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|If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Goddyj(m): 10:46pm On Jun 26, 2020|
Once, I was with a female friend when her phone rang. She picked up the phone with a smirk on her face, glanced at the caller and with a loud hiss, dropped it back while it kept ringing.
I asked her why she did this. She said "It's one guy like that, that likes disturbing me".
Don't you like him? I inquired. "I think I like him sha, he's cute, he's cool and I think he's smart too".
So, why are you refusing to take his calls then? "It's not like I'm refusing to take his calls oh! I just don't want to seem too eager, so let him call up to 5, 6 times".
To say I was bemused will be an understatement. "This guy, you said he's smart, right?" I asked in shock. "Yeah! He seems intelligent".
"Oh! He seems, I see". I nodded.
Things are not always what they seem, I thought to myself.
It's quite pathetic how some guys have made themselves doormats for any skirt wearing, vagina owning, entitled, scheming manipulator to make a fool of them.
We've seen this patterns over and over again, so much that it has become more like the norm. I bet, every guy at one point has been a victim of this, probably before you had sense (that's if you now have).
Most of these female folks see themselves as some sorta trophy a man has to win. That's why they go into a relationship with the very daft mentality that for each point of materialism a man scores, he gets a round of séx as a reward, because that's all they have to offer.
Too many pretty faces and empty brains!
I really don't know where or how they got indoctrinated into this stupídity and it's quite sad that some guys have been so victimized and brainwashed that they think the only way to win a Delilah is to go out of your means to please her, even when she's clearly being unreasonable, even when it's obviously detrimental to you as the guy.
Soon, they'll carry placards saying equal rights and all whatnot, but this conversation of owning up to one's séxuality has been ignored for too long a time. I mean, why can't some ladies, most ladies actually be expressive and vocal about their sexuality the same or at least, almost the same way as guys.
What conscious, deliberate effort are you making to get the dream man that you want?
So, you feel you should just sit around looking pretty and wait for any séx starved pushover who will boost your already over bloated ego all in the name of trying to win you over? Phew!
That's a major reason why they are so many "hit and run" guys. Because, most of you ladies have made it seem like your body is the ultimate goal, so they pretend to play along, while you dance to the tune of their music, unwary of the pit ahead of you and once they've had enough of you, they flee.
Guys! Those of you who think a lady is cheap because she probably likes you and has made herself accessible, y'all are one of the reasons why we are where we are.
It's okay to be a gentleman guys. It's okay to be chivalrous, but if you think it's okay to let yourself being pushed around, then you're a lost cause and a shame to manhood.
Put some value on yourself guys! Fúcking wear some self esteem man!!
Once a lady is not interested in you, it's gonna be glaringly obvious. Stop trying to second-guess and arrive at a soothing conclusion as to why she's being a bítch. If she's acting like one, then one she is.
That girl is probably in some guy's inbox seeking attention and you're at this other end overfeeding her ego.
It's cool if you're not her type. It's totally cool. We've all got preferences, but please, do yourself a favour and leave with some self respect intact.
Ladies, forming hard to get does not make you more valuable than you intrinsically are.
What's your inner worth?
Take off the wig, wipe off the makeup and let's assume you don't have pússy, bréasts and ñyash. At that point, what value can you offer?
If you don't like a guy, tell him off outrightly. Don't keep him around and feed off from the unwanted attention and some of y'all will even be accepting gifts and prodding him on with your actions and inactions, then tomorrow you come out and scream rape.
If you like a guy and think he's someone you can be with, what's the essence of "forming?"
And to think that is mostly the hoes that do the "gra gra" most is just the irony of it all.
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|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by MajesticKris: 10:58pm On Jun 26, 2020|
Nice one.... that's why I don't talk too much...
you too fine an for your pocket, cus Las Las na my money go drop.. what's sex that most of this girls take as big deal... something both party will enjoy, sometimes they enjoy it more...
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Oluromantic: 11:08pm On Jun 26, 2020|
Overdoing hard-to-get is synonymous with low self-esteem
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by pizzzy(m): 11:31pm On Jun 26, 2020|
They want a man who is a 6 foot plus, rich, good looking, behave like dis, talk like that blah blah blah but the only thing they have to offer is sex.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by etrange: 11:38pm On Jun 26, 2020|
The problem is that we try try address an issue by always tackling one gender all the time. Every minute, a thread is created to call out girls and NL boys all gather to call them all sorts of names but at the end, it becomes a "we vs you" thing and it never yields any result. You'd be surprised by the progress the discussion will make when we start balancing out criticisms. For every action guys take, there's a a corresponding action from girls that caused it and for every action girls take, there's a corresponding action from guys that caused it. This is why it is always necessary to address both parties.
For instance, it has become a trend for boys to call every girl they see ashawo. When a girl expresses interest in a guy online, her posts (or sometimes private messages) are brought here and people gather to call her names like destiny killer, hoe, dirty, gold digger, etc.. If you ask a girl out and she accepts immediately (probably cause she's been eyeing you before), you start wondering if that's how she easily falls for different men or maybe she just wants your money; generally her value becomes questionable. I know not all guys think this way but this is very common. As a result, it has become pertinent for ladies to protect thier image by doing the so called "hard to get" (which is ridiculous too).
Point here is that you can't eliminate reaction if action is not addressed so the advice should go to both parties: Girls, stop playing hard to get, follow your hearts. Guys, don't look down on girls who accept you without stress or those who go out of their way to show interest in you. They are not necessarily easy girls, you might just be what they've been looking for.
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|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Goddyj(m): 7:50am On Jun 27, 2020|
etrange:You're definitely correct.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by JOACHINpedro: 10:58am On Jun 27, 2020|
etrange:The oil in your head no get prototype
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Tolubigyansh: 10:59am On Jun 27, 2020|
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by royid: 11:25am On Jun 27, 2020|
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|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jun 27, 2020|
etrange:guy your wisdom just dey overflow
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Saintinoo(m): 12:22pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Goddyj:I started reading, so interesting but the write up is so long... I believe that female friend of yours playing hard to get have nothing to offer the guy but only sex, that is Nigeria girls for you bro even though not all are like that.
The button line is, guys should avoid broke and visionless girl and see how their life will change.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 12:33pm On Jun 27, 2020|
No lady should listen to this Op. Don't appear too cheap for any man, they will go and discuss with their friends how cheap you were, they will even lie that you threw yourself at them.No matter how much you secretly like him,make sure you hide it very deep,let him undergo some stress and they will appreciate and cherish you,thats how they are weird.Dont be deceived by what they are saying here
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Romangalactic(m): 12:43pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Rozz:No wonder you're forming hard to get for me even tho u like me
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 12:50pm On Jun 27, 2020|
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Liposure: 1:04pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Until ladies stop forming hard 2 get. Guys will keep treating u like trash
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by boiz2men(m): 1:05pm On Jun 27, 2020|
You are without a doubt younger than 25.
Hence this reasoning.
I pity you ladies a lot. I never wish to be a lady.
Your shakara as a lady is time-bound. Max 10-15 years. From 18 - 28 years.
Within this time, if your shakara nor make you get sense.... You will marry who is available.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jun 27, 2020|
boiz2men:All this your maths doesn't apply in all cases ,if you keep yourself well as a lady and lived right,you will have reasonable,serious and worthy men at your beck and call begging you for marriage.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by boiz2men(m): 1:27pm On Jun 27, 2020|
You don't get it, do you?
The men that will come when you have passed your prime are widowers, divorcees, single dads and some men who hustled so much they forgot their age and want to just marry...
At this point, the lady marries who is available and not who they love.
Just be smart during your prime make u nor go pursue your husband because you want to form hard to get.
I personally don't waste time wooing... "Hmm,lol,k,really" without even toasting you, if you send those to me... I don forget your matter no matter how angelic your beauty is...
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by julieean: 1:33pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Liposure:what's this one saying when a lady is too cheap na so so insult una go nack her, so playing hard to get is the best way to treat Nigeria guys because una no like something easy at all, you people are born to undergo stress.
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Liposure: 1:55pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Rozz:aunty rozz. Keep spreading the word. The lord is ur strength
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Liposure: 2:07pm On Jun 27, 2020|
julieean:all men are not the same. What shall it profit a girl in forming hard 2 get without finding her missing rib
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 2:16pm On Jun 27, 2020|
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Mandela27: 2:22pm On Jun 27, 2020|
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by BigDick70inch(m): 2:33pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Use reverse psychology on girls..
It will be hard for them to start"hard to get"
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jun 27, 2020|
Liposure:i understand your statement very well Brother Liposure
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Mandela27: 2:40pm On Jun 27, 2020|
BigDick70inch:Very true my guy.Ass licking days are long gone
|Re: If You Like A Guy, Stop Forming Hard To Get. by Nobody: 5:35pm On Jun 29, 2020|
If I see a guy I like, I'll even be the one toasting him.
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