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Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by gj: 11:38am On Jan 27, 2011
Please I need help!
Yesterday I just realized that the girl I wanted to marry is AS, of which I am AS as well. This is not the first time. The three ladies I've met in the past one year have been AS as well. Do I have to keep searching for the good Lady of my life. I think I will just ignore the genotype issue and marry one of them, the one I like most. The problem now is that I've been a victim - one of my sisters died of sickle cell; I am so afraid. Please what do I do? I am tied of nurturing relationships only to find out that every one of them is AS. I'm really sick, what do I do?
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by mcnikes(m): 11:48am On Jan 27, 2011
My guy don't allow desperation to make you take a step you'll regret later. Think of the children that'll come out of that union. What if they all turn out to be SS. It'll be a worse situation than what you're in now.
The earlier you discharge the girl and look for another, the better for you.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by ragdollz: 12:01pm On Jan 27, 2011
Wow the risk is quite high, and if you can help it, avoid a union with an AS genotype. However, if you truly like the girl go ahead; modern science has many ways of reducing the risks of an SS offspring if the couple acts fast. Take care ok.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by Omolola1(f): 12:14pm On Jan 27, 2011
Poster,

I really sympathise with you, Life is a risk

Don't risk marrying someone who is also of AS genotype, you would end up in misery for the rest of your life, be patient your woman would come along
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by tpia6: 12:17pm On Jan 27, 2011
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Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:19pm On Jan 27, 2011
gj:

Please I need help!
Yesterday I just realized that the girl I wanted to marry is AS, of which I am AS as well. This is not the first time. The three ladies I've met in the past one year have been AS as well. Do I have to keep searching for the good Lady of my life. I think I will just ignore the genotype issue and marry one of them, the one I like most. The problem now is that I've been a victim - one of my sisters died of sickle cell; I am so afraid. Please what do I do? I am tied of nurturing relationships only to find out that every one of them is AS. I'm really sick, what do I do?

whats this AS genotype among nigerians, can you educate me pliz
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by 702: 12:24pm On Jan 27, 2011
hmm, single brother still searchin single sistas(SSSSS)

b4 u start any new rela nw its beta 2 ask for his/her genetyp 1st b4 u start anythin
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by tpia6: 12:25pm On Jan 27, 2011
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Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by kwende(m): 12:29pm On Jan 27, 2011
@OP
PLEASE PERISH THOSE THOUGHTS FROM YOUR MIND. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT. IF U IGNORE THIS ADVICE SOMEDAY YOUR CHILDREN (WITH SS) WILL CURSE YOU FOR MAKING THEM GO THROUGH PAIN.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by snthesis(m): 12:54pm On Jan 27, 2011
ur sis died cos of bein SS and here u are blabbing abt being sick of meeting AS chics. which do u tink hurts more loosing a sis or the probability of burying a SS child cos u jst cudnt b patient enough to meet sum1 wit a suitable genotype. angry angry angry
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by tpia6: 12:58pm On Jan 27, 2011
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Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by Africanqueen2(f): 4:54pm On Jan 27, 2011
When you want to start a new relationship that should be d 1st question. . . Hey are you AS? Just don't be too desperate and make a life time mistake
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by callme2: 9:06pm On Jan 27, 2011
@poster
Please i beg you, dont involve your selves into what you cannot carry. Later part is miserable.
The both of you may not fiind it easy seperating but you both just have to dis-engage from one another
God will provide another lady for you and also another man for her.

Good luck
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by kaymoney2(m): 9:15pm On Jan 27, 2011
@ OP Please continue the search dont give up prematurely,  Very soon you will meet
That lady you desire the one that suits your purpose. dont bargain for death, sorry and discomfort because if you do Life is just like a Canopy when the event is over the your eyes will surely be opened to the realities of life May God help you
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by viruz007(m): 10:08pm On Jan 27, 2011
medically, if u guyz get married u'll get 1 AA, 2 AS, and 1 SS. SO it all dependz u and hw much u luv her,
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by kaymoney2(m): 10:11pm On Jan 27, 2011
viruz007:

medically, if u guyz get married u'll get 1 AA, 2 AS, and 1 SS. SO it all dependz u and hw much u luv her,

@ Viruz007 AKA Dr Abalaka nice analysis** Mendel's law of segregation of genes cool cool
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by tpia6: 10:15pm On Jan 27, 2011
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Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by gj: 11:05am On Jan 28, 2011
So, we that have AS genotype will have such a restricted options. It pains most when you love someone only to find out that what you are looking at you cannot get. May God give me the grace to take the "wise" decision.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by NewHere(m): 11:49am On Jan 28, 2011
@GJ, God has already given you a wise decision and it's all before you now. Dont make the mistake, coz there is no two ways about it.

Listen, my room mate in school (My Best Friend) is an AS, he has a sister that is SS, the sister is always in pains and whenever my hears that his sister is in pains, he will start crying (a big boy ooo). Please, i beg you, dont do it.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by Amya(f): 12:29pm On Jan 28, 2011
tpia*:

not quite.

the kids could be all AA, all AS, all SS, or a mixture.

eg 3 AS, 1AA, or any number of combinations.

of course the kids could all turn out AA or AS, but often it's not like that.

you are right to an extent. Talking in terms of probability, there is 1/4 chance of getting an SS child in an AS +AS union in every four offspring. But it doesn't always happen that way, there are exceptions.

When i was in secondary school i had these friends that were siblings, all in the same class there was just a year difference between them. A boy and two girls. They all had sickle cell. . .one of the girls died when she turned 16. . .i don't know about the other two. . .tragic story

@OP . . .don't make the mistake of marrying an AS like yourself, that would be sentencing your life and that of your family to misery. I know for a fact that there many AA girls out there.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by chamber2(m): 2:06pm On Jan 28, 2011
@op

Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her



You have already concluded before seeking our input.


Also, did you go to the hospital with these ladies to confirm the authenticity of their genotype.This is because most ladies use this as an escape route when they find out they cannot marry a guy.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by okwanuzo3(f): 2:34pm On Jan 28, 2011
Must be tough @poster especially if you really love this girl.
I'm the sort who just might take the risk and pray. However, i won't advise anyone else to.
It's a decision only both of u can make.

All the best whichever way you decide to swing
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by Nobody: 5:40am On Jan 30, 2011
Just think of your unborn kids, that is all I ask.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by ITbomb(m): 2:39pm On Jan 30, 2011
Just when I thought we are running out of excuses to 'dump' them.
Though I sympatize with the dude
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by Nobody: 11:59am On Jan 31, 2011
Life is a gift but y burden your unborn kids with the burden of being ill and possibility of dying young.
dont be desperate.Think of the future.
Nxt time you want to date again ask the gal her genotype.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by gj: 1:25pm On Feb 01, 2011
tx 4 d advices!
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by chiteny(m): 3:41pm On Feb 01, 2011
Please I need help!
Yesterday I just realized that the girl I wanted to marry is AS, of which I am AS as well. This is not the first time. The three ladies I've met in the past one year have been AS as well. Do I have to keep searching for the good Lady of my life. I think I will just ignore the genotype issue and marry one of them, the one I like most. The problem now is that I've been a victim - one of my sisters died of sickle cell; I am so afraid. Please what do I do? I am tied of nurturing relationships only to find out that every one of them is AS. I'm really sick, what do I do?

Hello friend. I completely understand what you are going through. I said I completely understand because I am AS too and have been in your shoes before. You will only regret it later in life if you go ahead to marry AS out of desperation. You just need to halt the present relationship with the ladies you said have AS as well (except you believe in miracle of your genotype changing to AA, of which I also do). In order not to make a long write up, I will just tell you what I did. This is what I think you should do as well.

Before committing to any relationships {ie in the very early stages of trying to know the lady, (her name, what she does etc),} ask her about her genotype. If she knows, she will tell you. If she does not know (which is very uncommon from my experience) and you like her, urge her to go do a quick check up on it. You can sponsor that if you like.

I am presently in a lovely relationship with someone I intend to get married to after doing this and it did not take me too long to find out.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by apella: 4:28pm On Feb 01, 2011
just tink of ur kids n hw expensive it is 2 maintain n sustain SS kids. plus use ur head n nt ur heart.
Re: Please God Forgive Me - I'll Go Ahead And Marry Her by sead(f): 8:13pm On Feb 01, 2011
I knw it is hard but u cant marry a girl who has the same genotype wit u. Knw a couple that are both AS nd 2 of their kids are SS. There's neva peace cos of the children's health. The other day the guy was regrettin eva gettin married. Think of the future and not the present

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