People who take the time to improve their lives make much better dates and relationship partners. When you learn to master who you are and how to meet the needs of others you become a much more attractive person.

Here are three self-improvement tips that will make you a better person and a better person to date.

1) Learn the art of listening.

Many dates are ruined when one person talks a lot more than the other. Work on improving your listening skills by asking more questions, asking followup questions, and showing a genuine interest in what others say.

2) Learn self-discipline.

Self-discipline is the art of being able to overcome your fears through action. It is something that anyone can master if they put the time and dedication into it. You need to change your thinking to that of failure being a success. The difference between a self-disciplined person and one that’s not is that a self-disciplined person will learn from their failures and move forward while someone without self-discipline will give up.

When you look at successful people from the past, they all used failure to master success. Edison failed many times with the lightbulb, but kept moving forward till he got it right. Walt Disney was told that the idea of a theme park for families was a terrible idea, yet even with the obstacles that came with building Disneyland, he pushed forward. To master self-discipline, admit what you’re afraid of: “I’m afraid of rejection” “I’m afraid of succeeding” (some people are), “I’m afraid something bad will happen”. Once you admit you have these fears, you can move forward and tackle them one by one.

To improve your self-discipline you need to become uncomfortable. Break up your daily routine so that it isn’t the same. Accept that changing your routine is a good thing. When you walk down the street, smile at people. If you usually look down, look straight ahead. Some people are afraid what others might think of them. What do you want people to think of you? If you look down all the time they will think you are insecure. If you look them in the eye and smile, give firm handshakes, and strike up conversations, they will think you are confident. You become the type of person that you portray. So become who you want to be.

3) Use Positive Affirmations.

Research show that positive affirmations reinforce behavior and a person’s attractiveness. If you go to Amazon.com and type in “affirmations” you’ll be presented with books, CDs, and even reading cards that have mind-reinforcing statements on them. Read the affirmations daily (or listen to them if you have them on an audio CD). Believe what you read. Use them to reinforce positive behaviour.

Want to lose weight? Write down an affirmation like “I exercise daily to improve my health and looks”. Notice that the affirmation was in present tense. That’s to help you take action. Read it daily then exercise. It reminds you why you are doing it.

Put a daily focus on the above tips and after several weeks you’ll see a massive improvement in yourself and you’ll become a much more attractive person to date.