Hi guys and Ladies,

Is it right for a lady during courtship to come on a visit without helping the guy in any house work?.
Cooking, Laundry, Washing the dishes, Sweeping etc. She just comes plays, sleeps and leave. Just like dat.

If they eventually marry one another, is it worth it to help such a lady to do same chores as your wife?


My own take is this,
During courtship, the house chores are the guy's responsibility. To take care of his own house remains his job. Therefore, it is not compulsory for the lady to help out, because she ain't marry the guy yet and the guy has not paid her dowry.
But a lady from a good home should know it is necessary for her to help her fiancé out in the house chores. Though, it is necessary but not compulsory.


Now, if the guy in question eventually marries the girl and after marriage, she wants him to join her in the house chores to prove his love and care as a responsible husband to her.
Now as a wife, it is her responsibility and not the guy's responsibility too.
She being the wife.
It is only necessary for the guy to help out but not compulsory.

Does she deserve to be helped, now that it is her own duty too, to do those things as a wife?

My take is, No! she does not deserve it at all.


What do you think.