Have You Ever heard of the principle of least interest?
The principle of least interest says that whoever has the least interest have the power in that relationship regardless of the person.
Lets apply this principle in dating.

As soon as a woman shows a man unlimited interest whatsoever, it usually isn’t long before his interest in her begins to dwindle.
It’s not by design, and it certainly doesn’t stem from an opposition to attention -- it’s just instinct.

People will forever want what they can’t have, and men are no different -- especially when it comes to the opposite gender-- which is why we'd much rather waste our time pursuing those who are out of our league or want nothing to do with us.

This notion is something formally identified as the “principle of least interest,” which pretty much grants the upper hand in any relationship to the one who gives the least amount of attention about it.

For instance, when she starts ignoring your texts -- it’ll only make you want to text her more often .
A few weeks back, however, when she was texting you three to four times throughout the morning, you were feeling yourself.

In theory, having a woman who’s transparent in her willingness to be together with you sounds like a novel idea. It almost sounds, dare I say, easy.

Two people being invested in a relationship, where both of them are mutually interested is the kind of sh*t you only see in fairy tales, rom-coms and telemundos. But rarely real life.

No, real-life relationships are meant to follow a push-pull motion, swaying back and forth with the momentum of whoever cares less.

And this is why, sometimes, I feel like humans are destined to be single: If relationships hinge on a principle of least interest, what’s the incentive of becoming invested in one in the first place?

Simple: We crave the torture. We want a challenge, however, the principle of least interest brings more than just a mere “challenge.”

Allow me to explain why the principle of least interest is really a fruitless cause and will likely only lead to a vicious cycle of interest and disinterest -- until someone finally taps out or finds someone new.


Phase 1: The meeting.
OK, so let’s say on Tuesday you meet a babe somewhere. At first glance, she seems great.
She’s got a pretty face, tells you all about this exciting career she’s following, even her friends seem pretty normal.
You take her number, and vow to call her within the week -- to “meet up,” maybe over “drinks or something.”


Phase 2: The first few moves.
Come Wednesday, you call her. No response. You think it’s a bit weird, but then again, you understand she’s probably super busy during the week, so you don’t pay it TOO much mind.
On thurday, you figure it’s the weekend, so you try her once more. Again, no reply.


Phase 3: The persistence.
Instead of taking a hint, like anyone with a modicum of common sense would do, and forgoing any further attempts with this chick -- it has only driven you nuts.
Now you’re not sure whether or not she gave you her real number in the first place.

You’re stifled, wondering why you’re not even worthy of a response, and there’s still part of you thinks she’s “just busy” with work.


Phase 4: Full-blown frenzy.
After a two days of plotting your next move, you text her morning, afternoon and nd night, too.
By this point, you’re on the cusp of obsession with this chick.

She replies, finally, but she’s hardly as enthusiastic as you would’ve hoped. And that stings like a dagger.
See, ignored texts are better than short texts -- at least that’s how I’ve always viewed them.


Phase 5: The fallback.
While ignored texts might simply be the result of carelessness or an overstocked message inbox -- short texts are deliberate; they’re cold .

For her to respond back with a “nmu” means she’s either teleported back to kindergarten or she’s just genuinely not into you.
So at that point, you diverge. You realize she’s not who you thought she was, and you fall back.


Phase 6: A sign of hope.
You don’t text her for a week, and what happens next simply blows your mind: The following Tuesday evening, around 6:45 pm, you feel a vibration in your pocket.
It’s your phone . You open up the text message and -- bam! -- it’s her: “Hey, haven’t heard from you in a while.”


Phase 7: The vow to avoid.
HA, you think to yourself, “ Sure, she hasn’t heard from me in a while because she barely mustered up the ambition to reply to my last few texts – and the ones she did rarely exceeded four-to-seven-character responses. ”


Phase 8: The turn of the tide.
But now you’re smarter. You recognize how much of an impact this chick can have on your feelings, and you know better than to fall back into that rut.

You decide to turn the tables, so to speak, on her. Now it’s time for YOU to do the ignoring.


Phase 9: Frenzy on her end.
Next thing you know it, she’s blowing up your phone three to five times a day, like a mother does to her son during first year of college.

By the time you’ll actually decide to answer her, however, she’ll probably have lost interest in you.

But you try anyway (and start fresh at Phase Two).
Like I said, it’s nearly impossible to win. The best thing you can do is try to remain neutral with your emotions.
If you show a chick you’re too interested, it usually won’t be long before you drive her away.

If you play hard to get -- sometimes you play a little too hard, and it’s equally as ineffective.
It all comes down to moderation.

Chai...