i'm in a 5year+ relationship with my girlfriend. And I would die for her. I mean it. But I cheated on her. (First time I cheated too). With a friend of mine. Wish I didn't. My friend's pregnant now and I have tried all in the books to make her abort it (feel ashamed mentioning this), knowing fully well the chaos it would cause. I wasn't going to marry her either. But she wouldn't hear of it. Maybe she was silently hoping that my girlfriend would call it quits with me. I dont know but something just doesn't smell right. My parents have met with hers and now they are saying that I should marry her. I mean, they've been going behind my back and are nmaking arrangements. Had to call this off and this is causing a rift between them and me.

She is 4 months pregnant now and its hurting to see her this way. Made a promise to be the best father I can be and a very good friend that she can rely on. Nothing more! Because I wouldnt ask my girlfriend to leave. Never considered it!

What do I do? I'm going out of my mind wondering how I'm going to cope with this.

next time(oops there is no next time, you already messed up) think before you act.
what got you into this situation in the first place is you were thinking with your dickhead, not your other head.

Mu HAHAHAHAHA, Condom , MUHAHAHAHA

C-O-N-D-O-M-S (thats the magic word you forgot to mention), oops you are screwed. MUHAHAHA

for now let me enjoy laughing at you, i'll advice you later.

Esss remind me never to come to you for advise, you are sooooooooooooo mean

You are seriously on your own.when you were doing the deed,you didn't consult us because it was sweet abi.now you need to be a man about it cuz there is no amount of advise that'll help you since parents are already involved.good luck sha and make sure you name the child $ammy if na guy.if na girl slam her $amantha.

One way or the other, your replies seem funny. And somehow I am laughing! But it ain't really funny!!!!

You really have no choice but to marry her. And shame on you for mentioning abortion when you know how bad it can be for her womb, or even life! You just need to dump your girlfriend. Does she know? I would be surprised that she is still with you after that,

Well man,there's a common addage wich says:'if u cnt do the time dont do the crime'.if u realy luvd ur girl,you wld have least cheated on her wit a rubber!the way it stands now,u gat no choice but 2mary her,afterall,she must look gud enuf 4u 2 have f***kd her!

JazzyPhizzle, i feel sorry for you. many men will come here and talk, their cases might have been worse if they were in your shoes. i'm kinda sleepy right now, but i'll be back later tomorrow to say a few words. however, is your girlfriend aware of this other friend's pregnancy?

[size=3pt]i wonder what my baby would do to me if she found out my neighbor got pregnant for me.[/size]

Muhahahahahahahaa! I still cant advice you, I need a little more time to finish laughing. MuHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHa

You misery/predicament is very funny, Muhahahaha hahhaha

ROFLMAO _{MY god this is so funny, I'm actually crying}

let me just start by saying,u are an ass.what do u guys really want?u have a gurl dat loves u,bt no dat one no do u,u go put head inside fire.i'd say serves u right  ,this shud b a lesson to all players out there,u cant eat ur cake and have it.as to what 2do i think u shud marry her,u put her in d family way then dump her,it does not work like that,even if u dnt luv her,i blive luv grows,u'll come to love her.well goodluck.one ? does ur girlfriend know abt d baby?

@ poster

You have just got yourself a wife. Congratulations!!!

Poor guy. If you loved your gf that much, you would not have made such a costly mistake. In my opinion, it is a situation that you need to talk to both your girlfriend and your friend about.
Anyhow, I hope God will see you through and give you wisdom to handle this situation well.

@Topic

Sorry oh!  Please don't attempt to kill both mother and child oh! E don happen! Kai! See major fu*k-up! Huh! When will you guys learn to keep ya arses in one place? Huh!

@Nairalanders------------- NAIJA MEN AND WOMEN CAN BE JUUUUUUUUUST FRIENDS ABI?  he he he he he!  I dey laugh!  Famous words "we are just friends"!  I say not in Africa!  Lai Lai!

ceceee:

let me just start by saying,u are an ass.what do u guys really want?u have a girl that loves u,bt no that one no do u,u go put head inside fire.i'd say serves u right ,this should b a lesson to all players out there,u can't eat your cake and have it.

@ ceceee
Mba Mba Oh! ceceee, Which one be "u guys" for inside this talk, Did you hear any of us say we were amongst those who played away match with the girl,

ehn ehn! abeg redirect your advice to the guy in question o!

See me see trouble,


@ topic
_{I continue my laughter. muhahahahaha mu hahahahaha,} even after reading it ten times its still funny.

I think you should name the child Isaac.

@ Esss! 

No!  The child's name should be "away match"! or waka about!

@Topic!

Which of the gals do you love more? You have to go with the one you love! Pregnancy or no pregnancy oh!

ere agbere lori yen oree mi

well, u gotta marry her, if shez not good enough 4 u 2 marry, why did u sleep with her? by da way, how old r u?

mubowa:

ere agbere lori yen oree mi

Translation pls. The Yoruba thread is just right around the block

Believe me in the most recent times, I've been hit with more artillery than this. And I take all blame. Ask for forgiveness from God for considering an abortion.

As to the question whether my girlfriend knows - Yes she does. Its all blown up now and everyone knows about it. Even her parents.

If it was about looks, both women are beautiful. But its not.

Love grows and hate grows too!

It's simple! Explain the situation of things to your girlfriend. .If she forgives you. . You're lucky! Anywayz, take responsiblity for the child coz You decided to have pre-marital sex and you have to pay the price for it. I wouldn't advice you to marry the girl who's carrying your baby because in the first place, She knew you had a girlfriend and still flirted with you. All the pregancy thing was to trap you, and I think she suceeded!

i honestly dont think you hould marry the lady that is pregnant for you because its doesnt seem like you are in love with her. remember that you are going to be spending the rest of your life with her and you woulld not want to be involved in a marriage that you will regret. its unfortunate that the child as  to been born under such circumtances. you both have to pay the price for your mistakes. besides, you both knew that you were involved in a relationship. marrying her bacuse of the baby will be like entering into a bisiness contract and you proberbly may get divorcrd as some point because it might not work
explain the situation of things to your girlfriend and ask for her forgiveness and most importantly, ask God for forgiveness.

Thank you Busy Girl. You practically hit the nail in the centre! I have decided to do just that! But I'm asking myself this question now - If i knew what I wanted to do, why am I posting on Nairaland? Honestly because I feel guilty about thinking that I ruined someone else's life. Forget how I've been able to allow myself carry unnecessary burden. I deserve the punishment!

My girlfriend has forgiven me. Hopefully! We have a history and big plans for the future. Its totally laid out! Half of her is probably angry that someone else wants to eat out of what she suffered for and wouldnt let that happen. Apart from that, she is truly a wonderful person with a kind heart!

The pregnant one is a good person too. Can't take that away. If I were to be disloyal to my girlfriend to the end, I would stay with her.

JazzyPhizzle:

The pregnant one is a good person too. Can't take that away. If I were to be disloyal to my girlfriend to the end, I would stay with her.

What was that   Please explain the above statement.   Abortion ke?  Please like I said before, please to not attempt to terminate both mother and child oh!   You did not answer my question.  WHOM DO YOU LOVE MORE? Haba!  Simple question!

I'll need to be careful with declarations like who I love more or not, If I intend to raise the child with love. From both women. Especially when both ladies are Nairalanders!

Nothing like terminating mother and child (anymore)

[tr]The pregnant one is a good person too. Can't take that away. If I were to be disloyal to my girlfriend to the end, I would stay with her.[/tr]


Just saying that if I were to go by earlier replies to my post that would 'objectively' say i should marry the pregnant one, and throw away any remaining loyalty and trust my girlfriend has, it could be justified because the pregnant one is a good person too!

nonsense!

i hope she leaves you. She is hurting right now and ur here talking about how good ur pregnant friend is

@uyai

Do not misunderstand me. I know she is hurting and I hurt too. I have had to look at this from various angles thus my comments.

Dude, you is such a Ballzy guy oo , so is you still shagging that your pregnant friend, you suppose dey put Jara and "toppings" so that the baby would resemble you well well! . Funny ass thread

On the other hand, you have to Man the Fu$k up ASAP and live up to your Irresponsiblities

Now I understand uyai's hostility.

@Rikkyjen

No I'm not shagging anymore! My intention is to be the best father I can be without creating animosity in the process. Or can anyone proffer how i would be allowed to act out my responsibilty without her brandishing weapons? BusyGirl seems to understand what the right thing would be under the circumstances.

Sorry guy. but for u to have slept with her she is no longer your friend.
   since she has decided to keep the pregnancy, there is nothing u can do about it but to try to love her.
    but my friend, U MAKE BIG MISTAKE SHA. WHERE CONDOM COME DEY