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|I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by BigCabal: 2:30pm On Mar 30|
How we met
It took me three years to get admission into the university. During that time, I was attending a tutorial in Ibadan, and that is how I met Paul, a friend of my friend. My friend introduced us and we got really close. After talking for a while, I discovered I like him. The feelings were mutual, so we started dating on my birthday, November 7th. I had just clocked 18, he was 17, and I wasn’t looking for a relationship then, but I just knew I couldn’t let Paul go away.
The thing is; I have suffered emotional abuse and have been depressed for a while now. I have been molested twice, and I couldn’t even tell my own mother because she was always so harsh towards me. It got so bad that I even had to leave home to stay with my aunt. I had attempted suicide twice, and I have a lot of insecurities. Paul was there for me anytime I needed someone to talk to. He loved me and I always wondered why. He knows all my flaws, but I still could not understand why he loves me so much.
The first mistake
It was the best relationship I ever had. He was understanding, helped with my depression and academics. We never had serious fights, just a few misunderstandings over little things. Everything was going good for a year until I met some guy on Facebook, John. John and I started talking, and the chats progressed to the point where he asked me to send him nudes. I sent some with my face hidden because I was so sure I would never see him in real life. He lived in Lagos, I lived in Ibadan, and I didn’t plan on sleeping with him. Unfortunately for me, he attended the same secondary school as Paul. One day, John posted my picture on his WhatsApp status, and Paul saw it. Paul asked how he knew me, and John told him everything. Paul forgave me, but I knew he was hurt.
The second mistake
In 2019, I finally got admission into University, but I somehow got scammed of my acceptance fee. I couldn’t tell my parents or Paul because I felt so stupid. Instead, lied to him that my parents couldn’t pay the acceptance fee, I couldn’t tell him the truth. Covid-19 came, so schools couldn’t resume and the deadline for payment was up. I was planning on running away cause of shame, so I wanted to break up with Paul. I was stressed. One day I went to see a friend, and I ended up drinking with him. We almost had sex, but I was on my period so it didn’t happen. I initially didn’t tell Paul about it, but I eventually told him about how I went drinking and how I almost cheated. He was disappointed but forgave me.
The third mistake
The money for the initial acceptance fee was something I eventually raised, but because I was paying late, the price had increased. I was so desperate, and because my parents were having financial issues, I was ready to sleep with anyone for money for my school fees. Then, I met this guy who promised to take care of me, and I slept with him thinking he’ll help. I keep texting and sexting him so he would feel interested, but hasn’t said anything. This led to me breaking up with Paul. I told him it was because I needed time to be alone, but it was really because I couldn’t tell him I cheated on him.
Paul and I eventually got back together, but it was because he did not know I cheated. He found out after reading my chats, so he left. I tried explaining to him how I only did it because I was desperate, but he thought I chose the man over him.
I feel bad and selfish about what I did. He deserved better than me, and I wish he listened when I told him before we started dating. This is just the kind of person I am. When I think of the fact that the person I slept with didn’t even give me any money, I feel I lost both ways.
I will probably sink deeper into depression because I finally lost the only person that ever cared. Paul is a good person that didn’t deserve any of the things I put him through. If I say I love him, it’ll surely look like a lie because you don’t hurt those you love, but I love him. I should just have done better.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Tadeknkeepcalm: 2:31pm On Mar 30|
Don't sink to this level na
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by NiRfreak(m): 2:36pm On Mar 30|
And what are we suppose to do
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Bornsinner7: 2:36pm On Mar 30|
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Amotolongbo(f): 2:37pm On Mar 30|
Though it might sound somehow to some folks, most especially the religious ones here. It isn’t often adviseable for girls who are teenagers to go into serious relationship with guys who are teenagers or age bracket with them.
Teenage is the adventurous stage for boys and girls if they want to experience flexing with the opposite sex without being tied down by their loving partner.
It was so obvious you aren’t ready for any serious relationship with Paul, judging by your flirting with guys. It would have been better if you had allowed Paul to known that all you wanted from him at the start is an open relationship and he wouldn’t give his emotion also
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Elliot2(m): 2:43pm On Mar 30|
BigCabal:Circumstances help unveil our real colors. So my dear, na olosho u be. You, chastity, fidelity and true love no get any business for this life.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Slydegeneral000: 2:53pm On Mar 30|
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by JudgeKronos: 3:05pm On Mar 30|
I stopped reading when I saw ‘you sent your nude pictures to a guy you met on Facebook ‘
Two things I don’t do with this uncircumcised generation 1. Argument
Please don’t quote me......
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Pierohandsome: 3:14pm On Mar 30|
JudgeKronos:I won't quote you,I promise you.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Chicko1995: 3:36pm On Mar 30|
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by valentineuwakwe(m): 4:24pm On Mar 30|
You were 18 wen you started with Paul....Abeg how old were you wen you started dating the first n second guy?
dnt knw wat to counsel an expert like you cos you have been dating alot of people since you were a child....
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by annayawchee: 4:54pm On Mar 30|
Exactly what my ex did but the only twist was that her own friend told me about her cheating spree a day after I ended everything with her....
I realized girls don't value the naturally good guys..
They want the demons and demons they shall get
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Millimann: 5:00pm On Mar 30|
Just meeting guys up and down.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by general111: 5:07pm On Mar 30|
Just be a good girl.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Telegram234(m): 5:12pm On Mar 30|
So what do u want us to do now?
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by SmellySperm(m): 5:39pm On Mar 30|
you still love Paul bla bla bla..
love kill you there
you ladies don't ever appreciate good guys
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by OriginalZombiE: 5:49pm On Mar 30|
The paul sef na mumu.
How many times them go cheat on u before u give yourself brain?
The guy fit never even straff the op
I mean wtf
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Tonymegabush1(m): 5:55pm On Mar 30|
Hard copy., Don't be too nice with a lady you are dating to avoid been taking for granted
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by SarutobiEky(m): 6:00pm On Mar 30|
Mtchewww. Wetin concern me?
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by Akwaibomdude(m): 6:05pm On Mar 30|
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by temi1290: 6:09pm On Mar 30|
You no well, LMAO
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by okoroemeka(m): 6:21pm On Mar 30|
SmellySperm:actually someone can love his partner but still cheat, cheating to some people is just a reflex action that after the deed is done, they will not attach any emotional ties to his or her fellow cheater,many people can't just be judged with conventional morality to rate the percentage of love they have for their spouses,many good wife's really love their husbands but they will cheat for promotion,contracts, appointments,favours,etc,
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by GodWrites: 6:24pm On Mar 30|
You need a chilled beer
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by SenecaTheYonger(m): 6:26pm On Mar 30|
It’s not that there are no good guys but girls never tell you when they meet a good guy and how they lost him due to their fault.
They always mentally stuck in that one bad relationship they had.
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by daniel34840: 6:53pm On Mar 30|
You were 18 wen you started with Paul....Abeg how old wen you wen you started dating the first n second guy?dnt knw wat to counsel an expert like you
|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by ZINIIBANKS: 7:25pm On Mar 30|
Elliot2:This guy na confirm wayray
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|Re: I Lost My Boyfriend And It Was All My Fault by slawormiir: 7:37pm On Mar 30|
Hmmm.....this is to say Paul was a bitch ass niggarr or rather a pussy ass niggarr
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