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5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by rasheylaw(m): 6:03pm On Jul 17, 2020
When things hit the fan for whatever reason, many will walk out or get dumped. When you break up with someone, sometimes it is hard to move on and let go of the good times you shared and the love you felt for each other among other feelings.

Even if you parted ways on good terms, there are boundaries to what you can now do together.

If there is any hope of reconciliation at all, you both will have to trash it out properly but while you are still calling yourselves ‘exes’, here are five things you shouldn't do:

Trying to be just friends

Very rarely will you see a situation where two exes become good friends. You can maintain a civil relationship with them but try to be buddies is an effort in futility. Don’t even bother.

Giving your ex expensive gifts or gifts with sentimental value

It’s a no-brainer, giving your ex gifts with sentimental value is an obvious indicator you are still emotionally attached to them, except of course you still want that ex back, this is a no affair.

Having sex together

The reason for this is quite simple, there are absolutely no grounds for it. Under what category can you possibly be having sex with your ex? Friendship with benefit, love, lust? Continuing to have sexual relations with an ex keeps you emotionally tied to them. Remember they are not obligated to care about you or your emotions anymore so you put yourself at risk of getting hurt when they eventually move on.

Long calls of any form

What could you possibly want to talk about? If the break up was as a result of incompatibility, a clean break is what you need. Carrying on with constant communication with your ex will only hinder you from moving on and giving other people a chance with you.

Hanging out longer than necessary

You can meet an ex for a chat or even lunch especially if you are still on good terms, but spending a protracted number of hours with them is not advisable. The more time you spend together, the more you remember how good you guys actually were together. Unless there is a chance for you to be together, don't hang out longer with him or her than necessary.
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by EngineerBode: 6:09pm On Jul 17, 2020
Don't even call ur ex your ex. Just move on completely
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Dobson43: 6:34pm On Jul 17, 2020
angry




In as much as I want to agree with in all entirety but if an ex promises a wet puna, bro, how can John Thomas say no to such wetness?

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Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by simplepee(f): 6:41pm On Jul 17, 2020
Don't even meet at all. Who have time for rubbish. I find it very weird hanging out with an ex.
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Slynation(m): 6:44pm On Jul 17, 2020
rasheylaw:


When things hit the fan for whatever reason, many will walk out or get dumped. When you break up with someone, sometimes it is hard to move on and let go of the good times you shared and the love you felt for each other among other feelings.

Even if you parted ways on good terms, there are boundaries to what you can now do together.

If there is any hope of reconciliation at all, you both will have to trash it out properly but while you are still calling yourselves ‘exes’, here are five things you shouldn't do:

Trying to be just friends

Very rarely will you see a situation where two exes become good friends. You can maintain a civil relationship with them but try to be buddies is an effort in futility. Don’t even bother.

Giving your ex expensive gifts or gifts with sentimental value

It’s a no-brainer, giving your ex gifts with sentimental value is an obvious indicator you are still emotionally attached to them, except of course you still want that ex back, this is a no affair.

Having sex together

The reason for this is quite simple, there are absolutely no grounds for it. Under what category can you possibly be having sex with your ex? Friendship with benefit, love, lust? Continuing to have sexual relations with an ex keeps you emotionally tied to them. Remember they are not obligated to care about you or your emotions anymore so you put yourself at risk of getting hurt when they eventually move on.

Long calls of any form

What could you possibly want to talk about? If the break up was as a result of incompatibility, a clean break is what you need. Carrying on with constant communication with your ex will only hinder you from moving on and giving other people a chance with you.

Hanging out longer than necessary

You can meet an ex for a chat or even lunch especially if you are still on good terms, but spending a protracted number of hours with them is not advisable. The more time you spend together, the more you remember how good you guys actually were together. Unless there is a chance for you to be together, don't hang out longer with him or her than necessary.

Exactly... But now I find myself in a kinda difficult situation, I ordered a gift for my girl which she picked by herself because I gave her choices, due to the lockdown in March the order was delayed, we broke up around May, and I'm still with the gift...
I'm a man of my word, now I'm stuck with the choice of giving her the gift or taking back my word... What's your take??
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Ladylite: 6:45pm On Jul 17, 2020
All these laws fade once the Ex has hit the cervix or gspot or given an earth shattering orgasm or squirt, you can not let that go..... Ever.
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Blackpearlous(f): 7:21pm On Jul 17, 2020
Slynation:

Exactly... But now I find myself in a kinda difficult situation, I ordered a gift for my girl which she picked by herself because I gave her choices, due to the lockdown in March the order was delayed, we broke up around May, and I'm still with the gift...
I'm a man of my word, now I'm stuck with the choice of giving her the gift or taking back my word... What's your take??

Don't give her directly.
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by maticdamian(m): 9:38pm On Jul 17, 2020
simplepee:
Don't even meet at all. Who have time for rubbish. I find it very weird hanging out with an ex.


Even if he mea culpa and just wanna get back together?
Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Slynation(m): 11:06pm On Jul 17, 2020
Blackpearlous:

Don't give her directly.
Exactly my plans shaah... Thanks a lot

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Re: 5 Things You Shouldn’t Do With Your Ex by Bahamas95(m): 11:47pm On Jul 17, 2020
E get reason why she become my ex, the only business I get with her na just to say hi when we meet for road....

Once I turn my back on something that's final

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