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Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by icenti: 10:19pm On Sep 02, 2020
Hello NLders, after reading this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5910696/how-eradicate-all-simps-society I have a strong reason to think I’m a simp. Please help, I don’t want to be a simp anymore. It’s really draining the life outta me.

PornLegend:
You can't be delivered without giving the exorcists some exposition aka back story.

Tell us how you got to where you presently are, and we will tell you the way forward

It all started when I met this girl during the lockdown. I asked her for her number and so we started chatting on WhatsApp. Fast forward to a few days, she asked me for help and given I’m a cheerful giver and I really want to date a girl desperately, I sent her the 3000 she asked. Two weeks later, I asked her out, took her on a date. We had dinner together and told her my intentions. How ever she said she was gonna think about it. Ever since then she comes to my place with her friends and they eat all sort of things, empty drinks from my fridge, grill the chicken I keep in my fridge. Hosting them a week cost me close to 40k and that’s when I’m hosting at my place. So I told her why is she doing this to me with tears in my eyes although we were alone. I asked her why hasn’t she made up her mind yet and that I love her. She asked for more time. 3 days later. She finally agreed but I must first take her for shopping. We did all that. I got her things. Now since July, I’ve been begging her for sex but she keeps telling me it’s not her thing however I see WhatsApp notifications from her phone where guys ask her to come over and most of these guys name are saved with love emoji. She doesn’t take most calls when she’s around and she flare up when I try having a conversation about it with her. It’s like I have to plead for everything. I think I’m a simp.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by PornLegend: 10:22pm On Sep 02, 2020
You can't be delivered without giving the exorcists some exposition aka back story.

Tell us how you got to where you presently are, and we will tell you the way forward
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by icenti: 10:35pm On Sep 02, 2020
PornLegend:
You can't be delivered without giving the exorcists some exposition aka back story.

Tell us how you got to where you presently are, and we will tell you the way forward

I updated the thread.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Munirboss(m): 10:40pm On Sep 02, 2020
If you ask me, na who i go ask. shocked
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by eazzzy1(m): 10:49pm On Sep 02, 2020
if You beg to have someone, you will beg to keep them.

You are already aware that the relationship isn’t beneficial to you, so just drop it. It’s not time to learn about how not to be a simp.

Dump her and learn your lesson, don’t beg or buy your next girlfriend.

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by AfroKnight: 10:51pm On Sep 02, 2020
First of all you have to let that girl go. In an attempt to flip the tables you may end up being cruel instead.

First of all tell that girl bye bye. Because you don cast already. Then start afresh with a new babe. Let her know what you expect from the relationship and spend more money on yourself than you spend on her. That’s if she’s into transactional relationships like your present babe. It is rare that you would find a girl who isn’t interested in spending your money. Very rare. So don’t expect that.

Always put yourself first. Always. Treat yourself like a King.

Last but not least, don’t be a victim.

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by icenti: 11:02pm On Sep 02, 2020
AfroKnight:
First of all you have to let that girl go. In an attempt to flip the tables you may end up being cruel instead.

First of all tell that girl bye bye. Because you don cast already. Then start afresh with a new babe. Let her know what you expect from the relationship and spend more money on yourself than you spend on her. That’s if she’s into transactional relationships like your present babe. It is rare that you would find a girl who isn’t interested in spending your money. Very rare. So don’t expect that.

Always put yourself first. Always. Treat yourself like a King.

Last but not least, don’t be a victim.

But how can you say you love a girl without spending on her. I will try. But I’m just trying to be caring.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by AfroKnight: 11:15pm On Sep 02, 2020
icenti:


But how can you say you love a girl without spending on her. I will try. But I’m just trying to be caring.

Love is a two-way connection. If you only feel love from her when you spend then you should know that your relationship is on “pay as you go” tariff plan.

There should always be a separate compartment in your heart for spending. Don’t lump it up with the part of your heart that loves. Reward her if she deserves it but never you indulge her. You must guard your heart cos these ladies are, by default, not nice to gentlemen who are generous.

Always let her know you have expectations. She herself has expectations which include shopping, gifts and dates. Lookout for yourself FIRST. When you feel the pressure to spend on her, divert that money to yourself. Invest in yourself.

Don’t be afraid to be called stingy. That term is often used by stingy people who are unhappy that they cannot take advantage of you. If she calls you stingy and she herself has not spent a dime on you, wear the label with pride. Apologise to her then disappoint her again.

Relationship is give and TAKE. If she’s the only one taking them there is a problem.

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Nobody: 11:15pm On Sep 02, 2020
icenti:


But how can you say you love a girl without spending on her. I will try. But I’m just trying to be caring.
Mr nice guy, grin grin angry grin

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by fineboynl(m): 12:35am On Sep 03, 2020
I stop reading at hosting them a week cost you 40k.
if true. your SIMP is out of this world.

just change phone number. and avoid her completely

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by DAVECENA(m): 1:03am On Sep 03, 2020
AfroKnight:


Love is a two-way connection. If you only feel love from her when you spend then you should know that your relationship is on “pay as you go” tariff plan.

There should always be a separate compartment in your heart for spending. Don’t lump it up with the part of your heart that loves. Reward her if she deserves it but never you indulge her. You must guard your heart cos these ladies are, by default, not nice to gentlemen who are generous.

Always let her know you have expectations. She herself has expectations which include shopping, gifts and dates. Lookout for yourself FIRST. When you feel the pressure to spend on her, divert that money to yourself. Invest in yourself.

Don’t be afraid to be called stingy. That term is often used by stingy people who are unhappy that they cannot take advantage of you. If she calls you stingy and she herself has not spent a dime on you, wear the label with pride. Apologise to her then disappoint her again.

Relationship is give and TAKE. If she’s the only one taking them there is a problem.

Wisdom!!!! Bless up bruh

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by DAVECENA(m): 1:07am On Sep 03, 2020
icenti:
Hello NLders, after reading this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5910696/how-eradicate-all-simps-society I have a strong reason to think I’m a simp. Please help, I don’t want to be a simp anymore. It’s really draining the life outta me.



It all started when I met this girl during the lockdown. I asked her for her number and so we started chatting on WhatsApp. Fast forward to a few days, she asked me for help and given I’m a cheerful giver and I really want to date a girl desperately, I sent her the 3000 she asked. Two weeks later, I asked her out, took her on a date. We had dinner together and told her my intentions. How ever she said she was gonna think about it. Ever since then she comes to my place with her friends and they eat all sort of things, empty drinks from my fridge, grill the chicken I keep in my fridge. Hosting them a week cost me close to 40k and that’s when I’m hosting at my place. So I told her why is she doing this to me with tears in my eyes although we were alone. I asked her why hasn’t she made up her mind yet and that I love her. She asked for more time. 3 days later. She finally agreed but I must first take her for shopping. We did all that. I got her things. Now since July, I’ve been begging her for sex but she keeps telling me it’s not her thing however I see WhatsApp notifications from her phone where guys ask her to come over and most of these guys name are saved with love emoji. She doesn’t take most calls when she’s around and she flare up when I try having a conversation about it with her. It’s like I have to plead for everything. I think I’m a simp.


I really don't know what to say right now but as for the girls, i would have told you how to pay them back in their own coin but you won't do it.. you're just too simpful and calm.
On the contrary, learn to grow some balls bruh.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by DaddyRochie1642(f): 2:05am On Sep 03, 2020
AfroKnight:
First of all you have to let that girl go. In an attempt to flip the tables you may end up being cruel instead.

First of all tell that girl bye bye. Because you don cast already. Then start afresh with a new babe. Let her know what you expect from the relationship and spend more money on yourself than you spend on her. That’s if she’s into transactional relationships like your present babe. It is rare that you would find a girl who isn’t interested in spending your money. Very rare. So don’t expect that.

Always put yourself first. Always. Treat yourself like a King.

Last but not least, don’t be a victim.




AfroKnight ma nigga

Always Spitting Knowledge,

#Respect
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by mumumugu(m): 2:38am On Sep 03, 2020
Be ready to loose her. Shout at her, tell her to get out from your life forever. That was you get your power vack
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by AfroKnight: 6:16am On Sep 03, 2020
DaddyRochie1642:





Afro Knight ma nigga

Always Spitting Knowledge,

#Respect

Thanks man.

Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by AfroKnight: 6:20am On Sep 03, 2020
DAVECENA:


Wisdom!!!! Bless up bruh

Thanks bro.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by 1beat(m): 6:32am On Sep 03, 2020
at times you learn by experience
by the time you hv nothing to eat again, there is know money with you again and people you are spending on didn't appreciate you your brain will reset ..

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by gaius01(m): 7:43am On Sep 03, 2020
icenti:
Hello NLders, after reading this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5910696/how-eradicate-all-simps-society I have a strong reason to think I’m a simp. Please help, I don’t want to be a simp anymore. It’s really draining the life outta me.



It all started when I met this girl during the lockdown. I asked her for her number and so we started chatting on WhatsApp. Fast forward to a few days, she asked me for help and given I’m a cheerful giver and I really want to date a girl desperately, I sent her the 3000 she asked. Two weeks later, I asked her out, took her on a date. We had dinner together and told her my intentions. How ever she said she was gonna think about it. Ever since then she comes to my place with her friends and they eat all sort of things, empty drinks from my fridge, grill the chicken I keep in my fridge. Hosting them a week cost me close to 40k and that’s when I’m hosting at my place. So I told her why is she doing this to me with tears in my eyes although we were alone. I asked her why hasn’t she made up her mind yet and that I love her. She asked for more time. 3 days later. She finally agreed but I must first take her for shopping. We did all that. I got her things. Now since July, I’ve been begging her for sex but she keeps telling me it’s not her thing however I see WhatsApp notifications from her phone where guys ask her to come over and most of these guys name are saved with love emoji. She doesn’t take most calls when she’s around and she flare up when I try having a conversation about it with her. It’s like I have to plead for everything. I think I’m a simp.


Bro I feel your plight
Follow this steps and thank me lerra grin grin

1. Delete everything thing about that girl from your phone be it chat, her number and her phones. Don't forget to black list her, because she's not any good fellow but a cheat.

2. Work on your self, reduce your nice guy, nice guy thing. Is not everything a person ask you, you give. Be smart to study people most especially when you will give but you can't gain anything from them. Like advice and there about.

3. Don't introduce money to a girl to fasten her answer about your proposal or love. Because when you do, you have given her a hand to be place in the black list.

4. Avoid girls knowing your mumu botton, if a girl know that, she will inflict your emotions so that she can get what she want from you. Your present Bea know your mumu botton, which is being "mr nice guy", " desperate", "easily cajole" and many others.

5. Now get a Bea, after that tell her your intentions. If she don't answer you niggi move on or to make her hunger date her best friend. Don't allow over emotion to be a head in your decision.

6. Never take a lady serious, cause when the heart break come Omo it will be too bad. Take your self as no 1 priority, family and friends then her unless she love you much then replace her with friends position.

7. With the above you can stop being a simps but if you follow Red pillers teaching forget it you will be a beast in sooner time. Follow thier teaching but don't allow the hate part to be over you. Be cool a gentle man. Who can't be manipulated by women and at the same time a loving fellow.

8. Las Las ask God for self control not to do things that will reduce your intergrity because of a girl.

That's all I can say Bro, best of luck.

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by wisethoughts(m): 7:54am On Sep 03, 2020
I admire your sincerity and readiness to learn and change... There's a WhatsApp group I'm in that will help you change... Reply with your phone number if interested or drop it in this thread below


https://www.nairaland.com/5980776/redpillers-online-group
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by icenti: 9:15pm On Sep 03, 2020
wisethoughts:
I admire your sincerity and readiness to learn and change... There's a WhatsApp group I'm in that will help you change... Reply with your phone number if interested or drop it in this thread below


https://www.nairaland.com/5980776/redpillers-online-group

08134881580.

I tried deleting her number today but I still somehow added it back. Or could it be that I’m in love ?
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Nobody: 9:17pm On Sep 03, 2020
first thing to do is reduce the way u watch zeeworld and telemondo
both zeeworld and telemondo can be destructive to the way a man reasons

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by SmellySperm(m): 10:23pm On Sep 03, 2020
simping is a disorder...
you need to be checked in "correction department bro"

Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:44pm On Sep 03, 2020
icenti:

I tried deleting her number today but I still somehow added it back. Or could it be that I’m in love ?

grin
YOU HAVE TO CONTINUE WITH WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU DO UNTIL YOU'RE COMPLETELY DRAINED AND DISSAPOINTED. ONLY THEN WILL YOU LEARN AS EXPERIENCE IS A REALLY GOOD TEACHER.

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Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Tunagee(m): 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2020
icenti:
Hello NLders, after reading this thread https://www.nairaland.com/5910696/how-eradicate-all-simps-society I have a strong reason to think I’m a simp. Please help, I don’t want to be a simp anymore. It’s really draining the life outta me.



It all started when I met this girl during the lockdown. I asked her for her number and so we started chatting on WhatsApp. Fast forward to a few days, she asked me for help and given I’m a cheerful giver and I really want to date a girl desperately, I sent her the 3000 she asked. Two weeks later, I asked her out, took her on a date. We had dinner together and told her my intentions. How ever she said she was gonna think about it. Ever since then she comes to my place with her friends and they eat all sort of things, empty drinks from my fridge, grill the chicken I keep in my fridge. Hosting them a week cost me close to 40k and that’s when I’m hosting at my place. So I told her why is she doing this to me with tears in my eyes although we were alone. I asked her why hasn’t she made up her mind yet and that I love her. She asked for more time. 3 days later. She finally agreed but I must first take her for shopping. We did all that. I got her things. Now since July, I’ve been begging her for sex but she keeps telling me it’s not her thing however I see WhatsApp notifications from her phone where guys ask her to come over and most of these guys name are saved with love emoji. She doesn’t take most calls when she’s around and she flare up when I try having a conversation about it with her. It’s like I have to plead for everything. I think I’m a simp.

You are a simp like Ozo in bigbrothernaija 2020! To be a simp, in my opinion, is to be a fool!.keep spending for her.
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by MJBOLT: 12:28am On Sep 04, 2020
in love?undecided continue to be in love till she drains you of all your energy and resources.

icenti:


08134881580.

I tried deleting her number today but I still somehow added it back. Or could it be that I’m in love ?
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by wisethoughts(m): 8:58pm On Sep 04, 2020
icenti:




I tried deleting her number today but I still somehow added it back. Or could it be that I’m in love ?

I've added you... Forget her and work on suppressing your emotions... it will be explained better within the group
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Mrlouis: 10:02pm On Sep 04, 2020
Ozuor +++
Re: Please Help. How Can I Stop Been A Simp? by Norman4real(m): 10:28pm On Sep 04, 2020
Bruuuuuh, I've read your story and I'm in real shock. This is some epic god-tier level of simping. Wow, in can't believe you let it get to a point where she actually brings her friends over to feast at your expense.
I suggest that you start by going to church/mosque/shrine and pray away this evil spirit of simping.

Then sit down on your computer, look up as much redpill content as you can and start digesting it every single day. It's important that you are open minded enough to accept what you hear, however bitter it may seem or however far fetched and impossible it may seem, coz most of this knowledge is from the first hand experience of people who have gone through the same experiences as you.

After a few months you'll notice a very significant difference in the way you go about life, not just with women.
And even when you feel like you've got it all figured out don't be so quick to put yourself out into the world of dating thinking you've now learnt all there is to know coz you'll just end up getting hurt again.

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