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Just tell him you like him you won’t die . Also where is your area?

please advise
he lives in my area, I don't know where exactly but I see him occasionally

Nothing wey Nnamdi Kanu no go see for brothel

Lee99:
Just tell him you like him you won’t die . Also where is your area?

kubwa Abuja.

I no understand

Durentt:
please advise.
he lives in my area, I dont know where exactly but I see him occasionally

Find one nonsense question to ask him naa... Like is he part of sarz

If he didn't come out to you as gay, leave him alone.

You guys should stop giving homophobic people reasons to hate!

I like you, am a gay.... I prefer top.

WoundedLamb:
If he didn't come out to you as gay, leave him alone.

You guys should stop giving homophobic people reasons to hate!

yeah true. there are other men everywhere.

I wish there was like a gay bar in the country to meet other men that are likely to be gay also. so sad

Durentt:
please advise. he lives in my area, I dont know where exactly but I see him occasionally

U Like Him. As In How? Why? Guy Ur Like Is Becoming Suspicious.

Truvel:
U Like Him. As In How? Why? Guy Ur Like Is Becoming Suspicious.

like him as in I want to know him more than just a friend.

he is handsome, tall, skinny and give me erections.

Why should a guy be showing feminine traits
Am lost

Stacyomolola:
Why should a guy be showing feminine traits
Am lost

because gay men show feminine traits hello?

Durentt:
because gay men show feminine traits hello?

Hmmm
Mo sha tigbò

Wonders shall never end.

But why do the mods keep approving this sort of post na wa oo

Durentt:
like him as in I want to know him more than just a friend.

he is handsome, tall, skinny and give me erections.

Oh, U Are A Gay. I See...

WoundedLamb:
If he didn't come out to you as gay, leave him alone.

You guys should stop giving homophobic people reasons to hate!

You think he's gonna tell him he's gay? If for instance he is, he will be thinking the same thing as the op!

Erasing the largely homphobic nigerian society out of the picture, he has every right to approach him, if he's hetero he let's him know and that's where you'll tell him to leave him alone!

Afterall hetero men hit on lesbian ladies on the daily without even considering for once if she's not into men. I don't like double standards pls.

Franktom247:
But why do the mods keep approving this sort of post na wa oo

And why do you keep appearing on such topics?

HuntSon:


You think he's gonna tell him he's gay? If for instance he is, he will be thinking the same thing as the op!

Erasing the largely homphobic nigerian society out of the picture, he has every right to approach him, if he's hetero he let's him know and that's where you'll tell him to leave him alone!

Afterall hetero men hit on lesbian ladies on the daily without even considering for once if she's not into men. I don't like double standards pls.

its not that I am scared to approach, he looks at me sometimes (doesn't necessarily mean he is gay but he notices me surely)
but I am scared of hurting him, like leaving him with a memory of a homosexual approaching him (if he turns out to be straight).

I'm not looking for anything serious (like boyfriend stuff because I'm not ready for serious relationship now) just want to know him more.

Durentt:
its not that I am scared to approach, he looks at me sometimes (doesn't necessarily mean he is gay but he notices me surely)
but I am scared of hurting him, like leaving him with a memory of a homosexual approaching him (if he turns out to be straight).

I'm not looking for anything serious (like boyfriend stuff because I'm not ready for serious relationship now) just want to know him more.

How will a memory of being approached by an homosexual hurt him if he's not into it?

Brotha... nothing like knowing him more, you just wanna smash

You should try watch him of you will find any gaydar in him
Some people dey comot teeth oo

HuntSon:


You think he's gonna tell him he's gay? [/b]If for instance he is, he will be thinking the same thing as the op!

[b]Erasing the largely homphobic nigerian society out of the picture, he has every right to approach him, if he's hetero he let's him know and that's where you'll tell him to leave him alone!

Afterall hetero men hit on lesbian ladies on the daily without even considering for once if she's not into men. I don't like double standards pls.

@bold1: If he wants to the OP as much as the OP wants him, he'll give him signs. They'd lead each other on one step at a time.

@bold2: I don't get, why erasing the main subject out of the picture? The OP created this thread and we're having this discussion in the first place because he is weary of the homophobia in Nigeria and doesn't want to misfire. So giving him an advice based on an ideal situation knowing fully well he is not in an ideal situation is somewhat overambitious to me.

@bold3: Please, dont be funny. Are you going to tell the OP to ask him out cause straight people do? Are you going to pretend you don't know he does not enjoy the same priviledge as straight people in Nigeria? We are talking about the OP's security here. Or do you want to use him to advocate for gay rights in Nigeria? Nobody likes the double standard. Nobody likes homophobia. But it exists in Nigeria and gay people must thread cautiously.

@OP, except you're not in Nigeria, don't go hitting on people whose sexuality you don't know. If he's gay and he likes you, he'll signal that to you just as much as you signal yours.

Op try to be is friend and confirm first be4 confessing oo..I won't like it if a lady starts to hit on me because she thinks I'm gay

Durentt:
because gay men show feminine traits hello?

Dat is a big lie oo..not all oo..d one dat I know ti today I still dey reason am ..d guy doesn't have a hint of feminine..from his looks to his character

WoundedLamb:


@bold1: If he wants to the OP as much as the OP wants him, he'll give him signs. They'd lead each other on one step at a time.

@bold2: I don't get, why erasing the main subject out of the picture? The OP created this thread and we're having this discussion in the first place because he is weary of the homophobia in Nigeria and doesn't want to misfire. So giving him an advice based on an ideal situation knowing fully well he is not in an ideal situation is somewhat overambitious to me.

@bold3: Please, dont be funny. Are you going to tell the OP to ask him out cause straight people do? Are you going to pretend you don't know he does not enjoy the same priviledge as straight people in Nigeria? We are talking about the OP's security here. Or do you want to use him to advocate for gay rights in Nigeria? Nobody likes the double standard. Nobody likes homophobia. But it exists in Nigeria and gay people must thread cautiously.

@OP, except you're not in Nigeria, don't go hitting on people whose sexuality you don't know. If he's gay and he likes you, he'll signal that to you just as much as you signal yours.

No be only signal na antenna

My own is that "giving homophobes more reason to hate" doesn't sit well with me

WrittyWritter:


Dat is a big lie oo..not all oo..d one dat I know ti today I still dey reason am ..d guy doesn't have a hint of feminine..from his looks to his character

Yeah they're even more masculine gay guys than feminine one. But i understand his point

Durentt:
yeah true. there are other men everywhere.

I wish there was like a gay bar in the country to meet other men that are likely to be gay also. so sad

If you were in Calabar, i would have hooked u up.. I have feminine,masculine, lanky,fat and what have you guys. We attend birthdays, engagement parties and concerts, so we know ourselves.
Try and strike up a convo. Talk about homophobia in Nigeria and how gay people are joining the protest. Let him know that people have a right to live and love anyone they deem fit to, without fear and stigmatization, then pause and hear his own opinion or you can ask him what he thinks. If he gives you negative vibes, brother just jakpa ooo!
bad energy should just stay farrr away.
my one cent.

HuntSon:


No be only signal na antenna

My own is that "giving homophobes more reason to hate" doesn't sit well with me

Sorry, you can do as you wish. I was only advising based on the stories I've heard about Africa. I can't possibly know more then those experiencing the life.

@OP, good luck!

HuntSon:


How will a memory of being approached by an homosexual hurt him if he's not into it?

Brotha... nothing like knowing him more, you just wanna smash

honestly I dont want to. I'm a virgin (I know, it's a sensitive issue) and wont give my body to any man until I see myself spending the rest of my life with him.

Durentt:
honestly I dont want to. I'm a virgin (I know, it's a sensitive issue) and wont give my body to any man until I see myself spending the rest of my life with him.

Please, how can one identify feminine gay men?

yeah average nigerians are homophobic including me but i'm trying my possible best not to critisize em i a'int GOD but meehn sometimes i can't fathom why a pole's gon attract a pole