she once dated a guy for 7 years who later disappointed her, before she met this her current guy who is dating her up till now.

Kriss216:


Wait, you want to marry a Nigerian girl that dated a guy for 7 years
Do you even think about the mileage of the kpekus you want to spend the rest of your life with? There's nothing left there for you to enjoy again. Kpekus otí baje!

Jamesz12:


Baba the kpekus is not the issue here
But sound home

Jamesz12:
There is this girl that is my life now, actually we met online around February of this year through the Facebook platform. She is 27 while I am 30 years old, see lives in Delta while I live in Lagos, she once dated a guy for 7 years who later disappointed her, before she met this her current guy who is dating her up till now.

Initially we were just chatting as casual frnds with no strings attached, she told me about herself, her relationship status, family background everything and I also told her mine.
Along the line one thing led to the other we started developing feelings for each other because she is exactly my kind of person. She doesn't pretend and she is real just like me. So we got along very well.
The point now is I am in a dilemma because she actually told me about her present boyfriend but she didn't tell the guy about me anyway, and I adore her for her sincerity and honesty towards, she asked me when we were about to start up the relationship if I could cope with it which I said yes because I felt by the time I give her enough reasons to love and trust me she will leave him, But as it stands she hides nothing from me, she tells me everything including what transpires between she and the other guy, recently the guy started suspecting her but she still denies having an affair with me.
She confided in me that she is looking for a tangible reason to leave the guy that she can't just leave him like that, that I should understand, and that was 3 months ago, again she categorically told me that marriage grounds will be a good reason to tell him it is over ( thats when I come for her hand in marriage). Now that was 3 months ago and I also felt because of what she passed through in the time past and being that she doesn't know me so well as at then, so I saw reasons with her. But at the moment I have taking her to my family, I plan to marry her, when even plan our future together, there is no step I take without her knowledge, I love her dearly and she knows it, infact sometimes she asks me why I love her so dearly the way I do, I intend marrying her only that I need to put some modalities on ground that will make us have a good home, of which financial stability can't be ruled out. I have told her all this things.

The problem her is that I feel she is using me as an option paradventure that other relationship doesn't work out, I feel she doesn't want to put all her eggs in one basket, hence her relationship with me too because she has refused to leave him, she doesn't post my picture and she deletes our chat because she doesn't want him to know, although I was the one who told her to do it when the guy was suspecting her and giving issues

Pls is there hope in this relationship or am I in the wrong relationship because I don't want to waste time afterall I am not getting any younger.
I need honest advice pls

rtdCivilservant:

Same way she would be dating a 3rd guy(that is if she is not already doing that) and be fooling the both of u. Seriously any girl that would do such in my opinion is not a nice person, how are u sure that same fate will not befall u?

Kriss216:


Wait, you want to marry a Nigerian girl that dated a guy for 7 years
Do you even think about the mileage of the kpekus you want to spend the rest of your life with? There's nothing left there for you to enjoy again. Kpekus otí baje!

michlins:
So the woman you're is somewhere this Sunday afternoon collecting enjoyment but you're here seeking advice.



Is it that there's no good girl around you who's single or why is it that you are still the "boyfriend in waiting"?

PureGoldh:
Funny enough

Sometimes,I wonder why some girls are more smarter than some dudes....smh

Bros,she is not dating you and you just dey busy dey fantasize another man property........this is a case of "Aboki man go dey polish shoe...Igbo man go dey wear am"

Jejely look for someone who can be more straight with you...that girl dey play you like Ludo.

Wise up man...cheers

donstan18:
She's in a relationship and has made it clear to you, but you keep chatting and pestering her.

Just like you are trying to convince a lady who's in a relationship to date you, so will another better guy convince her to break and shatter your heart.

I don't know why you people can't give people who are in a relationship a simple space. Always being so clingy and curious to know everything about them. Tufiakwa!!

Jamesz12:
There is this girl that is my life now, actually we met online around February of this year through the Facebook platform. She is 27 while I am 30 years old, see lives in Delta while I live in Lagos, she once dated a guy for 7 years who later disappointed her, before she met this her current guy who is dating her up till now.

Initially we were just chatting as casual frnds with no strings attached, she told me about herself, her relationship status, family background everything and I also told her mine.
Along the line one thing led to the other we started developing feelings for each other because she is exactly my kind of person. She doesn't pretend and she is real just like me. So we got along very well.
The point now is I am in a dilemma because she actually told me about her present boyfriend but she didn't tell the guy about me anyway, and I adore her for her sincerity and honesty towards, she asked me when we were about to start up the relationship if I could cope with it which I said yes because I felt by the time I give her enough reasons to love and trust me she will leave him, But as it stands she hides nothing from me, she tells me everything including what transpires between she and the other guy, recently the guy started suspecting her but she still denies having an affair with me.
She confided in me that she is looking for a tangible reason to leave the guy that she can't just leave him like that, that I should understand, and that was 3 months ago, again she categorically told me that marriage grounds will be a good reason to tell him it is over ( thats when I come for her hand in marriage). Now that was 3 months ago and I also felt because of what she passed through in the time past and being that she doesn't know me so well as at then, so I saw reasons with her. But at the moment I have taking her to my family, I plan to marry her, when even plan our future together, there is no step I take without her knowledge, I love her dearly and she knows it, infact sometimes she asks me why I love her so dearly the way I do, I intend marrying her only that I need to put some modalities on ground that will make us have a good home, of which financial stability can't be ruled out. I have told her all this things.

The problem her is that I feel she is using me as an option paradventure that other relationship doesn't work out, I feel she doesn't want to put all her eggs in one basket, hence her relationship with me too because she has refused to leave him, she doesn't post my picture and she deletes our chat because she doesn't want him to know, although I was the one who told her to do it when the guy was suspecting her and giving issues

Pls is there hope in this relationship or am I in the wrong relationship because I don't want to waste time afterall I am not getting any younger.
I need honest advice pls