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Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by maasoap(m): 10:58am On Sep 26, 2020 |
NaijaCr7: Small talks: poverty! Another small talks, poor man! Haba! Can any of you even define "principle"? Principle: a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behaviour or for a chain of reasoning. That's what many of you missed. Because not all the poor parents will return the gifts. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 12:23pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Coldie: It might affect them. I wrote in a previous comment that my nephew was in the same class with the son of the serving governor of the state at the time. When it was the boy's birthday, you can just imagine the kind of gifts that they shared to the kids in the class. My nephew's parents didn't reject it. Abi will they accept pencil/eraser and reject child size cars/PS4, etc. Or I should only allow my daughter attend birthday parties of average/ not rich so that when her own birthday comes, they won't be expectant. I don't understand the OP's thinking process. But as for me, I don't get intimidated by other people's wealth. I will not do more than myself. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 12:26pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
KLand: Its not by force to accept it either |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 12:31pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
bukatyne: Proud of this of post. I m sorry for present generation that thought all gift is acceptable. Until they poison their children before they understand caution. 1 Like |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by MuhdSayyid(m): 1:27pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Sebastine1994: I really support your decision. Its an eye opener |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Psoul(m): 2:17pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
jesmond3945: so the reasonable gift to share is biscuit? Then why are your kids attending the school? Why not put them in ajegunle community school where they share biscuit as gift. It is only in Nigeria we judge people's intention based on their material possession. So if otedollar decides to drive keke we would say it is cruise or he is mocking poor people but we forget that otedollar is a human being first of all and might decide to live a life of destitutes for the rest of his sojourn on earth. When we allow our kids to grow up with this mindset they would always feel inferior even when they have made it. Above was your comment you expected me to respond to. Go through that your comment once again. Sincerely speaking, do you think you mad a comment that sounds reasonable. Your comment here look a bit uncoordinated and contradictoryand may not need much response. You said that I sound like a typical African man. Bros, were u expecting me to talk like an English man? This is where ur problem is. U want to be behaving like an English man while here in Africa. I am very proud to sound like a typical African man that I am. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by KLand(m): 2:26pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Kdon2: True, but I just wonder how the child has been made to feel. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by jesmond3945: 2:27pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Psoul:ok train your kids the way you want while train my the way I want. When they all grow we go know how far. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 2:50pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Kdon2: What is wrong with your child accepting it? Is it because it is expensive? What if it was the regular bubbles blower, writing materials, crayon, ribena? Will you refuse that? Are people appalled to expensive things? I might not be able to afford that kind of gift now but if it is shared in my child's class as long as didn't steal or beg for it, it will be appreciated like any other gift. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Psoul(m): 3:14pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
jesmond3945: Mine are grown and they are not regretting the training they received from me. Just mentioning my name to people make some certain things easier for them. People will most time say to them; Are you child of so so man? Then I will give you opportunity to have this cos we know ur father. So I am speaking from experience. I don't know about you |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by jesmond3945: 4:08pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Psoul:good to hear. My kids do things way ahead their peers, they don't belong here. They are made for the stars. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 8:36pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Simple, I don't want my child to think life operates on gift. Thanks sir |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 9:17pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Kdon2: What does this even mean? That life operates on gifts? Most of us grew up sharing gifts and receiving them. Did it makes us think life operates on gifts? We have to make sure we teach our children the most important values and they will grow up with them so that they will have the sense to know that working hard for their money and receiving gifts are two different things. Let's not as parents, make a wrong judgement based on our own bias and mindset and impose it on our children. God will gives us wisdom |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by WalkerMichael(m): 9:23pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Sebastine1994: great post .I remember the highest we even did then was sharing cabin biscuits and at times some small telephone juice 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 9:44pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Sharing gift differs according to circumstances. In this case I m totally not in support where gift sharing influences conducts. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 11:07pm On Sep 26, 2020 |
Kdon2: That is left to the parents to regulate but many parents have failed in that area. Even the gifts that the parents themselves buy for their children can influence their conduct. So it has nothing to do with who gives the gift but how the parents can make sure the gifts do not have a negative influence on the children. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 12:05am On Sep 27, 2020 |
ImaIma1: My dear sister when your children start getting gifts you can not afford you are courting serious trouble. As a parent you have the enormous responsibility to reduce the negative influence of the society on your child. It start from knowing to teach your child what gift is acceptable and which are not and letting them know why. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 12:34am On Sep 27, 2020 |
Kdon2: As a parent, I won't tell my child to accept only inexpensive gifts shared at birthdays and reject the expensive ones. How is the child to know which one is expensive. What am I teaching her? To despise expensive items and only be open to receiving cheap or average things? This is obviously not about the child but about the parent's inferiority complex and insecurities...already being intimidated by other's wealth. No one is asking that you must reciprocate in like manner. There are more thoughtful affordable items that can be shared that would even be more appreciated than the ps4. No need for parents to feel intimidated and extend it to their children. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 1:15am On Sep 27, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Do not get me wrong, its the duty of the parent not the child to choose what is acceptable or not. Remember the child is young and will form opinion based on what comes their ways. Teach your child wealth is earned not gifted. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 7:41am On Sep 27, 2020 |
Kdon2: How does getting shared gifts on birthdays make a child think wealth is gifted and not earned? |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by GMBuhari: 4:30pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
Kay25: My point was and still is : You can't control a teenager or adult, that's when they make decisions for themselves, you can only do what you can as a parent |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by GMBuhari: 4:35pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
I wrote this days ago , this MF just screwed his child's life psychologically , if he does not have the support of his wife on this matter, the kid will show anything to her mum from now forthwith and she will hate her father for not letting her have nice things simple mistakes that screws a child's mindset Wharli3y: |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by GMBuhari: 4:40pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
Yes, since we are africans , first of all throw away your religion because it's foreign culture , then stop education , go and learn ifa , you shouldn't even be on internet because you are african , stop hustling your daily job and go to farming or hunting because it's rich african culture , stop watching tv, listening to news , and ask the king's crier to give you updates periodically Tueeehh You people always hide under culture anytime it suits your narrative again TUEEEHHHH sammirano: |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by GMBuhari: 4:41pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
May God bless you for Xclusiveme: That's how eternal bonds are built between parents and children |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Psoul(m): 4:43pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
jesmond3945: Great....I love that. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by GMBuhari: 4:45pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
Yes, they did , and it's due to african mentality first , then the fact that world was becoming a dangerous place But what you left out is that your parents did not reject the gift for you , they taught you to reject it there and then by yourself , abi i lie ? God wants us to love , give and gift to each other , many bible verses support this and Finally , why didn't Mary reject the gifts from 3 wise men ? some things are just wrong , no matter how you try to make it look Psoul: |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Psoul(m): 5:06pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
GMBuhari: May be you fail to read my comment very well. I never said that my father taught us to reject gifts. I said he taught us to reject SOME CERTAIN gifts. My father is an advocate of gift/alms giving. He will always tell us that, the fastest way to prosper is by giving. In as much as he taught us that, he also told us that there are some certain gifts we should not take from people no matter how genuine it seems. We have seen him several times reject such gifts. It works for us. If it does not work for you, you can take any gift that comes your way irrespective of who gives it to you and the purpose. For us, we sieve gifts. You can give me a car gift and I will reject it but accept same from another person the same time. So many factors determines for me either to take or reject your gift. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kay25(m): 8:25pm On Sep 27, 2020 |
GMBuhari:fine no argument about that but you can always pattern them the way you want them to go and grow to be that's not control that is just showing them the path to walk in |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Uzomaglovani: 6:09pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Sebastine1994:nobody is putting you under any pressure learn to celebrate with others so people won’t see you as enemy NB if you return any gifts believe me time will come parents will stop there children from been friends with ur kids cos if is me I will do same ( madam just celebrate with other when dey r celebrating and den you will never lack to do same for ur kids |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 8:04pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
ImaIma1: The underlined word is wealth not gift. |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by ImaIma1(f): 10:01pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Kdon2: That doesn't answer the question. How will getting gifts shared at birthdays make a child think wealth is gifted instead of earned? |
Re: School Birthday Will Make Your Child Greedy by Kdon2: 2:45am On Sep 29, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Alright |
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