Life can be a jack when it comes to relationship. We met that extraordinary-looking human with a gorgeous body, physically endowed from head to toes and looking like someone out of Hollywood cast. We could swear under our breath that we are going to marry this time, that this is the right person for us.



We took the first bold step with a lot of self-doubt, anxiety and adrenalin running through our veins because right then, our greater fear is rejection, and our greatest fear is also getting a yes. So, what next? Would we measure up to expectation, or would we meet what we expected? We began to put on a mask of what we are not, alienating our true self, suppressing every traces of bad habits that could ruin the person we have become in the face of a stranger.



We needed a hundred per cent approval of how perfect we are to qualify as a life partner. If we succeeded, we found love, and if we do not, we lust after.

Life is dramatic. Let’s talk about that feeling you had the first time you saw that unique person. He or she was looking all radiant, gorgeously dressed with a rhythmic movement that projected all that you have ever dreamt. It was okay to conclude that you were in love when you had not seen when she has no cloth on, no make-up or wig and when she is fast asleep snoring or woke up looking different from the person you love.



It even went as deep as not knowing how they manage their anger, social etiquette and how fun they would be when you are both alone or stranded on lockdown in a worst-case scenario of Covid-19. What exactly did you fell in love with?



Love is never enough at first sight, at least not for everyone. It would not be until you have spent a large chunk of your life with that pretty looking being you saw, and it felt a lot like love, well it could be lust over the shape of her body and not the person she is. Lust over her sexuality and not her ability as human, lust over her look and not her charisma or value. Would you compromise your personality to be with a pretty looking stranger and accept all his/her inadequacy?


Love is never enough even after years of courtship and marriage. As we spent time together, we discover our shortcomings and have to decide if we want to live with them or not. In most cases, we rarely want to help each other get better, and we rarely want to accept to get better because it is difficult for us as people to embrace change.

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