In any relationship, the one who needs the other the most is considered the weaker one. This is why many ladies are against being the one to tell a guy she likes his first. But there’s a loophole here, and that is the approach.

How you approach this revelation to a guy will determine if he should run or respect you. Respect comes in if he doesn’t reciprocate this feeling. And the approach is simple: confidence.

When you’re confident and non-needy, you’re like honey to a bee. He would get attracted to you sooner or later. Humans are generally attracted to self-confidence, humour, sassiness, whit, etc. So, when you show these traits, especially the first, you tend to light a lamp in his camp.

While men like to do the chasing, they also like a self-confident woman who knows what she wants. Get rid of that neediness as this tends to kill any sign of butterflies in the belly. Also, while confidence is the key, don’t be overbearing as this can turn him off.

If you’ve loved someone for the longest time, but have no clue how to let them know, then the following tips are for you.

Four ways to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off

1. Flirt: Flirting is an art that must be mastered with perfection. You’re just one wrong step away from being a weirdo. Therefore, you need to skilfully make eye contact, smile, compliment him, casually touch his arm when laughing, etc. Flirting is the universal way of showing attraction so it can be a good signal of how you feel without actually using words. He may probably end up asking you out – first. You’d never know until you try.

2. Pay attention to him: If you want him to know how you feel, you can show him how amazing you are. No one wants to be with the wrong person so let him ‘see’ you. Listen to him, compliment him, seek his advice, etc.

3. Ask him out: Hello, we’re in the 21st century so asking a guy out on a date is not an abomination. You can ask him to hang out with you somewhere casual. Don’t be obvious by picking out a romantic spot. While on this date, get to know him more while he does likewise. Even if he doesn’t show any interest in getting to know, chip in some Fact 101 about you.

4. Be his friend: Some would say, NO! Because being a friend to someone you like is just asking for trouble. But how do you know if you really like this guy if you aren’t even close enough? We all get easily caught up in Lalaland where we see these people the way we want to. We ignore the signs that they aren’t so perfect because we’re watching from a distance. This is why you need to get closer to see closer. Then you can determine if you want to stay friends or reveal the big secret, “I like you.” Also, remember, great relationships are built from great friendships.

Handling Rejection

Times have changed for you as you’ve gotten older. Back in the days, you could snub a guy or blatantly tell him you like him.

However, the teen years are gone and you can’t even feign innocence. For guys, getting a NO only makes them believe it’s a challenge to keep trying however annoying it may be. But girls get a NO and feel hurt, even if she nurses that rejection longer than she should, she would never look back.

Fact is, the way girls and guys handle rejection is different. He may say no to you, but that doesn’t mean you should stay down forever or be a guy about it and keep nagging about ‘feelings’. Dust yourself up and move on.

Whether it’s in a relationship or in life issues, rejection is inevitable and you just have to get right up and move on when it happens. That makes you stronger. You are strong!

Or just tell him


U will not die if u just tell him...

Vyzz:
Or just tell him



U will not die if u just tell him...

Really?

Ladies this is Nigeria o.... whatever yhu do ....do not ask a guy out. ....E get why ...

Even after all this, mans still not kneeling to pop the Q.

Everything was going well until it got to no 3 "ask him out" there and then Nigerian girls left the table

Chuksdede:
Everything was going well until it got to no 3 "ask him out" there and then Nigerian girls left the table

Them go free �