My friend's name is Tope. He is based in Ghana. He has had his fair of relationships though but he has this gf more like a fiance that he is wants to settle down with.

So they have a very serious relationship at that. They love each other; the girl literally gets sick when they have issues. However, my guy has this issue - he complains that the girl does not keep to things. Like, when cooking, she forgets the food, it gets burnt and gives excuses that she forgot. My guy has asked her to take church seriously; she starts out seriously and there and then she will stop; that she forgot that there is service. Her attitude to life is like that; her only excuse is "I forgot" and according to him, she is not working at it. The church part worries him though especially as regards raising Godly children. Also, the gf is seriously into getting married asap while my guy is still tryna find his feet. She wants a setting where they would just formalize everything and build up together but my friend is skeptical cos he feels it might slow his plans down. although, he really wants to settle down with the girl.

So basically, I told him to have a word with the girl on the issue at hand but he said the girl is too emotional to have a fair hearted discussion about everything. He doesnt want to hurt her. Also, he said that when he talked to her about the forgetfulness, she responds like being forgetful is a legitimate reason not to keep to things. Even when she promises to change, its also same story.

I tried thinking of any method but cant figure any.

Can the mature folks in the house help?

Your friend should still dialogue with her concerning her challenges irrespective of her emotional attachment. The future is keen not even the current.

Noblemarce:
Your friend should still dialogue with her concerning her challenges irrespective of her emotional attachment. The future is keen not even the current.

The thing is like he told me..

He has tried many times but she has always gone back to step 0.

More like making excuses that no one is perfect.

You know the whole emotional black mail thing

Kentura:
That kin girl go show him pepper when they finally settle down. She'd probably forget to pick up the kids from school

Me too sef. I'm still seeing it from that perspective.

Cos I told him that raising a family is above love. There has to be discipline and all that. Even more that the mom will be the one to spend more time with the kids.

that girl has her focus and mind on other guys that she thinks are better than him.

she will soon start to disrespect him.

he should focus on himself

Your friend is still finding his feet


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