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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Splitmind: 5:03pm On Nov 28, 2020
I like how everyone is just taunting this guy who opened up about his sexual assault.

Oh well I guess guys get no sympathy for things like this.

The most sensible thing is to seek professional help these guys will just use you for likes.

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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Yada01(m): 5:03pm On Nov 28, 2020
TheKingIsHere:


His soul is not tied to sex, rather, he is a victim of rape.

Why do people act so f0olish when a boy child gets raped by a woman?

When a person is involve in a thing that he/she is not happy about and cannot stop, it is a spirit that aids him/her to do that
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by BreconHills(m): 5:04pm On Nov 28, 2020
SkyRicks:
I will be brief

When ever am alone even after returning from a stressful day once am a lone at home I feel Hot this has been on since school days
I masturbate once in a while and I truly want to stop thinking about sex but really can't help it right now.

Note something happened to me when I was 8yrs old our neighbor then who my mom drops me at her place her daughter usually sleep with me anytime my mom drops me at there place, I cried telling Mom I don't like that place but she said she doesn't have alternative and can't take me with her i will add stress mind you my dad is working then in another state and visit during the weekend twice a month.

This continued till I was 15yrs yes I began to go there and she likes me alot, sends me message and never ask for change Sneak me inside her room I began to like the act until we left the state to stay with my dad after some years I began to masturbate before uni and all through my days in sch I have lived with this chronic desire for sexual fantasy within me.

My question:
The desire for sex asin constant thinking of having sex is it normal (may me if not face with tasks make me to lose focus) or I need deliverance.
Is there medication for this desire a kind of cure (am a biologist not a physician)
Am confused right now and it making me desire to visit escort female but lacks the courage to seek there service because of the way people see me.

Thank you, your advise is needed

The brain is created to direct attention and focus to the most frequently used files. This creates "roads" in the brain - some are pathways, others are highways. This premature sex seems to have turned a tiny Bush path into an expressway and this is why you think about sex so much. Indulging yourself only widens the highway.

You can't put out fire with petrol.

If you face a challenge or adventure that excites you and if you apply yourself to it the highway will shrink. It will take time and perhaps many relapses. But if you understand what you are trying to do, it will help.

You have to call it by its right name; it was a cruel act of sex abuse that has opened up parts of your psyche that are better used for other things- especially at this stage of life. Forgive her and walk away - she can never be part of the solution.

Find challenges, volunteer to help others and build more useful mental pathways.

Pray. God is interested. You are the victim here.

Best of luck.

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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by TheKingIsHere: 5:05pm On Nov 28, 2020
Truvel:
What Did I Say? Who Was Raped By A Lady Since Childhood Dat Came Out To Narrate Her Ordeal? U Don't Even Know What U Are Saying. U Can Now See How Empty Ur Coconut Head Is.

You have shown how foolish you are.

The OP stated it clearly that his female neighbor who was far older than him was sleeping with him when he was 8 years.

Dunce!! Better go and read his ordeal again and use sense before you reply
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Yada01(m): 5:05pm On Nov 28, 2020
TheKingIsHere:


Spiritual things? Stop being foolish.

He was raped!!

If a girl was raped at 8 years by a man, will you say it is spiritual?

Haven't you seen several young girls that became sex addicts due to child rape experience?

Idiot!!

Don't be and idiot. Didn't you read where he said he continue the act until the left the state when he became 15?
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Ezenwa12345(m): 5:06pm On Nov 28, 2020
Carchoice:
I’m in the same shoe, but mine is complicated, it seems I’m surrounded with Hot ladies. If I don’t want sex, I get wooed to sex.


I think there’s something out there possessing both genders. The urge is so strong that nothing can stop it until you satisfy the urge. It’s not normal to me, I have no answer yet.


But what you should know is this, your life challenges is what you are facing. It’s left for you to manage it yourself. We are not completely free from problems, temptations and obstacles must come in your way to slow you down and in your case, sex is the obstacle you must learn to manage and tame. You can’t escape it, also try to understand that this is just the beginning, you still have a lot of years to face this and even after Marriage the battle still continues.
Bro I get what you meant. First you have to documents how many times you have sex in a week or months. For example, if I have sex four times every week and I feel I'm addicted to it , I won't just want to cut it off . What I'll do is to reduce it to three times a week, if I'm successful in that one , I'll reduce to twice weekly then to once a week.. it's how it works, try it and give me a call
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by shantti(m): 5:07pm On Nov 28, 2020
take piriton, one morning one night for 4 days, it will cure it
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Ghostmode2two(m): 5:07pm On Nov 28, 2020
Bornsinner7:
Awa fierce gan to ba n wa mi

Say no more bro.. I've got the right remedy for you, once you take this drink you are free from thinking about sex, it works like magic. instead you go dey attract pussy, na you go dey run from pussy sef

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Hahahahaha. You want to increase the guy worry with your toto herbal tea abi? Which kind doctor you be sef?
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by TheKingIsHere: 5:07pm On Nov 28, 2020
Yada01:


Don't be and idiot. Didn't you read where he said he continue the act until the left the state when he became 15?

He continued the act with that same woman neighbor till he was 15 years old which is still underage.

Stop being a fo0l and read again

Note something happened to me when I was 8yrs old our neighbor then who my mom drops me at her place her daughter usually sleep with me anytime my mom drops me at there place, I cried telling Mom I don't like that place but she said she doesn't have alternative and can't take me with her i will add stress mind you my dad is working then in another state and visit during the weekend twice a month.

This continued till I was 15yrs yes I began to go there and she likes me alot, sends me message and never ask for change Sneak me inside her room I began to like the act until we left the state to stay with my dad after some years

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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by LoveJesus87(m): 5:08pm On Nov 28, 2020
SkyRicks:



Hmmm
Even after marriage ?
Don't mind him o!! That's the biggest lie you can EVER fall imfor. Once you marry the type of lady you naturally feel attracted to, then it's just a matter of any time you have the urge you do your thing jeje. Am speaking from experience. It then becomes a blessing instead of a curse that it is
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by abbey621(m): 5:09pm On Nov 28, 2020
Oga you do not have a problem, in fact it is healthy to mastaurbate at least once or twice a month. Your problem is when you start mastaurbating at inappropriate times or places like work or classroom. What you need to do isunderstand that thinking about sex is normal but thinking about sex all the time is not! Keep yourself busy and naturally the feelings will decrease!
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by grandstar(m): 5:09pm On Nov 28, 2020
Truvel:
What Advice Do U Want Again 4 Godsake? Get A Lady Or A Wife. I'm Even Astonished Dat U Posted Dis Here. Haba!!

Getting a girlfriend or a wife won't solve the problem. He wants lots of sex with ladies with nothing attached. He just wants to enjoy himself. He wants a fantasy
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by jaxxy(m): 5:10pm On Nov 28, 2020
SkyRicks:
I will be brief

When ever am alone even after returning from a stressful day once am a lone at home I feel Hot this has been on since school days
I masturbate once in a while and I truly want to stop thinking about sex but really can't help it right now.

Note something happened to me when I was 8yrs old our neighbor then who my mom drops me at her place her daughter usually sleep with me anytime my mom drops me at there place, I cried telling Mom I don't like that place but she said she doesn't have alternative and can't take me with her i will add stress mind you my dad is working then in another state and visit during the weekend twice a month.

This continued till I was 15yrs yes I began to go there and she likes me alot, sends me message and never ask for change Sneak me inside her room I began to like the act until we left the state to stay with my dad after some years I began to masturbate before uni and all through my days in sch I have lived with this chronic desire for sexual fantasy within me.

My question:
The desire for sex asin constant thinking of having sex is it normal (may me if not face with tasks make me to lose focus) or I need deliverance.
Is there medication for this desire a kind of cure (am a biologist not a physician)
Am confused right now and it making me desire to visit escort female but lacks the courage to seek there service because of the way people see me.

Thank you, your advise is needed

Everything is about ur mindset and how much knowledge u know to control what u do and don’t do. Yes u can choose to drop a strong habit or mindset and drop it just like that if u know or seek how. It comes down to level of self discipline, restraint and training u give to urself. U learn it, u practice it. It doesn’t come free.

U had a wrong influence from an encounter while growing up and it became a strong habit. A habit is also a strong feeling or comes as one. It’s easier to fix and not as impossible as people think once u conquer the required things.

Get used to and be comfortable doing the right things even and especially when ure alone. The wrong things will naturally and gradually go away.

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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Judolisco(m): 5:10pm On Nov 28, 2020
mansakhalifa:


You think football is the panacea, right?

Then you haven't met my pal- my childhood friend.

We were teammates in a serious football team- training for and playing in serious matches but it didn't change anything. That guy was a serious maniac. I am sure he hasn't changed a bit up until this very minute.

It takes more than football for sure.
sure he should Sha get himself busy and around people if he wants to stop.... Also he should stop spending a lot of time in d bathroom
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by kintus(m): 5:10pm On Nov 28, 2020
SkyRicks:


If It will help me maintain the right frame of mind and stop desiring why not. Though I will still visit pharmacy later tonight to know if there is any drugs reducing desires for sex

Nothing were Musa no go see for gate........

Better get close Jesus for mind cleansing.....
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Mosesadeiza: 5:10pm On Nov 28, 2020
fati2001:



SO HANG YOURSELF....
You are so childish
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Yada01(m): 5:11pm On Nov 28, 2020
TheKingIsHere:


He continued the act with that same woman neighbor till he was 15 years old which is still underage.

Stop being a fo0l and read again

He did it for 7 years. And now he can't stop. Guy stop being irresponsible and uncultured. Must you abuse people when you quote them?
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 5:12pm On Nov 28, 2020
Splitmind:
I like how everyone is just taunting this guy who opened up about his sexual assault.

Oh well I guess guys get no sympathy for things like this.

The most sensible thing is to seek professional help these guys will just use you for likes.
bcoz they are jealous of him. What made them go crazy was the fact that op stated that he was pleasured (note op taunters believed he was serviced instead of abused) from the tender age of 8 to the teenage age of 15
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Nobody: 5:12pm On Nov 28, 2020
TheKingIsHere:


You have shown how foolish you are.

The OP stated it clearly that his female neighbor who was far older than him was sleeping with him when he was 8 years.

Dunce!! Better go and read his ordeal again and use sense before you reply
Honestly, U No Get Sense. Even If Ur Sense Is As Small As A Mustard Seed, U Would Av Understood My Comment B4 Replying Me Foolishly. I Only Told Him Dat 4 Him To Overcome Dis He Should Get Marry.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by yYot: 5:13pm On Nov 28, 2020
Yada01:


It seems you are ignorant of spiritual things. Don't talk about what you don't know
You seem to be the simple one! There is no connection between sex and your spiritual cloud walking!
Sex is just physical activity, mental ability is 1000% better than any spiritual activities!
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by TheKingIsHere: 5:13pm On Nov 28, 2020
Yada01:


He did it for 7 years. And now he can't stop. Guy stop being irresponsible and uncultured. Must you abuse people when you quote them?

The same you that indirectly just called me an idiot in your last post?

My friend get lost.

Next time read, take time to understand before you type stupid things
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by TheKingIsHere: 5:14pm On Nov 28, 2020
yYot:

You seem to be the simple one! There is no connection between sex and your spiritual cloud walking!
Sex is just physical activity, mental ability is 1000% better than any spiritual activities!

Thank you
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Splitmind: 5:14pm On Nov 28, 2020
VeeVeeMyLuv:
bcoz they are jealous of him

This isn't something to be jealous of, this guy is seriously messed up in the head.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by AKAyomide(m): 5:15pm On Nov 28, 2020
Hey bro.. You're not alone in kind of condition you're facing right now. I started masturbating at the age of sixteen. I am in my middle twenties; and I have this urge sexual feeling which makes me to derive solo pleasure by myself. I have read a lot of articles about quitting masturbation but after three or four weeks I stopped masturbation the feeling sudden arise once again.
I feel the only solution to your predicament is too find a girl who really understand you and your sexual problem. It'll be so hard to stop it because your sexual libido is extremely high by nature and the only medication ways to go about is to get yourself an antidepressant drugs but it has huge negative effect than positive effect.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by TheKingIsHere: 5:16pm On Nov 28, 2020
Truvel:
Honestly, U No Get Sense. Even If Ur Sense Is As Small As A Mustard Seed, U Would Av Understood My Comment B4 Replying Me Foolishly. I Only Told Him Dat 4 Him To Get Marry 4 Him To Overcome Dis Urge.

So getting married will quench the extreme sexual urge that have been embedded in him by a female rapist when he was a child?

It's stupid people like you that think getting married will solve a long term psychological problem.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by samuelchimmy(m): 5:16pm On Nov 28, 2020
SkyRicks:
I will be brief

When ever am alone even after returning from a stressful day once am a lone at home I feel Hot this has been on since school days
I masturbate once in a while and I truly want to stop thinking about sex but really can't help it right now.

Note something happened to me when I was 8yrs old our neighbor then who my mom drops me at her place her daughter usually sleep with me anytime my mom drops me at there place, I cried telling Mom I don't like that place but she said she doesn't have alternative and can't take me with her i will add stress mind you my dad is working then in another state and visit during the weekend twice a month.

This continued till I was 15yrs yes I began to go there and she likes me alot, sends me message and never ask for change Sneak me inside her room I began to like the act until we left the state to stay with my dad after some years I began to masturbate before uni and all through my days in sch I have lived with this chronic desire for sexual fantasy within me.

My question:
The desire for sex asin constant thinking of having sex is it normal (may me if not face with tasks make me to lose focus) or I need deliverance.
Is there medication for this desire a kind of cure (am a biologist not a physician)
Am confused right now and it making me desire to visit escort female but lacks the courage to seek there service because of the way people see me.

Thank you, your advise is needed
omo na conji dey worry you. Nothing more. Go out and have sex with somebody. You will be fine
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Yada01(m): 5:16pm On Nov 28, 2020
yYot:

You seem to be the simple one! There is no connection between sex and your spiritual cloud walking!
Sex is just physical activity, mental ability is 1000% better than any spiritual activities!

Sex is spiritual. Ask anybody
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by yYot: 5:17pm On Nov 28, 2020
Yada01:


When a person is involve in a thing that he/she is not happy about and cannot stop, it is a spirit that aids him/her to do that
Everyone love sex! How can you not be happy about sex except of course if you have been brainwashed to think of it as dirt, etc!

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Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Nov 28, 2020
grandstar:


Getting a girlfriend or a wife won't solve the problem. He wants lots of sex with ladies with nothing attached. He just wants to enjoy himself. He wants a fantasy
In Dat Case, His Case Is Spiritual. It's Total Abnormal.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by odisman(m): 5:17pm On Nov 28, 2020
onlinenigba:
Get born again and this habit will stop. Any other ways are mere waste of time.

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The best advice so far. I can relate.
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by Yada01(m): 5:19pm On Nov 28, 2020
yYot:

Everyone love sex! How can you not be happy about sex except of course if you have been brainwashed to think of it as dirt, etc!

Sex within the confined of marriage. Sex outside marriage has repercussions believe it or not but it's the truth
Re: How Do I Get Over Sex? by yYot: 5:20pm On Nov 28, 2020
Yada01:


Sex is spiritual. Ask anybody
Now tell me your qualifications about this issue of sex, obsession, and human behaviour! Please don't quote Bible or your church leader!

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