crackhaus:

Indeed.

Random question... who in fück's name is that person on your profile?

SweetCunt97:
How d fvck should I know

crackhaus:

Lol, I pity you

Liftmaster:


100% agreed, to fulfill all righteousness! Would be nice if a reputable moniker on this site can verify her story. Not trying to throw anyone under the bus, but if someone like thorpido says it's legit, then I'm all in. Unless it's not the same thorpido from the days of TEHN?
Times are hard so I will be willing to chip in to cover expenses to verify this situation. But must be a reputable person we all know.

MhizzMarcelina:


Thank you dearly. I do have a plan. But for now, I just want to leave her house and start living on my own. I want to start a foodstuff selling business or cooking of food like rice and stew and selling it early in the morning.

SweetCunt97:
You should have outlined the business you intend going into, how much you'll need, add ur account number. Be grateful to that aunt of yours cos she gave u a roof over ur head.. And you actually need a man, it's a tough world trying to be a superwoman without a man sha.

SweetCunt97:
Don't waste ya pity. Give it to those who need it bro.

thorpido:
If you guys are willing to help her,i could check her out.

She already sent me a PM so i'm waiting for her reply.

Na una wan give me work o.

cc: mutter, danzakidakura, adeadeyera,

Liftmaster:


Good Sir, please go ahead and research the situation and let us know on here. I am open to covering expenses. For those sending PMs on this issue, please leave your messages on this thread. I don't do PMs

Liftmaster:


Let me give you some candid advice. I know this will be a difficult pill to swallow, but do not let your emotions cloud your judgement. I think you are putting the cart before the horse. First, you need to start thinking like a parent. This is no longer all about you. The "I wants" need to stop. You need to do what's best for your child. It is not yet time for you to leave your aunts house, at least not under the circumstance of having zero income. You want to start living on your own, but you first need to be in control of your own destiny. Start your business while under her roof with free accommodation. Work hard at it and let it grow and flourish then when you have steady income from it, you can rent your own place. Do not rely on any employer, person or charity to provide you free accommodation. Has this approach not failed already? Ensure you have an income to pay your own rent so you can provide a steady accommodation for you and your child. Start thinking about your child's future. School? What are your plans in this regard?

Your aunt has been very kind to allow you to come and go with your child as you please. She may be rough around the edges but she does have a goood heart. You even trust her enough to leave your child with her and relocate. For the sake of your child, stick it out there a little longer while she still has the will to accommodate you. And pray for this woman. Pray that God blesses her for her kindness towards you. Your prayers and gratitude may just be the key to your breakthrough. Finally, attitude matters. God sees the heart. You said and I quote "This aunt of mine thinks without her, I am nothing, I really want to prove her wrong." Take this as constructive crtiticism, but this is nothing but prideful and egoistic. Why is this your motivation as opposed to wanting to provide future opportunities for your child in a stable and conducive environment of your own?
Please provide details of your plan. There are folks willing to help you succeed.

Mariangeles:


The did has been done.
Empathy and solutions are the only thing needed now, not blame.

Ibechris2:
I am angry with u for seeing ur aunty as the source of ur problem...honestly,what effort have u made to report that guy to the welfare organisation so that he can share in the responsibility of taking care of the baby?

I know what it means to be pregnant at 8 months and still get enlisted into NYSC.

U are indeed a strong woman. How I wish u are in Abuja,I could possibly have assisted u but with the level of deceit and things like this cropping up all the time on this thread...am sorry,I must see before I could do anything,especially for the baby.

cococandy:
It almost seems like you have decided that this your aunty should be responsible for you.
Do you have other relatives?

Danzakidakura:
it's ok she can put her number up here I will call her. She should be willing to have hand work. I will pay house rent, and put her to learn hand work. Pls I don't do pm.

Danzakidakura:
it's ok she can put her number up here I will call her. She should be willing to have hand work. I will pay house rent, and put her to learn hand work. Pls I don't do pm.

Foodqueen:
Put the old account here, unless you have been forming a happily married woman before now.

thorpido:
Hi all,
I have verified the Op's story to be true and her present situation to be as she said.
Anyone willing to help her can go ahead.

Mizzmacerlina,when you do get help,just like Liftmaster said,moving out for me is not the first step.Establishing a business/handwork is the first step.When you have stabilized,you can then make plans to stay on your own.

cc:Liftmaster,Danzakidakura

capnies:
I can only tell you to learn a trade, fashion designing hair salon. Generator repair etc

Foodqueen:
Put the old account here, unless you have been forming a happily married woman before now.

Liftmaster:


Kudos and may many blessings come your way Danzakidakura. But please let me suggest something. If and when you validate the situation, please, post the outcome here. The reason I say this is to serve as a precedent and guide to others for the future. There are lots of threads on Naira land where people have been misled and taken for a ride because they did not properly vet the situation. I am not saying this is a not genuine case, I have a feeling it may be, but feelings and emotions can often lead to poor judgement.

Second suggestion, and I hope the OP considers this too. If you pay her first house rent, how will she cope with daily expenses? Food, electricity, water, clothes for her child, medical expenses? I imagine these are currently being taken care of by the aunt while she's under her roof. Please consider letting her first establish a steady income before leaving the aunts house. OP, they say "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" Your aunts harsh words do not cause physical harm, you can persevere until you have established yourself. If you are running from harsh words, how do you intend to succeed in your business, where selling and trading can be a dog eat dog world? Just putting this advice out there to help you succeed so that when you leave, you will leave your aunts house for the last time and not have to come back.

placeofallure:


She should put the old account here so that what will happen? What exactly do you want to gain with that? Do you know how disheartening it is to be vulnerable? How humbling, how lowly it feels to resort to begging? I pray you will never know that feeling. We're not all interested in knowing her old account.

thorpido:
Hi all,
I have verified the Op's story to be true and her present situation to be as she said.
Anyone willing to help her can go ahead.

Mizzmacerlina,when you do get help,just like Liftmaster said,moving out for me is not the first step.Establishing a business/handwork is the first step.When you have stabilized,you can then make plans to stay on your own.

cc:Liftmaster,Danzakidakura

Liftmaster:


Thorpido, Thanks very much and God Bless you for doing this. I looked for this thread a few days ago but it seemed to have vanished.
I am willing to go ahead and help based on your validation. I will help financially, but I really do think that the biggest help the OP needs will be guidance (perhaps a life coach) and in addition a business mentor if going into the food business. I throw this out to the house. Is there someone who is experienced in this business that can mentor the OP in her business?
OP, please start by posting some details like your general location (city) so that anyone around you can reach out as a business mentor. Then let us know what you have decided to do. Do you want to pursue the food business as originally stated or go learn a trade? You previously posted details of what the business will entail so that's a good start. If you are looking at learning a trade, what help do you need? Post details, then you can post your account details if comfortable doing that so that I can reach out to you.

mutter:
I would like to understand why you didn't reply my second mail to you asking you to acknowledge the transfer I made to you.
This is the second time I am making this experience on Nairaland in a short while.

MhizzMarcelina:


I replied you, ma. Check your inbox. Thank you so much. I did replied.could be network.