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11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by medTechworld(f): 8:19am On Jun 26, 2020
Good men are out there, but you might be wrecking your chances of meeting them.

“Why can't I find a good man?” is a question that has been asked by women around the world.

It’s true: decent human beings of the male gender are rarer than ever in the dating scene. If you’ve gone on dating sites like OkCupid or Tinder, it’s very easy to just start believing that good men just don’t exist anymore.

The truth is that there are decent men out there — at least, statistically so. Dating is a numbers game, and the numbers are saying that there’s a high probability that there will be men out there who would love to date and marry you.

However, that means you need to find them.

If you’re looking for a man who will be good to you, a large part of your ability to succeed deals with you maximizing your chance to find one. Whether they try to do it or not, many women end up self-sabotaging when it comes to finding a nice guy to date.

If you’re making any of these mistakes, you are hurting your own chances of finding Mr. Right.

Here's why you can't find a good man.

1. Having a “type” and refuse to deviate from it

A lot of people tend to assume that they can only date a certain “type” of person but that often leads to them ignoring good people who might actually be better for them.

While there’s nothing wrong with standards, refusing to date people based on things like their height or the music they listen to might be a sign you’re being too picky.

2. Aggressively pursuing any man that comes your way

Desperation is not sexy, sweetie. I totally understand wanting a man with all your heart and feeling rejected. However, actually getting aggressive in your pursuit of one never works, except when it comes to attracting users and abusers.

Good men don’t want women who will take anyone, and if you were honest with yourself, you probably wouldn’t want a guy who would take anyone, either. Tone it down a notch!

3. Expecting to date way out of your league, or holding out for someone who’s literally flawless

As much as it pains me to say this, there is such a thing as dating out of your league, and trying to do this could mean that you’re missing out on decent men who would date you. If you want someone who’s incredible, you need to have something to offer them that’s equally sexy.

Moreover, there’s a certain limit to how great someone can be. Nobody, not even Beyonce, is perfect and if you’re waiting for Mr. Perfect, you’re going to be single for a very long time. I’m not telling you to settle, per se, but I am asking you to be realistic.

4. Refusing to go out

This one always bugs me. How are you going to meet new people if you don’t go out? Most of the time, online dating doesn’t yield good results. In fact, a third of all men on those sites are already in relationships.

Your best bet is to meet someone in person, so go out and have fun.

5. Acting like a diva

Expecting your date to treat you with respect is a given and it’s totally reasonable. What isn’t reasonable is expecting a man to shower you with presents every single date, pay for everything, and also put up with temper tantrums.

If you act like a diva, don’t be shocked if men eventually get sick of it and bail because that's definitely why you can't find a good man.

6. Hanging out with a crowd that isn’t good

Part of meeting good men is hanging out with a crowd that has decent people in it.

If everyone in your clique has domestic violence issues, cheating, and commitment issues, you’re not going to find a good man via that clique’s connections. Birds of a feather tend to flock together, so you might need to change your scene if you want to get a decent partner.

7. Trying to date while hating men

If you’ve ever gone on a date with a woman-hater, you already know how uncomfortable that makes you. Believe it or not, men can pick up on bad vibes, too, and it makes them just as uncomfortable as it makes you.

If this sounds like you, you might need to take a break from dating.

8. Bribing guys for dates

I’ve been here, and yes, I understand what a bad place you have to be in for this to become a habit. The thing is that men who are worth your time will never want to accept a bribe for a date. Doing this only attracts the worst men and scares good men away.

9. Refusing to make the first move

Guys get nervous! A lot of men are intimidated by women to the point that they won’t approach them. Ask them out and you might be surprised at how many of the shy ones will be great guys to date.

10. Not having self-awareness or social skills, and not doing anything to change that

A huge portion of dating involves having enough social skills to get along with people, present the right image, and also just talk to people effectively. A lot of the mistakes and issues that keep good women single all boil down to self-awareness and social skills.

Thankfully, there are ways to improve these things and that can help you meet the man of your dreams.

11. Not improving yourself

Everyone has something they can improve. I have my flabby stomach and caustic attitude towards men, but others might have smaller issues. The better you look, act, and feel, the more attractive you are. The more attractive you are, the more likely it is that decent men will want you.

A little improvement can go a long, long way, so give it a try if things just aren’t working. You never know what might happen.



DO YOU AGREE?


Source >>>> http://quickinfos.com/11-costly-mistakes-most-women-make-that-totally-destroys-their-chances-of-finding-a-good-man/

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Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by Nobody: 8:23am On Jun 26, 2020
some women be like

Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by izuch(m): 8:26am On Jun 26, 2020
Too long
Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by DominusPrime: 8:48am On Jun 26, 2020
izuch:
Too long

You don't have to read it all. You can just read the headers.

At op quite a good writeup. I'd love to see that for men cos men also have issues.
Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by Sammy07: 9:55am On Jun 26, 2020
Apt.

For your question, yes I agree
Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by BabbanBura(m): 10:20am On Jun 26, 2020
medTechworld:
Good men are out there, but you might be wrecking your chances of meeting them.

“Why can't I find a good man?” is a question that has been asked by women around the world.

It’s true: decent human beings of the male gender are rarer than ever in the dating scene. If you’ve gone on dating sites like OkCupid or Tinder, it’s very easy to just start believing that good men just don’t exist anymore.

The truth is that there are decent men out there — at least, statistically so. Dating is a numbers game, and the numbers are saying that there’s a high probability that there will be men out there who would love to date and marry you.

However, that means you need to find them.

If you’re looking for a man who will be good to you, a large part of your ability to succeed deals with you maximizing your chance to find one. Whether they try to do it or not, many women end up self-sabotaging when it comes to finding a nice guy to date.

If you’re making any of these mistakes, you are hurting your own chances of finding Mr. Right.

Here's why you can't find a good man.

1. Having a “type” and refuse to deviate from it

A lot of people tend to assume that they can only date a certain “type” of person but that often leads to them ignoring good people who might actually be better for them.

While there’s nothing wrong with standards, refusing to date people based on things like their height or the music they listen to might be a sign you’re being too picky.

2. Aggressively pursuing any man that comes your way

Desperation is not sexy, sweetie. I totally understand wanting a man with all your heart and feeling rejected. However, actually getting aggressive in your pursuit of one never works, except when it comes to attracting users and abusers.

Good men don’t want women who will take anyone, and if you were honest with yourself, you probably wouldn’t want a guy who would take anyone, either. Tone it down a notch!

3. Expecting to date way out of your league, or holding out for someone who’s literally flawless

As much as it pains me to say this, there is such a thing as dating out of your league, and trying to do this could mean that you’re missing out on decent men who would date you. If you want someone who’s incredible, you need to have something to offer them that’s equally sexy.

Moreover, there’s a certain limit to how great someone can be. Nobody, not even Beyonce, is perfect and if you’re waiting for Mr. Perfect, you’re going to be single for a very long time. I’m not telling you to settle, per se, but I am asking you to be realistic.

4. Refusing to go out

This one always bugs me. How are you going to meet new people if you don’t go out? Most of the time, online dating doesn’t yield good results. In fact, a third of all men on those sites are already in relationships.

Your best bet is to meet someone in person, so go out and have fun.

5. Acting like a diva

Expecting your date to treat you with respect is a given and it’s totally reasonable. What isn’t reasonable is expecting a man to shower you with presents every single date, pay for everything, and also put up with temper tantrums.

If you act like a diva, don’t be shocked if men eventually get sick of it and bail because that's definitely why you can't find a good man.

6. Hanging out with a crowd that isn’t good

Part of meeting good men is hanging out with a crowd that has decent people in it.

If everyone in your clique has domestic violence issues, cheating, and commitment issues, you’re not going to find a good man via that clique’s connections. Birds of a feather tend to flock together, so you might need to change your scene if you want to get a decent partner.

7. Trying to date while hating men

If you’ve ever gone on a date with a woman-hater, you already know how uncomfortable that makes you. Believe it or not, men can pick up on bad vibes, too, and it makes them just as uncomfortable as it makes you.

If this sounds like you, you might need to take a break from dating.

8. Bribing guys for dates

I’ve been here, and yes, I understand what a bad place you have to be in for this to become a habit. The thing is that men who are worth your time will never want to accept a bribe for a date. Doing this only attracts the worst men and scares good men away.

9. Refusing to make the first move

Guys get nervous! A lot of men are intimidated by women to the point that they won’t approach them. Ask them out and you might be surprised at how many of the shy ones will be great guys to date.

10. Not having self-awareness or social skills, and not doing anything to change that

A huge portion of dating involves having enough social skills to get along with people, present the right image, and also just talk to people effectively. A lot of the mistakes and issues that keep good women single all boil down to self-awareness and social skills.

Thankfully, there are ways to improve these things and that can help you meet the man of your dreams.

11. Not improving yourself

Everyone has something they can improve. I have my flabby stomach and caustic attitude towards men, but others might have smaller issues. The better you look, act, and feel, the more attractive you are. The more attractive you are, the more likely it is that decent men will want you.

A little improvement can go a long, long way, so give it a try if things just aren’t working. You never know what might happen.



DO YOU AGREE?


Source >>>> http://quickinfos.com/11-costly-mistakes-most-women-make-that-totally-destroys-their-chances-of-finding-a-good-man/

Wee dey hia?

The kind negative energies that most girls of these days carry, they are enough to sink an angel let alone a mortal - no wonder most guys are only interested in baby daddy things
Re: 11 Costly Mistakes Most Women Make That Makes It Impossibe To Find A Good Man by SAMUELLICK: 12:59pm On Jul 14, 2020
I don't believe in such things. I am sure that every woman is able to find a man she deserves. So, this dating site https://www.sugarbbw.com/ is perfect for such purposes. I have a friend who found there a beautiful girl and I am sure that everybody can do it.

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