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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Hathor5(f): 10:51pm On Jun 18, 2020
Mariangeles:


I believe there are, and it is nothing to lie about.

For some reason men are not allowed to love and hurt deeply. undecided
If we say they still do, we become enemy no. 1.
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by pocohantas(f): 10:51pm On Jun 18, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.... Hahahahahaha.You are very funny.Did I say I was doing the do?

Na joke I dey joke ooo.

I no care o. I no like EX matter at all, especially when people are in relationships with another person.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by pocohantas(f): 10:54pm On Jun 18, 2020
anslem04:


Just to justify your attack on roman you had to spew nonsense from ur confuse state of mind, shouldnt. two contradictory statements n if i hear figurative ..


Zero sense... grin

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by armyofone(m): 10:57pm On Jun 18, 2020
After the break up, just say bye Felixia grin
He kept/keeps your contact because you are taking his calls.
Maybe to circle back
Maybe for mischief

Mariangeles:
My people, this might seem like a funny question but I genuinely want to know; Do men purposely keep contacts of women they've had close relationship with?
Like, do men, one way or the other, keep "a collection of exs"? If yes, what is the reason behind it?
I asked someone and he was just going round in circles grin which led me to believe that it might be true cheesy
I need honest answers and no insults please embarassed
Let's try to keep it civil, while having fun
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 11:00pm On Jun 18, 2020
pocohantas:


I no care o. I no like EX matter at all, especially when people are in relationships with another person.
...I understand but the my problem is that as the next king to be in my village. They asked me to get a second wife before I will be crowned.

What do I do?
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Mariangeles: 11:04pm On Jun 18, 2020
Hathor5:


For some reason men are not allowed to love and hurt deeply. undecided
If we say they still do, we become enemy no. 1.

I don't get it... undecided
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Ishilove: 11:08pm On Jun 18, 2020
My ex still keeps mine. Nigga can't get over me after almost 8 years. We're still tight

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Hathor5(f): 11:08pm On Jun 18, 2020
Mariangeles:


I don't get it... undecided

It was easy for you to admit that some ladies can't get over their ex but some guys here are trying hard to deny that the same thing could happen to a man.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 11:11pm On Jun 18, 2020
Ishilove:
My ex still keeps mine. Nigga can't get over me after almost 8 years. We're still tight
Hope he has seen your parents & proposed marriage, so you can be sure he's damn serious about not getting over you after 8 years? grin

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by joseph1832(m): 11:14pm On Jun 18, 2020
Mariangeles:
My people, this might seem like a funny question but I genuinely want to know; Do men purposely keep contacts of women they've had close relationship with?
Like, do men, one way or the other, keep "a collection of exs"? If yes, what is the reason behind it?
I asked someone and he was just going round in circles grin which led me to believe that it might be true cheesy
I need honest answers and no insults please embarassed
Let's try to keep it civil, while having fun
some do and some don't. It doesn't necessarily mean 'all men keep contact of their exes'.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Ishilove: 11:15pm On Jun 18, 2020
Romangalactic:

Hope he has seen your parents & proposed marriage, so you can be sure he's damn serious about not getting over you after 8 years? grin
He's not available. We are two parallel lines.
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 11:19pm On Jun 18, 2020
Ishilove:

He's not available. We are two parallel lines.
He's not available, meaning he's in a relationship or marriage with another woman?

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Hathor5(f): 11:21pm On Jun 18, 2020
And the troll keeps trolling with his alternate masking himself with fake stories.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Ishilove: 11:22pm On Jun 18, 2020
Romangalactic:

He's not available, meaning he's in a relationship or marriage with another woman?
Not really. It's a looooong story and ancient history I'm not willing to revisit.
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 11:49pm On Jun 18, 2020
Ishilove:

Not really. It's a looooong story and ancient history I'm not willing to revisit.
Ok then, I respect that
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Mryacks(m): 11:50pm On Jun 18, 2020
Mariangeles:
My people, this might seem like a funny question but I genuinely want to know; Do men purposely keep contacts of women they've had close relationship with?
Like, do men, one way or the other, keep "a collection of exs"? If yes, what is the reason behind it?
I asked someone and he was just going round in circles grin which led me to believe that it might be true cheesy
I need honest answers and no insults please embarassed
Let's try to keep it civil, while having fun

Some do....some don't.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Mariangeles: 12:23am On Jun 19, 2020
Hathor5:


It was easy for you to admit that some ladies can't get over their ex but some guys here are trying hard to deny that the same thing could happen to a man.

I got you the first time.
What I meant initially was I don't get why they do that.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Jezking(m): 6:02am On Jun 19, 2020
Mariangeles:
My people, this might seem like a funny question but I genuinely want to know; Do men purposely keep contacts of women they've had close relationship with?
Like, do men, one way or the other, keep "a collection of exs"? If yes, what is the reason behind it?
I asked someone and he was just going round in circles grin which led me to believe that it might be true cheesy
I need honest answers and no insults please embarassed
Let's try to keep it civil, while having fun

Lol, really funny question. Now I think about it, I actually don't know why.

Maybe in case feelings come popping up out of the blues. For the record, I've never gone back to an ex.

Once I break up there is no going back. Thats why I like to talk things thru and reason with my partner as much as possible, until there is no longer hope for saving the relationship.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Nobody: 8:18am On Jun 19, 2020
pocohantas:
[s][/s]

Zero sense... grin



howfar with your boss as he stops doubting your CV, smiley #smh
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by lilyheaven: 11:40am On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:

Please don't believe those tales, I'm helping you out free of charge for the culture, though I'm seriously breaking the bro code. angry
Any ex who is not over you and wants you back should say it with an engagement ring. grin
Engagement ring?
What if both are married already?

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Nobody: 11:56am On Jun 19, 2020
I have one on my case right now. He got married to another lady after insisting that his mum wouldn't want him to marry from my town.
Long story short, oga kept coming back after marriage, I knew it doesnt make sense so I blocked him on WhatsApp and deleted his number.
Oga opened a telegram account because of me and hes been keeping in touch, asking that we see and all of that. I remember when I haven't blocked him then, he called me and I was like "where is your wife, is she not there that you're calling this time?" He said shes there, she cannot stop him from calling bla bla and I felt insulted on behalf of the woman.
It doesnt quite make sense that a married man or woman is still not over an ex, that is unfair on your patner.
This isnt about him wanting to get into my pants, for some it is very real. You love an ex but you're with someone else because of circumstances. Eg genotype incompatibility, religious differences, parents objections etc.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 12:01pm On Jun 19, 2020
lilyheaven:

Engagement ring?
What if both are married already?

The one who desperately wants to get back with an ex so badly should divorce who they're married to since they're not happy in that marriage, this shows seriousness.
Talk is cheap

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by lilyheaven: 12:43pm On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:

The one who desperately wants to get back so badly should divorce who they're married to since they're not happy in that marriage, this shows seriousness.
Talk is cheap
This is a very strong decision to make.

I read a chat on my husband WhatsApp, between him and his ex, the lady was lamenting how she can't get over him, she still loves him, bla bla, my husband only sent a smiley face to her.
Next morning, I gathered courage to ask him what about it, he said long story ooo.
They were in so much love, the babe became pregnant, they aborted it, second pregnancy came, he decided to marry her, but her mother said over her dead body would her daughter marry a son of nobody.
She had a suitor at china , that has been throwing enough cash for the family.
Her mama practically took her to remove the pregnancy. He felt bad and humiliated that she couldn't fight for what they believed .
She got married to her China based suitor.


I asked him why he didn't reply her back, he started laughing, that I like gist too much. That she is married already, and there was nothing to love about her again.

In this scenario, that the lady is still loving, is she expected to divorce her husband?

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 1:01pm On Jun 19, 2020
lilyheaven:

This is a very strong decision to make.

I read a chat on my husband WhatsApp, between him and his ex, the lady was lamenting how she can't get over him, she still loves him, bla bla, my husband only sent a smiley face to her.
Next morning, I gathered courage to ask him what about it, he said long story ooo.
They were in so much love, the babe became pregnant, they aborted it, second pregnancy came, he decided to marry her, but her mother said over her died body would her daughter marry a son of nobody.
She had a suitor at china , that has been throwing enough cash for the U.K. family.
Her mama practically took her to remove the pregnancy. He felt bad and humiliated that she couldn't fight for what they believed .
She got married to her China based suitor.

I asked him why he didn't reply her back, he started laughing, that I like gist too much. That she is married already, and there was nothing to love about her again.

In this scenario, that the lady is still loving, is she expected to divorce her husband?

YES.

Love is a strong decision, not a feeling

She can't get over him,she still loves him, etc so how is the love supposed to manifest? If I were your husband, I'd tell her to divorce her husband for me to be sure she's really serious before I can consider it.
I am not just saying this out of thin air,I did it to someone so I know wat am saying. She also had the same talk of love and dreams and destiny, I simply told her that I understand her feelings but everything she's saying is entering one ear and flying outtaa the other as long as she's still married, unless she just wants us to be fcking.

It's the same thing when it's the man that is married. Someone above mentioned Instagram stalking and how it could be real love and I just laughed. She should test it na & start visiting the man and spending time alone with him, it won't take long before he will begin shifting her pant and fck will happen. And guess what, once he knows that he can have sex with this so called love of his life who he could never get over, all without getting divorced from his wife, then that's the end. Latest sidechic in town has been inaugurated.

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Fidelismaria: 1:08pm On Jun 19, 2020

What can I say?

deleting number is stressful

I rather leave it there



Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Mariangeles: 1:25pm On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:

The one who desperately wants to get back with an ex so badly should divorce who they're married to since they're not happy in that marriage, this shows seriousness.
Talk is cheap

Just like that? undecided
The way you people play around with the word divorce eh? It's...
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by lilyheaven: 1:26pm On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:

YES.

Love is a strong decision, not a feeling

She can't get over him,she still loves him, etc so how is the love supposed to manifest? If I were your husband, I'd tell her to divorce her husband for me to be sure she's really serious before I can consider it.
I am not just saying this out of thin air,I did it to someone so I know wat am saying. She also had the same talk of love and dreams and destiny, I simply told her that I understand her feelings but everything she's saying is entering one ear and flying outtaa the other as long as she's still married, unless she just wants us to be fcking.

It's the same thing when it's the man that is married. Someone above mentioned Instagram stalking and how it could be real love and I just laughed. She should test it na & start visiting the man and spending time alone with him, it won't take long before he will begin shifting her pant and fck will happen. And guess what, once he knows that he can have sex with this so called love of his life who he could never get over, all without getting divorced from his wife, then that's the end. Latest sidechic in town has been inaugurated.
.......
I have so much questions on my mind,
But, let me just chill .
Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 1:32pm On Jun 19, 2020
Mariangeles:

Just like that? undecided
The way you people play around with the word divorce eh? It's...
Exactly, divorce is not easy so what kind of love and inability to get over an ex should a married man or woman be preaching of and then u will na believe it? It's tales girl
I mean, where does it lead to? Second wife or second husband? Divorce must enter las las if they're that serious about getting back

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 1:34pm On Jun 19, 2020
lilyheaven:

.......
I have so much questions on my mind,
But, let me just chill .
Lol,okay. You could still ask sha

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by pocohantas(f): 3:40pm On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:

Exactly, divorce is not easy so what kind of love and inability to get over an ex should a married man or woman be preaching of and then u will na believe it? It's tales girl
I mean, where does it lead to? Second wife or second husband? Divorce must enter las las if they're that serious about getting back

Oga stop bursting arteries trying to defend your “ring” talk, it is dumb. Not everyone will marry the one they love and not everyone would leave their partners to be with the one they love. Not like marriage is even the ultimate proof of love.

Give it a break already. grin grin

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by Romangalactic(m): 4:11pm On Jun 19, 2020
pocohantas:

Oga stop bursting arteries trying to defend your “ring” talk, it is dumb. Not everyone will marry the one they love and not everyone would leave their partners to be with the one they love. Not like marriage is even the ultimate proof of love.


Give it a break already. grin grin
Stop me from typing as the mata dey pain you

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Re: Are Men Hoarders (of Their Exs) In Nature?? by pocohantas(f): 4:25pm On Jun 19, 2020
Romangalactic:
[s]
Stop me from typing as the mata dey pain you

No sensible rebuttal... as expected grin grin

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