ipain:
These set of species are fond of broke shaming guys who develop interest in them. If they want to turn down a guy or end relationship, their most used weapon is to broke shame him.

My question is why do Nigerian girls love doing this? You are broke but you find it pleasing to broke shame another person.

If it was easy, you father and mother would have had it, which doesn't make sense to me.

One positive thing about this event is that in most cases, it pushes the guys to hustle hard to make more money, however it can also have negative consequences wherein the guy goes on to do fraud or he gets it legitimately but start treating girls like trash.

My advice is, if you want to turn down a guy or break up with him, do it respectably. There is no point trying to use a guy's present predicament to mock him because you don't know what he has in mind or what God has in store for him.

I will give you two scenarios: I go dye was once broke, forking bro, so much that he does some shows for almost free and one of those were my distant cousin's birthday party. Today, we all know where he is.

I don't know if anyone here know "the diamonds" who won the star music show years back.

Here is the thing: about 3 for them were from my school. Among that 3, 1 came from outside and through a roommate we became friends. What makes this guys story different is that his step mother maltreated him( the guy from outside among the 3 as he was not a student)

This very guy's name is Blessed. He used to seek my help to eat food and it got to a point, he started asking me to help him with my shoes to attend shows.

Blessed had a good voice and somehow along the line, he got into the show along with 2 other guys from my school. They eventually won, traveled to some countries and back, at that time, I did even have an international passport. Where they are now, I have no idea.

Just felt like sharing this story because you Nigerian girls from poor home are so fond of doing this broke shaming on souls you didn't create nor know their destiny.

I am not against turning guys down but never make a mockery of them just to make yourself feel good.

Walk:
'Cause they hate to see the sufferings of their parents being replayed.

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So why cant they use that energy to get rich themselves

Greatzeus:
It's called transfer of aggression. They grew up lacking the basic things of life. They saw their friends having better things than them,from clothes to shoes to cream and other necessities. So they grew up being angry at their pops for being poor,now that they are older,they want to escape such life desperately but the guys they meeting ain't exactly Wizzy or Tuface who will give them things their fathers couldn't give them. This make them mad at themselves,the guys and the whole world in short

Walk:
'Cause they hate to see the sufferings of their parents being replayed.

ipain:
Suffering of their parents being replayed? Is that more reason to go insulting another human? Why don't they insult their parents who brought them into penury?

Greatzeus:
It's called transfer of aggression. They grew up lacking the basic things of life. They saw their friends having better things than them,from clothes to shoes to cream and other necessities. So they grew up being angry at their pops for being poor,now that they are older,they want to escape such life desperately but the guys they meeting ain't exactly Wizzy or Tuface who will give them things their fathers couldn't give them. This make them mad at themselves,the guys and the whole world in short.....

Walk:
'Cause they hate to see the sufferings of their parents being replayed.

Walk:
Where's the fun in getting rich alone and dating a broke guy? See, i can't do it please.

Greatzeus:
It's called transfer of aggression. They grew up lacking the basic things of life. They saw their friends having better things than them,from clothes to shoes to cream and other necessities. So they grew up being angry at their pops for being poor,now that they are older,they want to escape such life desperately but the guys they meeting ain't exactly Wizzy or Tuface who will give them things their fathers couldn't give them. This make them mad at themselves,the guys and the whole world in short

Walk:
'Cause they hate to see the sufferings of their parents being replayed.

ipain:
I see. This is more like it. Thanks for the clarity and explanation.

It is not my nature to look down on others. Never have, never will.

Walk:
They can't choose and change their parents condition but can choose and change their boyfriends. Don't take it personal.

Karlifate:

That doesn't mean they should MOCK any guy because of his present 'predicament'.
They can politely turn him down without aggression.

chigoizie7:


Pathetic

Walk:
They can't choose and change their parents condition

but they can choose and change their boyfriends.

ipain:
Exactly... The poverty mentality is a serious disease. I came from a home where we had BAD ass money, our home was like market square with so many relatives but at a point, the money left our home and all men left as well.

Now, if you eventually find that man who has the money you want and say he loses it due to circumstances beyond his control, what will you do? DUMP him and look for the next available rich guy?

Karlifate:

They can actually change their parents' condition IF they are ambitious enough to discover & follow their purpose in life.
Be honest with yourself & look around (far & near), you'll see so many females who went beyond all odds to make it in life.

That means, they will keep on jumping from one guy to another.

Walk:
They can't choose and change their parents condition but can choose and change their boyfriends. Don't take it personal.

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Just say you are lazy domt blame everything on men.

Karlifate:

That doesn't mean they should MOCK any guy because of his present 'predicament' - while they are not even better themselves.
They can politely turn him down without aggression.

Walk:
don't also pin everything on us for choosing wealthier men. Go get rich boy.

ipain:
By their fruit, ye shall know them

Walk:
We were never talking about mocking guys, why did you bring that up? Pathetic.

ipain:
Exactly... The poverty mentality is a serious disease. I came from a home where we had BAD ass money, our home was like market square with so many relatives but at a point, the money left our home and all men left as well.

Now, if you eventually find that man who has the money you want and say he loses it due to circumstances beyond his control, what will you do? DUMP him and look for the next available rich guy?

Walk:
don't also pin everything on us for choosing wealthier men. Go get rich boy.

Walk:
don't also pin everything on us for choosing wealthier men. Go get rich boy.