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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by vick00(m): 9:19am On Jul 26, 2020
masturbation is a monster u cant jst chase away with only mouth.
If u really want 2 quit, there are 2 options as 4 me
1. get married 2. curse urself and tel him never 2 forgive again if u ever masturbate again.
i did d number 2 and i overcome masturbation.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by PastorFire: 9:20am On Jul 26, 2020
God will help you.
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by eagleonearth(m): 9:20am On Jul 26, 2020
See let me tell you, if you come in contact with that spirit called an excellent spirit which possessed Joseph and Daniel, no habit can have a hold on you again even if it's chewing bubble gums. Desire that Spirit and he will come instantly. If Jesus sets you free, you're free indeed.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Trainee223: 9:21am On Jul 26, 2020
Bro by the Lord's grace you will be out of these..

Let me give u some hint I used to dump that devastating life style.
! Never you be idle, read motivational books once you know that you are idle.

!! Get marry if you can but if not get a girlfriend

!!! Write down your goal of not watching anything porn for the first 2 months and write it down on ur note pad or jotter book and place it beside ur bed anytime the urge come, sighting of the book alone will help you to focus on the goal at hand

!!!! Never you follow the advice of demons on Naira land here shouting up and down that it is not the cause of ur problem. Personal I don't believe on God but the act of masturbating is a crime against humanity and totally a wrong practice.
It bring down ur IQ, you will have low self esteem, poor communication with the outside world and a total shadow of ur self.



##Iamasurvivorofmasturbation

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by hagiosfemi(m): 9:22am On Jul 26, 2020
I am not your judge brother but reading through your post I see a soul dissatisfied with these habits but yet think there is element of goodness in him. 1 John 1:9 in the original states, "if we agree with him concerning our sins..." the problem is not the evil habits but YOU. If an altar call is supposedly made today, will you agree of your utter sinfulnes and come out or think yourself of a Christian man? Can you look at 1 John 3:8 and see yourself in that verse? Will you accept your utter helplessness and wretchedness before God crying out for mercy and salvation?

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by nnadychuks(m): 9:23am On Jul 26, 2020
growtogeda:
bros,
1. go and marry
2. get busy. only idle people get the time to masturbate .
Do you know married men masturbate too? Unless you don’t masturbate but I assure you if you’re an addict, you’d postpone all your appointments just to self-service off...
my own advise is that
if you’re reading this and you’ve not started masturbating please don’t engage in this act. It gets worse the moment you want to stop the act
Initially it’s sweet oh... you’ll even thank God for giving you the opportunity to explore yourself, but eventually when you feel like stopping, that’s when the evil spirit takes over and ruin your plans.
Masturbation is more addictive than weed and Alcohol. Be warned!

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by StubbornGENIUS: 9:24am On Jul 26, 2020
smellingKPEKUS:
there is nothing wrong with this 2 things
Nah Bro.A lot is wrong with these two things,and it gets worse when you become addicted.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Finallydead: 9:24am On Jul 26, 2020
Hey derrick015,
Know that God has never condemned you no matter how low you've sunk but seeks to restore you if you can seek Him. And this is not the real you. This is a mould you've cast yourself in because of wrong decisions and the laws of the fallen world.
But there is a way out and a path to find who you truly are again, as recreated in Christ and the restoration of all that you've lost. Please read the following excerpt carefully and ask for clarifications.
Finallydead:

You see what you're now asking for is the whole essence of the gospel. It is for you to be crucified with Him so that He may be risen in you. The old man with all his lusts giving way to the new creation. You cant kill the flesh by power and might but by His life swallowing up death in you.

God is not asking you to prove yourself to Him, He just wants you to practise self-denial and subjugation of the flesh everyday as long as you're still breathing, with all that you can muster, mechanically till you reach a certain point where His life takes over completely from your effort. You can never be machine perfect at this before this point, else you wouldn't be needing Christ's life rising inside you.
Remember, this is not about performance. God is not scoring your failures or success. This is about engaging a spiritual law that persistence will connect you to the spiritual life inside you. So if you quit at any point, you miss out on experiencing the spiritual life and power that God has put inside you to deliver you.
But as you keep at attempting to deny the flesh each new opportunity despite countless failures, perseveringly, at a certain point, the mystery of resurrection life will be activated in you like Jesus after which you will experience His life rising in you liberating you from the flesh.
So from today, start denying the flesh every opportunity you can and decide to keep at it until you reach this certain point.
Determine not to look at ladies lustfully and continue no matter your failures, keep trying to stay away from stimulants, friends or movies, also not to speak what does not glorify God, to always put God's cause before your self interests, to put the needs of others above yours, to pray even when you don't feel like so, fast a lot even when you don't feel like, keep denying yourself in all such exercises until you experience Christ's manifested life in you.
Do not be deterred by your many failed attempts but just keep doing it and in due time, you will see victory when His life manifests to swallows up death in you. You find this principle in Col3:4- 8.
Of course doing all this without expecting the life of Christ to manifest in you ends up in religious/ ceremonial works
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by OB3344(m): 9:24am On Jul 26, 2020
Inteltower:
pray.

and make weekly goals of not indulging in pornography and masturbation.
avoid external influences that stimulate lustful feelings

and have a long term goal of not indulging in the 2 for 7 weeks. and you will see that addiction destroyed

even in the process when you fail keep trying it till you succeed

pray



You nailed it .... OP this is what u need to do ....it worked for a friend of mine perfectly.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by UDUJ(m): 9:24am On Jul 26, 2020
Masturbation is one of the most difficult things to quit same thing with watching porn. All thanks to the massive proliferation of various porn websites like xvideos, pornhub, xnxx, youporn etc etc with free videos and the availability of cheap data as well undecided

My advise for you: I know you've downloaded tonnes of these videos in your computer hard drive cheesy, start with deleting them. Then try engaging your mind with other things, people masturbate once the mind is empty grin

I know this because I am talking from experience undecided, it wasn't easy for me to quit. I had over 100 gigabytes of porn videos in my laptops and tablets while I was overseas. I just woke up one day and decided to delete everything, that was the first start. Then I got extra busy with my studies. Whenever I get Hot I call my girlfriend to ease the tension.

I quit mine with willpower ( I am not the churchy type) and I understand not everyone has the same willpower as I do but believe me when I say its doable. Cheers cool

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by dingbang(m): 9:24am On Jul 26, 2020
Get so much of sex to the extent that it repulses you whenever you think of it
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by DrFunmisticGlow: 9:25am On Jul 26, 2020
flackoFlint:
Bro
Get a steady Chick
You can get two on a Saturday......
Make you dey alright, you go give testimony
that's fornication and is putting him frim frying pan to fire

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by eedris07(m): 9:25am On Jul 26, 2020
The only advice that can only sllve your problem is you getting married.
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Nobody: 9:27am On Jul 26, 2020
growtogeda:
bros,
1. go and marry
2. get busy. only idle people get the time to masturbate .

Rushing into marriage has never been a way out of any besetting sexual sin.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by sgogungbe: 9:27am On Jul 26, 2020
Bro I feel ur pain, but my best advice is for u to get a girlfriend, better try n get married asap from that would kill ur sex urge, I know what runs in ur heart,

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Dhayor001(m): 9:27am On Jul 26, 2020
Tip.

I am a bit of an atheist so I'll keep it simple.

Porn and masturbation will not leave simply because you pray them away.

As a therapist also, I will say this, you don't want porn or masturbate just for the fun of it, your subconsciousness deals with pain, grief, need and loneliness by craving Oxytocin, often nicknamed “cuddle hormone”.

So, way forward? Deal with the things that make you need to release.

Take walks, read books, exercise, hang out with friends.

Furthermore, speak with someone. The best person would be an understanding partner. Second best person would be a therapist or counselor.

Also, take little steps but do not focus on them. Go a day without it. Then 2 days. Then a week, then 2 weeks. Then a month and so on. Do not celebrate any of these milestones by masturbating. You would only relapse.

PS. None of your perceived flaws can be traced in any way to masturbation. None!

So, go ahead and win in life. Whether an addict for 10 years or 10 days, trust me when I say, You can win!.

Cheers

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Maandy: 9:27am On Jul 26, 2020
You are not alone, 90% of Christians male and female have gone through this and are still going through it, but I bet you marrying cuts it down by 70% and loving and appreciating your spouse cuts it down more and the older you get the less it interest you, just keep pressing and never give up, it will finally give up.. Because it has been commanded that sin shall not have dominion over you, u are stronger than sin..through the blood, (mercy and forgiveness) God will keep forgiving you as long as you hate it anytime you fall, one day you will overcome it.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by smellingKPEKUS: 9:27am On Jul 26, 2020
StubbornGENIUS:
Nah Bro.A lot is wrong with these two things,and it gets worse when you become addicted.
tell me what is wrong and tell me what happens when addicted. you people sound as if masturbation is totally different from having sex
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by sokkatua: 9:28am On Jul 26, 2020
derrick015:
Good morning everyone.

The subject refers,
I am a Christian. However, I have been struggling with a whole lot of non Christian like habit. One of such habit is watching of pornography and masturbating. This habit has lingered for more than 10 years now.
I am an introvert probably what has made it worse and perpetual.
I don't like this act. But I usually still practice it.

I believe God loves me but he hates this act. I really don't know how to STOP IT.

Pls I need help. This has really affected my relationship with the Holy spirit, myself and other people please help.

Also I have discovered that in the past 2 years i have been so disorganized, and forgetful.

At work I have been termed a LIER. I feel really embarrassed with myself when people give me something and I forget I have been given or I don't know where exactly I kept it. Then I will be asked of the same thing I won't be able to find it. Sometimes I deny it was ever given to me because I can't remember It was ever given to me.

This has brought me a lot of struggles at work(banking) and has made me ever so frustrated with myself.

I WASN'T LIKE THIS[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] before. It so unfortunate this is happening to me.

My prayer life too has gone down the drain it's zero. I attend church service Sunday however due to the current lockdown I can say I don't have any relationship with God!

Please I need help



I feel your pain ,i struggled with both until about two years ago,i would have sex with my wife and secretly watched porn after ,it was so bad i was having many costly affairs in Canada and Nigeria just to fulfilled my perverted fantasies.I was eventually delivered from this satanic habits when my wife forced me to visit a reknown pastor at winners church in ibadan.I would strongly suggest to you to socialize more and turn to God for deliverance .I understand your pains ,i stuggled with both for 30 years

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Geekamon(m): 9:32am On Jul 26, 2020
All of you suggesting marriage as the solution are wrong. You really don't understand how it works at all. I've seen married men who have had their marriages threatened by this act.

You better fix it before marriage.

Op, if you need more help, send me a message. I'm was once in your shoes.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Shellsploit: 9:32am On Jul 26, 2020
RiyadhGoddess:
Let me grab my popcorn and iced zobo while I sit and learn from my elders in the ministry.


Op, kindly click on the link below, listen to the message and then thank me later if you wish to. A lot of persons most especially guys have testified of their freedom after listening to this message. Except if you are not ready to be free...



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkNdEw3YL8E
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Sirkingsnado: 9:33am On Jul 26, 2020
Brother plz find a man of GOD to pray for you undergo deliverance stop thinking abt them yes if u determin to stop it u wil becoz nobody force u into it bring ur bible start reading
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by phemmyfour: 9:33am On Jul 26, 2020
derrick015:
Good morning everyone.

The subject refers,
I am a Christian. However, I have been struggling with a whole lot of non Christian like habit. One of such habit is watching of pornography and masturbating. This habit has lingered for more than 10 years now.
I am an introvert probably what has made it worse and perpetual.
I don't like this act. But I usually still practice it.

I believe God loves me but he hates this act. I really don't know how to STOP IT.

Pls I need help. This has really affected my relationship with the Holy spirit, myself and other people please help.

Also I have discovered that in the past 2 years i have been so disorganized, and forgetful.

At work I have been termed a LIER. I feel really embarrassed with myself when people give me something and I forget I have been given or I don't know where exactly I kept it. Then I will be asked of the same thing I won't be able to find it. Sometimes I deny it was ever given to me because I can't remember It was ever given to me.

This has brought me a lot of struggles at work(banking) and has made me ever so frustrated with myself.

I WASN'T LIKE THIS[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] before. It so unfortunate this is happening to me.

My prayer life too has gone down the drain it's zero. I attend church service Sunday however due to the current lockdown I can say I don't have any relationship with God!

Please I need help
you can stop an habit by replacing the habit with another habit
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by kally90(f): 9:33am On Jul 26, 2020
I understand what you are going through because I was once in your shoe, I tried several times to stop but I still get back to watch porn and still masturbate but last month was a turn around AND i took a decision in alter of God that no what, am not going back to this despicable act which renders one useless for life. And with prayer, my persistent and God's help, am doing great and still waxing strong. One month now, no porn and no masturbation. The urge do come but I distract my self by praying and reciting some bible quotationsor I will just leave my room and go and sit with people outside or try to engage one in a discussion. It's difficult but you can do it, if I can. Just take it one day at a time and the rest will be history. With God, we can conquer all. Happy Sunday and remain blessed.

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by flackoFlint(m): 9:33am On Jul 26, 2020
DrFunmisticGlow:
that's fornication and is putting him frim frying pan to fire
better than masturbation

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Jahzrockballer(m): 9:34am On Jul 26, 2020
Openbusiness4:
Ok. See the solution for you here:

https://www.nairaland.com/5988103/stop-addiction-simple-mind-trick
I tried this trick two weeks ago and surprisingly it's working... If only people can try this genuinely, it really helped me
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by morris477(m): 9:36am On Jul 26, 2020
Always pray for Ur sins everyday forgiveness because we all have sinned
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by DrFunmisticGlow: 9:36am On Jul 26, 2020
flackoFlint:
better than masturbation
it's the end product of masturbation
Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by Lukebryan2sure: 9:37am On Jul 26, 2020
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Go through this topic on sperm retention
My first 3 weeks was 1 of the best weeks of my life for the past 10years or more....I was more alert I could handle task easily, I had more confidence, I socialise easily,I picked a new skill I had more goals and purpose to life and living,pornograghy especially is the worst,trying going for 2 weeks sperm retention... N see d difference

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by ainas247: 9:38am On Jul 26, 2020
OP
its not easy to get rid of masturbation but its doable...
try below..
1, First, Block pornography websites from your browsers. Its not easy, Just do it
2, Listen to Slow Heavenly Worship Songs All the time... Its not easy, Just do it (When you worship the Lord the devil flee)
3, Download Mp3 Drama Bible and listen to them - Its not easy, Just do it Faith comes by listening

Its not easy OP, Just do it. devil is a liar..

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Re: Pornography & Masturbation: A Struggling Christian Needs Help by hayatulimisticor(m): 9:39am On Jul 26, 2020
Pimpmaride:
Thank God I don't masturbate.

That shit doesn't thrill me at all.

So annoying..

As for porn, I don't really have urge to do it but once in a while I do. But I hardly watch it....

Don't fancy any of both...






Little is all you need to be a part.
Don't watch it atall

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