Please educate me. Help how? As per maid or slave? Who helps her with hers?

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veave:
Please educate me. Help how? As per maid or slave? Who helps her with hers?

Oh! so a woman who is not a girlfriend but a fiancée can just come visiting, use the plates she met washed, litter the floor with popcon and leave without washing the plates she used or sweep the floor she messed up and still claim she is a marriage material.
If the guy goes ahead and marry her despite her habit for reasons best known to him, and she now starts expecting him to join her in the kitchen or help out with other chores in the house after marriage. Does she merit it?

WILLuKPquiet:


Oh! so a woman who is not a girlfriend but a fiancée can just come visiting, use the plates she met washed, litter the floor with popcon and leave without washing the plates she used or sweep the floor she messed up and still claim she is a marriage material.
If the guy goes ahead and marry her despite her habit for reasons best known to him, and she now starts expecting him to join her in the kitchen or help out with other chores in the house after marriage. Does she merit it?

What you narrated up here is not helping with chores. It's called taking responsibility and cleaning up after one's self. Don't confuse yourself please.

Why do we see relationship/marriage as though we are doing each other favors?

Joblessness..

I pity the women who sees herself too big to help her fiance with some domestics sometimes.

E go shock am.

In courtship, a woman can help with everything not just the house chores. Planning finances, managing the home and the likes. She will eventually go and live there, so why not.

The man should also help her out with everything, I mean, everything, including the house chores and her personal life. After all she is coming to live with him.

Having written the above, women should be very careful and watch their backs. They should refuse to be turned into house helps. They mustn't become desperados and all. This is why:

There was a time when men would come for introduction, become fiances and the women become automatic madams. They will begin to wash, clean, dust, cook and take care of the fiances' family just to be ditched later because they are outdated. It is sad really. We should just be careful and know our limits.