Trainee223:
Bro by the Lord's grace you will be out of these..

Let me give u some hint I used to dump that devastating life style.
! Never you be idle, read motivational books once you know that you are idle.

!! Get marry if you can but if not get a girlfriend

!!! Write down your goal of not watching anything porn for the first 2 months and write it down on ur note pad or jotter book and place it beside ur bed anytime the urge come, sighting of the book alone will help you to focus on the goal at hand

!!!! Never you follow the advice of demons on Naira land here shouting up and down that it is not the cause of ur problem. Personal I don't believe on God but the act of masturbating is a crime against humanity and totally a wrong practice.
It bring down ur IQ, you will have low self esteem, poor communication with the outside world and a total shadow of ur self.



##Iamasurvivorofmasturbation

you believe in Demons yet you don't believe in God. funny.

derrick015:
Good morning everyone.

The subject refers,
I am a Christian. However, I have been struggling with a whole lot of non Christian like habit. One of such habit is watching of pornography and masturbating. This habit has lingered for more than 10 years now.
I am an introvert probably what has made it worse and perpetual.
I don't like this act. But I usually still practice it.

I believe God loves me but he hates this act. I really don't know how to STOP IT.

Pls I need help. This has really affected my relationship with the Holy spirit, myself and other people please help.

Also I have discovered that in the past 2 years i have been so disorganized, and forgetful.

At work I have been termed a LIER. I feel really embarrassed with myself when people give me something and I forget I have been given or I don't know where exactly I kept it. Then I will be asked of the same thing I won't be able to find it. Sometimes I deny it was ever given to me because I can't remember It was ever given to me.

This has brought me a lot of struggles at work(banking) and has made me ever so frustrated with myself.

I WASN'T LIKE THIS[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] before. It so unfortunate this is happening to me.

My prayer life too has gone down the drain it's zero. I attend church service Sunday however due to the current lockdown I can say I don't have any relationship with God!

Please I need help

i don't have any advise to give you but i will tell you never to involve yourself in anything like "Yoga Meditation" or any kind of Meditation that is not a Biblical Meditation.

any Meditation that isn't the biblical type please refrain so you don't have to open yourself to demonic influences thereby compounding your issue or even bringing you issues you never saw coming, please take my advise serious.

yettymuse:
But what is wrong with Masturbation?? An Adult having a self sexual satisfaction na him una dey quote plenty scripture like this

You want a single man with no girlfriend not to masturbate And you cry wolf at child molestation, Rape and sexual harassment??

That’s why you all push broke boys to go and marry! You think say marriage na small pikin play??

You all should get a grip!

Any man after adolescence with no adequate sexually satisfaction go masturbate!

Your pastor sef dey jo soapy!

We have more pressing issues that needs your concerns and not What an adult choose to do with their body!

Africa my Africa!! Mtchewwww!

you don't understand what porn does to the mind of a man, you won't understand.

Is still bad no matter how long the effects takes it grants no peace ..is evil

SeanBeezy:
Masturbation is addictive! though it's addictive effect might take time to manifest in some people!

Abstaince and the grace of God is sufficient for you.

peacesampson:
Is still bad no matter how long the effects takes it grants no peace ..is evil

Exactly

derrick015:
Good morning everyone.

The subject refers,
I am a Christian. However, I have been struggling with a whole lot of non Christian like habit. One of such habit is watching of pornography and masturbating. This habit has lingered for more than 10 years now.
I am an introvert probably what has made it worse and perpetual.
I don't like this act. But I usually still practice it.

I believe God loves me but he hates this act. I really don't know how to STOP IT.

Pls I need help. This has really affected my relationship with the Holy spirit, myself and other people please help.

Also I have discovered that in the past 2 years i have been so disorganized, and forgetful.

At work I have been termed a LIER. I feel really embarrassed with myself when people give me something and I forget I have been given or I don't know where exactly I kept it. Then I will be asked of the same thing I won't be able to find it. Sometimes I deny it was ever given to me because I can't remember It was ever given to me.

This has brought me a lot of struggles at work(banking) and has made me ever so frustrated with myself.

I WASN'T LIKE THIS[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] before. It so unfortunate this is happening to me.

My prayer life too has gone down the drain it's zero. I attend church service Sunday however due to the current lockdown I can say I don't have any relationship with God!

Please I need help

Hello Brother,

What I am about to pen down is sincerely from my heart and from someone who cares. On your behalf, I appreciate all the advice and recommendations you received on this platform.

The bondage and addiction to masturbation and pornography is a raging battle situated in your mind, which manifests physically in your indulgence in same. The mind is the battlefield of all forms of addictions, obsession and depression. Interestingly, the mind is also where you gain freedom. It is no surprise the devil tenaciously seeks control of our mind. Once your mind is won over to addiction, your physical body will conform to fulfilling the desires thereof.

Therefore, I will encourage you to know that the mind will have to be controlled by either of two spiritual forces: Jehovah God or the devil. The Christian Scripture says: Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life.’ Prov 4.23 (NKJV). The NIV version says: ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’ Prov 4.23

The Scripture above corroborates my earlier explanation. So, the difference between the Carnal man and the Spirit-filled man comes from who controls the mind. Thus, the need to perpetually guard it!

The process of emancipation and freedom from the addiction starts from:
1. Being humble and submissive; accepting Jehovah God is not, and can never be, pleased with masturbation and pornography. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 1 Corin 6:19

2. Asking God for help. First acknowledge you have sinned, then pray and ask for forgiveness and grace from Him. The Bible says, If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

3. Renewing your mind always by filling it with the Word of God and edifying literature and biblically-sound engagements. ‘Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…’ Romans 12:2. Take note of the present continuous verb – renewing - It has to be a lifestyle.

4. Do away with all appearances that could trigger sexual urges. The Bible also says, Abstain from all appearance of evil. 1 Thess 5:22. You have received beautiful pieces of advice on this already. For instance:

i. Delete/destroy pictures, photos, CDs, internet links, et al that could remind you of your old escapades.

ii. Change your phone to a non-internet-enabled type.

iii. You could ask IT department at your place of work to disable internet on your official/work computer system or restrict access to sensitive sites, contents, materials, pop-ups, prompts, etc.

iv. Destroy or avoid anything that could trigger erotic thoughts.

v. It is possible your weak-point could be the opposite sex around your life (at home, workplace, church, or places you visit regularly). This can happen whether or not you are married. Suggested solutions are to avoid looking at this particular opposite sex. Or avoid looking at, and having close contact (such as hugging, touching, etc.) with the opposite sex altogether. There is an admonition in Matthew 5:28, ‘But I tell anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart’

5. More importantly, and having done all, take note that you cannot easily delete images already installed in your mind. Kindly take note that, the same way a visited internet site saves caches and cookies in your local computer system, the same way your mind saves caches & cookies of erotic images you had seen. Thus, it would not be unusual that, from time to time, the devil will still drop suggestions in the form of bringing back those graphical imageries.

They will come like flashes in your mind, but YOU MUST RESIST them! The Scripture says ‘Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil and he shall flee from you.’ James 4:7 (NKJV). Similarly, 'Submit to God, resist the devil likewise you younger people,...(1 Peter 5:5)

6. You need to have a responsibility partner with whom you can relate your progress. It is advisable that a well-respected, mature Christian will qualify for this role, perhaps, your pastor. The responsibility partner will hold your hand and go along with you all the way. As someone said earlier in a post to you, sexual urges in themselves are not really sinful. It is the way human beings are wired. It is the actions that follow that could lead to sin.

7. Alongside all the remedial approaches, both spiritual and physical mentioned above, keep trusting God always ask for grace.

Shalom!

As a counselor in this field, I have these to say:
My brother, you are a true child of God since you can come out boldly to display your displeasure for these vices. With determination, you will win.
-The urge for masturbation and porn start from the mind, the Holy Bible in Proverbs 4:23 says, "keep your mind with all your power, for out of it comes the issues of life." For each day, do not allow such thoughts to have a stay in your mind. This is is the ULTIMATE RULE! Work on it on a daily basis, not weekly or monthly. Tell yourself that I will not give masturbation and porn a second thought in my own mind today, and watch yourself to do it with diligence (guy, if you no fight am now e go bring you down very soon)
- Delete all porn elements out of your devices- this is a must.
- Recognize your status, that you are a child of God, and a child of God should not do such filthy things. God does not give occasion for sin.
- Pray and fast for it.
As for your forgetfulness, if you smoke weed, STOP. You can stop smoking by not buying the smoke and control your association with smokers. Similarly, always try to be in the present, read the Holy Bible and meditate on it constantly - this is a sure solution that has been confirmed by psychologists
- be determined, one day you will be the one advising people on these vices. sometimes such things happen to great men and women so that they will know how others in such situation feel

The Separation on the Cross of Jesus Christ:
“About the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud [agonized] voice, “ELI, ELI, LAMA SABACHTHANI?” that is, “MY GOD, MY GOD, WHY HAVE YOU FORSAKEN ME?” (Matthew 27:46 amp)
This was the outcry of the Son of God; Jesus Christ when *sin(the flesh; the producer of all and any type of sinful lifestyle) inherited from Adam’s disobedience till the last sin that will be committed by mankind in the whole universe at the trumpet of the white throne judgment* was laid upon HIM and judgment for sin was executed upon HIM by the Divine Justice of the Father.

At that moment of judgment upon HIM or being forsaken by the Father for sin was *the moment He went to hell-fire as a punishment for sin* and He did not spend just 3-hours therein rather *eternity* or what is known as *infinity* in mathematics because Jesus Christ is God and anything He does is in *eternity/infinity* though in the human realm it was within some minutes.
In mathematics anything multiplied with *infinity/eternity* gives *infinity* as its *output* thus those few seconds(human timing) X infinity = infinity/eternity.

It means that Jesus went to hell-fire carrying our sins and spent eternity there as a prize for our salvation and came out victorious in time as well as eternity.

This moment of judgment upon Jesus for the sin of mankind that He willingly accepted from the Father in order to deliver us from darkness(flesh/sin) was also a moment of *separation in eternity* with the GOD-HEAD though the 3-persons in One God are inseparable yet it happened to satisfy the Divine Justice and at the same time being inseparable the GOD-HEAD also shared in the pain of hell-fire in eternity with the Son thus the Father in His Divine Justice bore the pain by looking away in deep silence as His Son passed through the torments of hell-fire in eternity for the sin of mankind.

The Son fully experienced the torment of hell-fire for *eternity not just for 3-hours or 3-years or 3-billion years* and through the Spirit gave out that *outcry* “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me…” and His Father did not *intercept this pain in eternity though it equaled few minutes in time* and having paid *this prize for sin in eternity* came out in time victorious declaring “It is finished” (John 19:30).

It is this same tormenting cry that Jesus gave out on the cross will anybody who rejects the gospel of Jesus Christ will be crying day and night *without the interception of the God-Head in eternity* just like this scripture explained “Then a third angel followed them, shouting, “Anyone who worships the beast and his statue or who accepts his mark on the forehead or on the hand 10 must drink the wine of God’s anger. It has been poured full strength into God’s cup of wrath. And they will be tormented with fire and burning sulfur in the presence of the holy angels and the Lamb. 11 The smoke of their torment will rise forever and ever, and they will have no relief day or night, for they have worshiped the beast and his statue and have accepted the mark of his name.” Let this encourage God’s holy people to endure patiently every trial and persecution, for they are his saints who remain firm to the end in obedience to his commands and trust in Jesus.” (Revelation 14:9-12)

It is this same power by which Jesus was executed in eternity in hell-fire that our flesh(sin’s nature/foundation) is evacuated from the life any human being who accepts the Lordship of Jesus and receives Jesus as a replacement for the evacuated flesh thus God’s seed alone dwells inside you, nurtured by a consistent and progressive daily personal bible studies and fellowship with the Holy Spirit.

It is pertinent to note that the free-will is still present but as long as we remain in agreement with the faith of this new life of Christ through the power of His death on the Cross and resurrection then our free-will is made *inactive* such that the free-will of Christ both to will and to do of His good pleasures manifests through our mortal-body (Phil.2:13) consistently and progressively.

If we believe that one man died therefore all men have died in Christ (2 Cor.5:14) then it means we believe that we have *also experienced hell-fire in eternity with Christ when he was judged on the Cross* thus the torment of hell-fire in eternity is clear to any believer hence you do not need anybody to warn you about the consequences of returning to the Cross to throw-off your new creation-life and return the clothing of your old-man(the flesh/sin’s-nature/sinful-lifestyle appearances of sin) upon your mortal-body thus Paul declared “…How can we, the very ones who died to sin, continue to live in it any longer? 3 Or are you ignorant of the fact that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death?” (Romans 6:2-3 amp)

It is the access of believers into this revelation of what we experienced in union with Christ through the judgment which came upon HIM for sin (Isaiah 53) that makes us to develop the same type of hatred for sin that the GOD-HEAD had when they engaged the event of the Cross for our own glory(1 Corinthian 2:8-9) and the unwavering obedience to holiness which Jesus had even while in a mortal-body like us (Hebrews 10:5-7)

May the Holy Spirit lead us into the reality of this revelation in Jesus Name. Amen.