normal. Watch porn often .

Noel19:
Do you know why God commanded Adam and Eve not to eat of the fruit that gives knowledge of what is good and evil?

Because as humans with such knowledge, the tendency to do evil will outweigh good. God is Holy and pure and as such cannot be corrupted.

Then the Lord God said, Now the man has become like one of us ( The Father, Son and Holy Spirit) and has knowledge of what is good and what is bad.

Like the biblical King Solomon, you've experimented with sex both male and female and you've come to the realisation that sex is vanity of all vanities hence, this Ecclesiastes.

Economists call it the "law of diminishing returns". You're at the level of dis-utility.


What you need to do now is to look for a good bible believing church where you'll be exorcised of the demonic spirit of insatiable lust for sex and the spirit of lesbianism.

It's going to be a process and a battle but with faith in Christ you shall come out victorious.

, i think I get ur points better now , but it’s not about vanity abeg . It’s just her body.
I am not a biblical person , so it’s not about the Bible . But I think u are right in the few first paragraph.. I hv been attracted to some women , but I hv vowed never to hv lesbian sex . Cause as soon as u do it ones u see nothing in it again , a friend of mine who smokes weed , has promised herself never to go above weed cause as soon as u take something higher even ones u won’t see the big deal again , same with myself I hv chosen not to smoke weed , cause I know if I try it , I won’t see a problem with it again . That’s how life it . It’s not a biblical thing .

Liliantalks:
I am not a biblical person , so it’s not about the Bible . But I think u are right in the few first paragraph.. I hv been attracted to some women , but I hv vowed never to hv lesbian sex . Cause as soon as u do it ones u see nothing in it again , a friend of mine who smokes weed , has promised herself never to go above weed cause as soon as u take something higher even ones u won’t see the big deal again , same with myself I hv chosen not to smoke weed , cause I know if I try it , I won’t see a problem with it again . That’s how life it . It’s not a biblical thing .

My dear it's spiritual and biblical. If you read my comment you'll understand that as mere humans the tendency to do evil will always outweigh good. We commit sin everyday not just by actions but in our thought, heart what we say and what we fail to do.

God created us in his image and likeness and as such, commanded Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree that bears knowledge of what is good and evil but they disobeyed and thus died spiritually and subsequently physically.

Sinful habits are very addictive and destructive. When you pick one, before you know it, you progress to another stage.

When you read the book of Ecclesiastes, you'll find all the answers to these sinful habits. King Solomon experimented with sex, alcohol, drugs, and materialism just to mention but a few all in a bid to find satisfaction but he ended up self destruct and thus, the phrase "Vanity upon Vanities".

Don't indulge even when there's peer pressure. Eschew bad friends and keep them at arms length.

Many a people say " Curiosity brings satisfaction" but I say "Curiosity killed the cat".

Noel19:


My dear it's spiritual and biblical. If you read my comment you'll understand that as mere humans the tendency to do evil will always outweigh good. We commit sin everyday not just by actions but in our thought, heart what we say and what we fail to do.

God created us in his image and likeness and as such, commanded Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree that bears knowledge of what is good and evil but they disobeyed and thus died spiritually and subsequently physically.

Sinful habits are very addictive and destructive. When you pick one, before you know it, you progress to another stage.

When you read the book of Ecclesiastes, you'll find all the answers to these sinful habits. King Solomon experimented with sex, alcohol, drugs, and materialism just to mention but a few all in a bid to find satisfaction but he ended up self destruct and thus, the phrase "Vanity upon Vanities".

Don't indulge even when there's peer pressure. Eschew bad friends and keep them at arms length.

Many a people say " Curiosity brings satisfaction" but I say "Curiosity killed the cat".

I understand ur point anyways .

Liliantalks:
I understand ur point anyways .

Nice one

Alionamarshall:
Hi, greetings to everyone.

Please I need advice. Before now, I was sexually active. While growing up, I started having sex when I was 14yrs, I use to enjoy sex a lot with guys but suddenly when I became an adult, I noticed I stopped enjoying sex with guys. I noticed I was craving for a woman, at this point, I haven’t had sex with any girl yet (I was 19yrs).

So I decided to have sex with a girl so that all the craziness can stop because I know my mother will kill if she find out what am thinking (my mother and I are very close). But honestly, it become worse, I literally turned to lesbian sex addict. I had sex with any girl that showed interest on me, I even had sex with most of my friends ( I will indirectly lure them with nice things)

I know this is very wrong but I couldn’t tell anyone my problem not even my mom because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings! I decided to go to church and seek for deliverance, after delivery, it will feel like I’m healed but throughout that period, I will not be my normal self. I will be so lonely and depressed and before you know it, I will commit another sin.

I tried to get a man and fall in love with him but it didn’t go well because I couldn’t satisfy him sexually, I have gone to every church I can for deliverance and I have taken doctor’s prescription to boost my sexual libido but to no avail.

The only time I can have normal sex with a guy and enjoy it is when I’m on drugs.

I really hate myself and I have lost interest in having sex with everyone both men and women.

I don’t know how to improve my situation please help me.

I’m very scared of disappointing my mother! She means the world to me.

A little about myself.

I’m done with school and waiting for NYSC, would have been serving if not for covid 19.

I’m 26yrs old

I’m currently learning software engineering!

Two things are very evident in your case.
First is the act of lesbianism
Secondly, drug addiction.

Again, from the tone of your write up, it seems you have a relatively good family up-bringing, Atleast you recognize the fact that your mum wouldnt be proud of you in these acts.

My observations : it's very obvious, that your bad company has negatively affected you. Your bad company includes, the friends you keep, the type of books you read, the movies you watch and surely some concepts/idealogies you consider trendy are hunting you.

Drug addiction is a sign of emptiness and depression. Clearly, something is missing somewhere and probably, you can't lay hold of it.

For me you earnestly need to get back to you root. Change your ideology, friends, books and videos, especially now you have opportunity during your Nysc. You can be better or worse. It depends on you.

You're just one step away from becoming a full blown lesbian

Why would you hv sex with a girl when you are a girl?..

Just keep praying in faith and abstain from sex till when you are married.

hylyne:


Two things are very evident in your case.
First is the act of lesbianism
Secondly, drug addiction.

Again, from the tone of your write up, it seems you have a relatively good family up-bringing, Atleast you recognize the fact that your mum wouldnt be proud of you in these acts.

My observations : it's very obvious, that your bad company has negatively affected you. Your bad company includes, the friends you keep, the type of books you read, the movies you watch and surely some concepts/idealogies you consider trendy are hunting you.

Drug addiction is a sign of emptiness and depression. Clearly, something is missing somewhere and probably, you can't lay hold of it.

For me you earnestly need to get back to you root. Change your ideology, friends, books and videos, especially now you have opportunity during your Nysc. You can be better or worse. It depends on you.

please not everyone who take drugs is an addict . U all need to be more informed and stop jumping into conclusions trying to act holy or adviser . Taking drug is wrong and addictive, she said takes drugs when she wants to enjoy sex with guys . Why label her an addict ?