jerryfemi88:
Bybro from experience take ur stand before u marry her, what ever u cant take after marriage dont accept it now,she is bossy and wants to always be incharge im married and im suffering that right now ,trying hard to correct but its not easy ,u can apologise for d slap because realmen dont hit women ,but do it in a very matured way ,by letting her know she was at fault by those behaviours she exibited.

Thanks for sharing this bro. I learned from it.

Deduks:
Please help Me, I need how to settle this with my fiancee. I can't seem to forgive myself for laying my hands on her as this is my first time of ever hiting a girl in my life. We've been on logger head of who is at fault and who will be the first to appologise but I felt betrayed and embarassed by her cos I love her so much.
We've been dating for over 7months and I've made my intentions open to her about settling down with her and she accepted.
Things took another turn in our relationship since last week of June. I'm a sales person in one of the companies in lagos and I have a client (a lady) I've pursuing to market my product to but have not been able to get an appointment with her. It happens that last week I called her (my client) and she told me she didn't go to work that day but if I want to see her it will be outside her office by 5pm. I obliged, and she sent me the address of the place where I will meet with her which is at a bar in one of the hotels on the island which happens to be near to where I reside.
The thing now is that I called my fiancee to notify her of my appointment with the said lady since its in the evening which means I will be coming back home late but her number did not go through may be due to network but I sent her a text which I know must deliver.
To cut the long story short, during the meeting with the lady at the hotel, to my authmost shock or will I call it coincidence I saw my fiancee at the other end of the bar with a guy. I couldn't believe my eyes so I had to call her phone and she picked and I told her to turn around from where she's seated which she did.
I didn't even believe what happened next as she stood up and rushed me at my table and started harassing and embarrassing me that I came to a hotel with a lady that I'm cheating on her. I was so astoned as I stood up and grabbed her to calm her down. I asked her what she was doing there with a man but she wasn't even listening to me. I told her I called her but her number didn't connect and I sent her a text but obviously she didn't see the text cos her phone must have been on silent cos she has been with a guy. She kept on acting crazy there and I had to slap her very hard cos she was acting creazily and embarrassing me and my client and also not answering my question of what she was doing there. While this was hapening, my client just left me and walked away which I don't blame her. I had to bolt out immediately too cos I couldn't stand the heart break and embarrassment.
The next day I received an sms from my fiancee still accusing me and saying that the man is her cousin who came to the house that day but they decided to go out to relax.
I later found out that the guy was her cousin who I'm yet to meet but the point now, is how could she act creazily like that the other day embarrassing me and my client and accusing me too.
We've not spoken for like 4days now looking for who will be the first person to appologise.
the thing is I love this girl and wouldn't want to loose her. But I didn't do anything bad to appologise cos I sent her a text to intimate her of my where about but she didn't tell me where she was going to.
Should I be the one to appologise to cos I was really embarrased that day or should I wait for her to do so cos she's at fault her from my own judgment.
Kindly advice me cos I've been loosing my mind since.

No offence op. You need to go and buy a book called " emotional intelligence." You were in the middle of a deal. Yet you called your girlfriend. To do what? To persuade your client? Or to tell you who she's with? Maybe you have too much money though...

Another proof of emotional instability is you slapping her . And you slapping her in the presence of your client who is also a lady.

The last proof is you subbing right now and camouflaging like you need advice to do what you would do even if we advise you not to. (Going to beg her.)

Work on yourself. Only then would you know your real worth, and be able to discern who's right for you. Certainly by then, you'd know that anyone that cannot trust you is a wrong partner. That's if you're trustworthy.

My guess is that both of you shouldn't be thinking about marriage at the moment, as it seems that you especially lack the emotional intelligence required to be the pilot of a family.

So you were with a potential client yet you called ur gf or whatever you call her, why didn't u finish ur business dealings bfr involving woman matter. She showed you the immature part of her and u ended up slapping her, error. You have found out he was truely her cousin so y wait for her to apologize or call first. Abeg man up and be the bigger person here.