I met this new lady in my area recently. We exchanged contacts and after a while we started hanging out and now seeing each other at my place. We are now so close that we wanted to be intimate. But whenever i come close to her to touch her, she trembles uncontrollably. It was later she opened up to me that three years ago she lost her virginity to cultists who raped her on her way from work late in the evening in one of the dangerous streets leading to her place and since then she hasnt being herself. PLS HOW CAN I HELP HER GET BACK TO LIFE AND OVERCOME HER FEARS AND STIGMA?

Your question is complicated.


Are you asking about how to help her overcome her trauma?
Or how you could help her overcome her fear of allowing you penetrate her?

It's simple. Since her last sexual encounter was violent and scary and it's recorded in her mind till date, then make sure her next sexual encounters (from you) are as tender and pleasurable as possible. Touch her tenderly, kiss her tenderly, penetrate tenderly, stroke her tenderly, switch on a slow love music with the fan on, and keep saying "I love you" softly as you penetrate. Do that like 3 times, and she'll get herself back. Cus the last sexual encounter she'll now have in her mind is the one u gave her.

But I know what's in ur mind is to be knacking her anyhow like dongo yaro tree. Like say na pako u dey hammer.

I swear that gal is lying in fact I am sure she will even be sobbing seriously when she was narrating the story to you ( I call this emotional blackmailing).

The truth is a lot of Nigerian ladies have resulted in using rape stories as a way of covering up how they lost their virginity so as not to be tagged as "cheap or way ward"; only a few will tell u the truth because they are bold, don't blame them " The Africa culture thing ".

advice : DON'T DISTURB YOURSELF JUST GO WITH THE TIDE

Oluromantic:

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This is heartbreaking, she would forever live with the trauma.



Death to all rapist!

this one smells like format..why will a girl be telling a guy she just met her personal life.anyway u two can carry the issue to Man o war

This is serious guys. She is not or didnt made it up. You need to see the way she was trembling like it was happening all over again. She even ran out of my room the 1st day i tried kissing her. She is in deep emotional trauma

Alexgman1:
This is serious guys. She is not or didnt made it up. You need to see the way she was trembling like it was happening all over again. She even ran out of my room the 1st day i tried kissing her. She is in deep emotional trauma

Format. She is playing on ur weak syd
Don't be shocked when u see anoda guy riding and grinding r. Wise uppppppppopppppppp

Alexgman1:
This is serious guys. She is not or didnt made it up. You need to see the way she was trembling like it was happening all over again. She even ran out of my room the 1st day i tried kissing her. She is in deep emotional trauma

Is like u are new to this format.....

Comeback and tell us how she spread the leg like rumour the next time .... u won’t see the traces of trauma again....

You will now start hearing statements like, u know u are the one that technically disflowered me, so Don’t break my heart.....

you know I’m very emotional, accept my mood swings and anger issues....


make feel better by buying buy me iphone, wig, plot of land, international airport and the Buckingham palace...( this part is just jàrà)

Anyways u just have to be patient with her and like someone said u just have to show her all d love and affection there is... Rape is a very bad thing and that incident as being stored in her mind causing her emotional trauma whenever she wants to be intimate like someone said if u want to do anything intimate with her just take ur time don't rush her, treat her with care and my bro if u finally succeed omo she go too love u

mk she jus try forget the experience because u said it's 3 yrs n its kinda far na...but jus be careful because girls do use dt rape issh as an excuse and wen u finally go down dier, u go c d reason bt no go fit ask....e get why

Baba na Format....!!!!!!

SHE IS LYING