proclinician:
Hmmm God forbid evil spirit. Through out corona he is working, risking it all while you're doing what? Fixing lashes? Now the money he made throughout the period u want him to give them to u is that it? Nawaoo. Go and make ur own money na... Are u disabled? Like no arm or no leg sort of?

WonderWoman5775:
Hello everyone, this is my first time seeking advice here on nairaland and this is something I just can't get my mind around..
My relationship with my boyfriend will be 2yrs next month and our relationship have only come this far as a result of understanding and love we have for each other... He's a student just like me and all this while I never asked him for money unless he gives me himself, but he doesn't always do so
We are in our finals and he has been working throughout the corona period and I think he has been able to save money... I need money right now and I don't know how to ask him..
I never asked all this while when school was in
session because I don't want to put pressure on him... I don't know how to tell him that I need money because he won't give me voluntarily..

Lee99:

Lol I don’t bet first of all, secondly I don’t think you realize what a loan means, I did not ask anybody to dash me money, I clearly stated that I would Pay back within the stipulated time and even with an interest of 15% so you are just talking like a drunkard, I don’t blame you you must be very frustrated as for myself I’m currently living a very good life so shalom.

proclinician:


Haha lol. Okay I am a disgrace. Do you all agree guys?

WonderWoman5775:
I know I'm not alone in this kind of situation, those who don't understand me are free to use those unnecessary words I won't pay attention to you
I'm not looking for tactics and I'm just confused on why I feel this way,
asking for money from my partner would make me feel like I'm cheap.. Or that I am the typical Nigeria girl that only wants to collect money from guys

WonderWoman5775:

I don't feel entitled and I'm not the kind of girl you are trying so hard to paint.. I know guys that give their girlfriend money for petty things like hair, clothes and whatnot without the girl even asking
Everyone is different and I personally would never put a guy in a position to make him feel responsible for me

Tango123:


Are u saying she should depend on her husband for money

What if the husband becomes sick, dead, abusive, a drunkard?

I was advicing the young lady to grow up to be financially resourceful and independent. This is because depending on anyone breeds disrespect, is dangerous, and will likely compromise her abilities to live a happy fulfilled life, and could make her stay with somwone for the money even when she is unhappy or her life is at risk. Tell me what is wrong in that

chukwuibuipob:
kip quiet.U are still in Ur late 20s.u knw nothing.So,why come her to seek for loan? Did the Op beg a riffraff like u for assistance? Do u even knw what she need the money for? Nut

SweetCunt97:
Pls shut it. Yen yen. Men will continue to cater for ladies and nothing una talk fit stop am. Just dey expose unaself.

SweetCunt97:
I think that shows understanding. Cos many gurl will ask you for money knowing you not working as a guy. It's common sense for her to assume d guy may have money enough to assist her. Funny enough this money fit no even reach 15k... Wey better man go ask her to post her account number and send una dey here dey advertise frustration.

She for open this thread for family section, atleast reasonable mature males full there.

Lee99:

Lol op said she needs it to acquire a skill, Is that’s not what a reasonable person should ask their father for rather than a fellow struggling undergraduate? I hope you’ll be happy if your son gets such a parasitic leech to call his girlfriend

WonderWoman5775:
I know I'm not alone in this kind of situation, those who don't understand me are free to use those unnecessary words I won't pay attention to you
I'm not looking for tactics and I'm just confused on why I feel this way,
asking for money from my partner would make me feel like I'm cheap.. Or that I am the typical Nigeria girl that only wants to collect money from guys

IMAMofPEACE:



Sister, thank God you said he is a student just like you, meaning you two are both hustling for money.

When dating, why do people see it as poverty alleviation scheme? Why!!!!!


You said during the lockdown he was working, let me ask you, why did you no work also?
Let me guess you are a fine girl and you can't do the kind of work he was doing or what?


Sister the earlier you get it that you both are students and you can't be putting your responsibility on him, the better.


Sorry to ask, what about your parents, can't you tell them you need money? Or they won't give you?

Because I know if the thing you wanna use the money for is something that makes sense and sound right, your parents will be willing to rally round to get you the money

NeeKlaus:

Okay, I understand your point. You don't normally ask him and you take care of your needs yourself but right now, you are in a very tight position and you have no other choice.

This is what you mean, right?

WonderWoman5775:
yea you are right and it's not like I don't really have other options

NeeKlaus:

If you have other options that you can afford to resort to without going to your boyfriend (reasonable options o not other guys), then do so.

But if you don't, then ask your boyfriend. Tell him it's urgent and critical. A loving boyfriend would help out.

My only problem is where you now make it a norm and constantly ask him. That's the entitlement mentality I wouldn't like.

1StopRudeness:


.. it’s okay to need money, we all need it.....

But go and read what your wrote ....your words have entitlement mentality smelling all over it.... it’s classic parasite 101....

Wonder Woman... don’t go and work .. be waiting for us to teach u the tactics of how to collect money from your bf......


let me tell u how ur mates use to do it... tell him you are pregnant... abortion is 25k... are u happy now..

Lee99:

Lol I later raised the funds myself and done with my service. You my friend are really stupid for someone Who claims to be my father’s mate

cezarman:


Don't mind the pauper. Let him help the girl, he refused, saying she didn't ask him directly.
But he keeps encouraging her to go and leech a guy (her Bf, also a student like her oh) who's obviously hustling to secure his future.
Na mumu oldman.

The equally mumu geh was secretely watching her bf hustling/saving, while she's busy cooking formats to empty his account.
Isn't that wickedness?

cezarman:


Don't mind the pauper. Let him help the girl, he refused, saying she didn't ask him directly.
But he keeps encouraging her to go and leech a guy (her Bf, also a student like her oh) who's obviously hustling to secure his future.
Na mumu oldman.

The equally mumu geh was secretely watching her bf hustling/saving, while she's busy cooking formats to empty his account.
Isn't that wickedness?

WonderWoman5775:

Lol he came to beg for money online because there's no one close to him physically to borrow from, people Don vanish for e area?.. He should just accept that he's an online begger
What I need money is not a matter of life or death if my boyfriend doesn't give me I'm still going to pay for it, I just considered it as an option to ask him..

Preshieben:
you are a disgrace

chukwuibuipob:
. Sometimes,it is not good to seek advice on faceless forum like diz.All u'll get nah insult.But dnt allow diz negative to weight u down..Go ahead and ask him

Lee99:

omo ase like you, come I will feed you, hungry leech coming online to ask people how to extort your poor undergraduate bf, is it not God that will punish you? olofo, shameless being, It will not be well with that your bf if he gives you that money, don't go and work and earn money be waiting for man, na your coochie I pity, werey

Akinbahm:


Women and power is very toxic to humanity at large that's why our women Professors are very mean...

Only few nowadays woman humbles themselves for their husband when they are financially independent and we all know what the outcome is always about...

We are pushing our ladies to be independent which in future I hope we wont suffer for it, women see things as a competition that's why our Fore Mothers nd Mothers strived hard to maintain their respective home without threatening our fathers with divorce but nowadays women who haven't reach financial independence peak has 1millions reason to file you a divorce all because shes financially stable than her husband...

Majority women knw themselves they can't respect a man who's below their financial status and that's why they always go for the highest bidder come to think of it when ladies keep getting financial independence what's the fate of Men out there with lesser money to theirs hence, they start controlling Men here & there and we are all know that leadership skills is lacking from their features.

I mean no harm to women, all I care for is putting each gender in it place and put halt in playing each other roles...

WonderWoman5775:


Don't get me wrong I'm not that kind of girl.. It's not like I'm dependent on him, I just need a little money from him. I just can't bring myself to ask.. I don't know how other girls do it, it's like a bridge that's too high to cross for me, it's not even pride that's holding me back,
I think it's the fear of him seeing me as the picture you just painted

Regex:


What happened to your time during the corona period?

Tango123:


I get ur point. But i am more liberal than you. Which is not a disrespect of ur position. Just saying that i am more liberal. But u are entitled to ur position sir

I believe a good woman will not threaten a man with divorce if she earns more.

However if a woman earn more than me and wants to leave, that's ok. Because my money was never wasted on her or spent on hair and make up.

I have qlways been q wise person. I never spend foolishly on women, whether u are my wife, or back in d days of girlfriend

Dont get me wrong. I have been charitable to people, both males and females. Helping them set up businesses. I did it based on merit, not because u have pussy. Those i helped were not even my girlfriends or FWBs.

If i helped a girlfriend, it will be based on need, and u the woman must have sweated to raise capital, and it will be a loan u hvto pay back.

Say no to stupidity

Akinbahm:


At the bolded attested that women not all but majority will overreact to their men when they earn more than him and the probability of she not leaving one sorry ass after a little disagreement is very slim which is proportionally affecting the family & society...

cezarman:


Don't mind the pauper. Let him help the girl, he refused, saying she didn't ask him directly.
But he keeps encouraging her to go and leech a guy (her Bf, also a student like her oh) who's obviously hustling to secure his future.
Na mumu oldman.

The equally mumu geh was secretely watching her bf hustling/saving, while she's busy cooking formats to empty his account.
Isn't that wickedness?