SexytorresE:
is it weed or ?...

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.

themaestro08:


Shut up! You are same as the foolish op

Anyway shove your opinion down your throat(no malice intended, I just can't stand the poverty mindset you and the op display)

GMBuhari:
I bet you can't have your child do a sleep over at a friend's house ?

How were you raised gaan sef ? this mentality is plain evil

even if they share gifts everyday , it doesn't affect learning, and yes, gifting, interaction among kids is part of learning process like i said in earlier comment, returning the gift looks bad on the kid and other kids could isolate her / keep malice with her and / or even bully her , this parent just damaged his kid's reputation , psychology and mentality

SET awon i go school , i learn book , but i no learn sense join

That's not an insult btw,

Mutaultope:
God bless you for that decision...... some parents will just take the gift and allow their children slide into covetousness and life struggles

Xclusiveme:
Aaaah Op, you didn't do well.
Inferiority complex took the best of you. If I was in your shoes, here's how i'll tackle the situation.
Wow, this gift is beautiful. Are you happy with the gift my darling? If yes then be happy too. Go to school next day and meet the child's parents and ask them how the child got the gift, if they were the one, appreciate them in a heartfelt way. Shikina, U go home and play the game with Ur daughter. Limit the fun though.
First of, gift from classmate isn't a hindrance to your child's education, morally or psychologically. It's just a harmless gift given to your daughter by her friend regardless of the price. You shouldn't be oppressed by gift simply because you can't afford it.
In this life no matter the situation you see yourself you have to be grateful for the things you receive.

srclark:
you know how kids behave towards such gadgets it should have been given to the parents directly and the parents know what to do .Some parents are trying to work ontheir kids concentrating then you suddenly give that same kid a gaming console ,o wrong now

Wiseandtrue:

Some people sef

Did they put a gun to your head that you must reciprocate

Either you returned the gift or not when it's your daughter's birthday, they will expect you to do something

It's left for you to know how to handle the situation!

Stop making life difficult for your daughter because you are poor! Shuuuuuoo

Modified:

No blame situation for this matter, the child no steal, it was a gift!!!

No matter the pretence, everyone is happy with gifts. It could be from God or man

So if person dash am house wey them don build he no go collect

Na wa oooooo

Xclusiveme:


The supposed child is a girl and you know girls aren't into games like that. Besides kids are meant to have fun while growing up . If he thinks the game would be a distraction, then he should put it away from her till after every examinations. Consoles games helps a child in a lot of ways like problem solving and creativity

tommy589:
Not right to return the gift. Some staffs and parents may see you as bad belle and their future disposition to your daughter may not be kind.

Some parents are rich and can make this a yearly affair. While most that like show off will just do copy copy and won't be able to afford next year birthday not to talk of bearing gifts for the class ever again

You job is to focus on training your children in the best way you know. If you train your kids to live within their means they won't covet what belongs to others.

srclark:
well the gender does not really mean ,my wife is more of a game person .The parents that used the gift as sourvenir should have handed it over to the school and the school inturn gives it to the parents and guardians of the targetted kids .All should be done discreetly so it does not affect anyone .The intent might be good but the way it was done has made it all wrong

sandysaint:
Nigerians and our hallowed "poverty mentality."


People who are barely able to scrap bye a month would see a dissenting view bordering on handling finances and scream poverty mentality.

If you were to examine these ones, 90% of them who commented against the values of the OP hop buses and Keke because they can't afford a car. Yet. But does that make you poor?


I'm not yet a parent but it gives me joy seeing the comments of parents here.

For a society whose religious fabric has been deeply blotched by "prosperity pastors", it's refreshing to see those who think objectively and understand the basics of a child's psychological development and the best balance to make them independent adults.

Not the bunch of entitled youths our society has groomed today.

Wiseandtrue:

Some people sef

Did they put a gun to your head that you must reciprocate

Either you returned the gift or not when it's your daughter's birthday, they will expect you to do something

It's left for you to know how to handle the situation!

Stop making life difficult for your daughter because you are poor! Shuuuuuoo

Modified:

No blame situation for this matter, the child no steal, it was a gift!!!

No matter the pretence, everyone is happy with gifts. It could be from God or man

So if person dash am house wey them don build he no go collect

Na wa oooooo

Psoul:


I can't keep a gift that I don't want. So returning it is the best thing and will make them know your stand on such issues.
How can you keep it and probably come out next time to condemn that kind of gift. They will tell you, after all, you have bn collecting those ones given to ur children.

Secondly, it doesn't matter what other teachers may think. My major concern is to give my children good training.
Sincerely speaking, PS4 is not a reasonable gift for kids to share in school as a Birthday Gift. The parents did it to show affluent and also to tell other parents that they have landed and should be respected. It was also to intimidate the teachers. If they shares PS4 to fellow students, imagine what they may have given to the teachers. Do you think the teachers will be very much free to handle the child the way that is supposed to be handled when the child misbehaved in the school? Don't you think that there will be unnecessary preferential treatment on the side of that child to the detriment of others? Don't you think that the child may even be awarded marks that he does not merit.

There should be gifts for such occasion. I don't see PS4 as a nice one. I am not saying you must see it the way I see it. But that is my stand.
I will reject and return such gifts million times.

MansoryMX:


You think everyone here is poor or jobless like you lots. Having a mindsets like that only reflects how poor you are.

KingAzari:
Hustle ooo so that you won't be angry that your child received an innocent harmless gift from a rich classmate.

Poverty mentality. Always angry at the rich for no fault of theirs. Hustle, man, hustle.

You forgot that your child was chanced to have such high net worth kid in her class. The child through whom that expensive gift came to your child could be your kid's lifeline out of this kind of poverty that has raped, abused and disfigured your mind into thinking that a wilful gift to your child had become a subject of parental control.

Mutaultope:
God bless you for that decision...... some parents will just take the gift and allow their children slide into covetousness and life struggles

Psoul:


I can't keep a gift that I don't want. So returning it is the best thing and will make them know your stand on such issues.
How can you keep it and probably come out next time to condemn that kind of gift. They will tell you, after all, you have bn collecting those ones given to ur children.

Secondly, it doesn't matter what other teachers may think. My major concern is to give my children good training.
Sincerely speaking, PS4 is not a reasonable gift for kids to share in school as a Birthday Gift. The parents did it to show affluent and also to tell other parents that they have landed and should be respected. It was also to intimidate the teachers. If they shares PS4 to fellow students, imagine what they may have given to the teachers. Do you think the teachers will be very much free to handle the child the way that is supposed to be handled when the child misbehaved in the school? Don't you think that there will be unnecessary preferential treatment on the side of that child to the detriment of others? Don't you think that the child may even be awarded marks that he does not merit.

There should be gifts for such occasion. I don't see PS4 as a nice one. I am not saying you must see it the way I see it. But that is my stand.
I will reject and return such gifts million times.

Midadeola:

I'm just acknowledging

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.