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Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by xynerise: 7:33pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
wirinet: Reason why every woman should see "housewifing" as an impending disaster 5 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Karleb(m): 7:35pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx: This is funny. Only a poor man will be intimidated by this. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by culf: 7:36pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
No, its never a bad idea. i know alot of women that did that and they're reaping the fruit of their patience now. though most of the younger generation ladies will not agree but few of them still do it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Tannhauser(m): 7:36pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
xynerise:She's 100% right 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by TransAtlanticEx(m): 7:36pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Karleb:Who told you so? Go and stop her na. 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by saajus: 7:37pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
If there is no physical or emotional violence that could lead to death or mental issues, it may make sense. If the issues are just minor things that could be fixed, staying is a better option Many children from single parents are turning out great. So, leaving when the wahala is too much is not a bad idea too. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Karleb(m): 7:38pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Deicide: This life no balance. In theory we don't have deadbeat mum but in practical the case is difference. |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Ladycewhy(f): 7:38pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Mindlog:Op , nothing left to be said after this comment. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Lexusgs430: 7:38pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Very bad idea....... If you have tried all, and failed...... Simply go through a trial separation first, then if not working........ Divorce..... 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by GboyegaD(m): 7:46pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
It depends on many things and the situation is what determines if the person should remain or not. 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by bukatyne(f): 7:47pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
xynerise: Hmmmmmmmmm Between the devil and the deep blue sea. While you want your kids to have stability, you also do not want them to think the abnormal traits your partner has is 'okay'. Afterall, if daddy beat mummy and she stayed, why should I end an abusive relationship? If daddy endured mummy's emotional abuse, why can't I endure Titi's manipulations? Sometimes, the home becomes so toxic that the kids while physically fine, are emotionally damaged and are not fit to sustain romantic relationships until they undergo some sort of therapy or introspection. You also have kids replicating the pattern of their parents. Walkong out of relationships often times bring instability to the kids. That is why I would always scream people should do very very due diligence before they marry. Consult whatever you believe before choosing a spouse. A martial mistake is sometimes almost impossible to correct. 6 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by xynerise: 7:55pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
bukatyne: Word!! 2 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by emkz: 8:00pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Sometimes, it is best to separate/divorce for the sake of the children. Some people pretend to be happy thinking the children cannot feel the tension between them. Do not raise children in a toxic environment. You may do more damage to their psyche and create damaged people all over the place. If you know you can't hold it together, leave and find out the best way to raise the children. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by McTobe(m): 8:07pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
This thread got me very emotional. There are some things that we should not pray to happen, in our lives. I rather move out of my house for my wife and children, than allow her move out with them to God knows what situation. I rather bear any shit from their mother and allow them get up to eighteen years and once they can take care of themselves, off she goes. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
It could be. |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Dalby(m): 8:09pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
xynerise: First of all you have lived a greater part of your life, your kids haven't. Second you made the wrong choice of man or woman as the case may be, so why should the poor kids suffer for your error of judgement For me if the abuse could lead to the death of someone, then and only then would sepration be a better option than staying together. My thoughts... |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by chloride6: 8:10pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Did you marry because of the kids in the first place? What if the pickin papa and mama don die for small him no go live him life? 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
McTobe:This sounds reasonable, however be certain your life isn't at risk. 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Dalby(m): 8:12pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
bukatyne: Which due diligence will you do to know your spouse will be unfaithful in the future |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by blackgold7777(f): 8:21pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
[quote author=TransAtlanticEx post=92670527]Poor women excuse.
YOU LIE SMALL SAY LAZY WOMEN EXCUSE (NFA WOMEN) |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by SeriouslySense(m): 8:22pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Thank you, very beautiful write. Palema007: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Topsic70: 8:24pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
If for d sake of d children, its a welcome development. Majority of d villains in d society are pdts of broken homes. |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by pocohantas(f): 8:27pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
truthsayer009: I am not even gonna lie, my reasons for staying won’t be in his best interest. For his own good, he shouldn’t think otherwise. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Kingzeez10: 8:29pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
This is the only reason i indebt to my mom till i die, its obvious to me he's not enjoying the marriage yet she chose to stay. Let me tell you a little story, my dad asked my mom to relocate to his family house because the house is always empty unknown to her that my dad is getting married to another woman,he got married to another woman after the 3rd day of leaving the house. He promised to be checking on us every Sunday and he did that for the first few months and stopped checking on us. To be continued... 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 8:30pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Staying and fighting in front of the kids is more damaging than parting ways. You can be a parent from afar. Most women use kids as excuse for staying in a bad marriage. While most couple live as flat mates and yet kick against seperation. If couples know the psychological effects of fighting in front their kids while trying to safe the marriage, they would rather separate and save the kids that the traumatic experience of growing up with both parents who hate each other. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by Averys(f): 8:32pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
Here |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:34pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
xynerise:But it's true, no matter what, the fear of starting over from scratch is real 1 Like |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:36pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
pocohantas:exactly. If a man thinks he can make me miserable, he has another thing coming. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 8:37pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
emkz:Our people don't know how bad it is bringing up kids is war zone. When husband and wife are always at war. They cheat and go without talking for weeks and they think they are helping the kids. Then they expect their kids to behave better that those whose parents seperated and one took them and gave them all the love, attention and care they needed. When the couple are busy fighting and pretending just to keep a marriage that's not working, they barely have time to show love and attention to the kids 4 Likes |
Re: Is Preserving A Marriage For The Sake Of The Children A Bad Idea? by DrFunmisticGlow: 8:38pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
McTobe:By the time they're 18, you'll be so used to the sham of a marriage that yoy won't want to move out. Time has gone afterall 1 Like |
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