Deardoveylove:
The truth is, I desire to marry him because we already have a child together. I love the relationship between him and our son. I want to have a peaceful family. But everything went bad when he traveled out and decided to stay mute without supporting me. I would have gotten married to someone else all along, but my dad wouldn't let me. He's of an opinion I must marry the father of my son.
He's back, not doing well financially. He has explained all that happened, appologied and everybody still wants him for me. He's been so committed and caring since he came back. we're preparing to get married by January, but the issue is this,

I'm confused.

We are always having disagreement and each time we had, I can't seems to forget all the bad ways he treated me in the past.
I always emphasize it to his face. Severally times, he would go down on his knees and appologies over and over again.
Yet, I can't feel that love in me.
Secondly, he don't want me associating with my friends.
These are people who were there for me all through the time he left, especially my male friends. Who always buy gifts for my child. The last time. My ex bought a wristwatch for my son from US, he personally hide it and wouldn't let him use it.
He calls me more than 20 times a day. That alone drives me crazy.
He's always calling to know where I am, who is with me and who calls me.

He always wants to be around me. No breathing space at all as if I'm going to run away.
I can't even have my life outside him anymore.
The last time we had an argument, I told him I can't marry him, I saw his reaction.
He behaves as if there's a diamond in me he needs to own.
I feel scared sometimes. I don't know if this is love or something else.
He has been away all this years, while all these just of a sudden.

I'm confused, once I marry him, we're married forever and I don't want to make mistake.

How, what should I do to make him stop acting all he's doing? He act as if he's in competition with all the men in my life.

Experienced people in the house please, advice.

Deardoveylove:
The truth is, I desire to marry him because we already have a child together.

Deardoveylove:
The truth is, I desire to marry him because we already have a child together. I love the relationship between him and our son. I want to have a peaceful family. But everything went bad when he traveled out and decided to stay mute without supporting me. I would have gotten married to someone else all along, but my dad wouldn't let me. He's of an opinion I must marry the father of my son.
He's back, not doing well financially. He has explained all that happened, appologied and everybody still wants him for me. He's been so committed and caring since he came back. we're preparing to get married by January, but the issue is this,

I'm confused.

We are always having disagreement and each time we had, I can't seems to forget all the bad ways he treated me in the past.
I always emphasize it to his face. Severally times, he would go down on his knees and appologies over and over again.
Yet, I can't feel that love in me.
Secondly, he don't want me associating with my friends.
These are people who were there for me all through the time he left, especially my male friends. Who always buy gifts for my child. The last time. My ex bought a wristwatch for my son from US, he personally hide it and wouldn't let him use it.
He calls me more than 20 times a day. That alone drives me crazy.
He's always calling to know where I am, who is with me and who calls me.

He always wants to be around me. No breathing space at all as if I'm going to run away.
I can't even have my life outside him anymore.
The last time we had an argument, I told him I can't marry him, I saw his reaction.
He behaves as if there's a diamond in me he needs to own.
I feel scared sometimes. I don't know if this is love or something else.
He has been away all this years, while all these just of a sudden.

I'm confused, once I marry him, we're married forever and I don't want to make mistake.

How, what should I do to make him stop acting all he's doing? He act as if he's in competition with all the men in my life.

Experienced people in the house please, advice.

Deardoveylove:
The truth is, I desire to marry him because we already have a child together. I love the relationship between him and our son. I want to have a peaceful family. But everything went bad when he traveled out and decided to stay mute without supporting me. I would have gotten married to someone else all along, but my dad wouldn't let me. He's of an opinion I must marry the father of my son.
He's back, not doing well financially. He has explained all that happened, appologied and everybody still wants him for me. He's been so committed and caring since he came back. we're preparing to get married by January, but the issue is this,

I'm confused.

We are always having disagreement and each time we had, I can't seems to forget all the bad ways he treated me in the past.
I always emphasize it to his face. Severally times, he would go down on his knees and appologies over and over again.
Yet, I can't feel that love in me.
Secondly, he don't want me associating with my friends.
These are people who were there for me all through the time he left, especially my male friends. Who always buy gifts for my child. The last time. My ex bought a wristwatch for my son from US, he personally hide it and wouldn't let him use it.
He calls me more than 20 times a day. That alone drives me crazy.
He's always calling to know where I am, who is with me and who calls me.

He always wants to be around me. No breathing space at all as if I'm going to run away.
I can't even have my life outside him anymore.
The last time we had an argument, I told him I can't marry him, I saw his reaction.
He behaves as if there's a diamond in me he needs to own.
I feel scared sometimes. I don't know if this is love or something else.
He has been away all this years, while all these just of a sudden.

I'm confused, once I marry him, we're married forever and I don't want to make mistake.

How, what should I do to make him stop acting all he's doing? He act as if he's in competition with all the men in my life.

Experienced people in the house please, advice.

Blakjewelry:

Well it seems you are already seeing someone and don't love him anymore. Come out openly and tell him

Righteousness89:


Sex outside Marriage was the first Mistake! I Believe you should have learnt your lesson and Repented!

Marrying one who is not God's will for you will be a Greater Mistake if you are not cautious.

My Advice:
Humble yourself before God and seek His Face for His Choice for you. Whoever he shows you! Just say I do!

Deardoveylove:
The truth is, I desire to marry him because we already have a child together. I love the relationship between him and our son. I want to have a peaceful family. But everything went bad when he traveled out and decided to stay mute without supporting me. I would have gotten married to someone else all along, but my dad wouldn't let me. He's of an opinion I must marry the father of my son.
He's back, not doing well financially. He has explained all that happened, appologied and everybody still wants him for me. He's been so committed and caring since he came back. we're preparing to get married by January, but the issue is this,

I'm confused.

We are always having disagreement and each time we had, I can't seems to forget all the bad ways he treated me in the past.
I always emphasize it to his face. Severally times, he would go down on his knees and appologies over and over again.
Yet, I can't feel that love in me.
Secondly, he don't want me associating with my friends.
These are people who were there for me all through the time he left, especially my male friends. Who always buy gifts for my child. The last time. My ex bought a wristwatch for my son from US, he personally hide it and wouldn't let him use it.
He calls me more than 20 times a day. That alone drives me crazy.
He's always calling to know where I am, who is with me and who calls me.

He always wants to be around me. No breathing space at all as if I'm going to run away.
I can't even have my life outside him anymore.
The last time we had an argument, I told him I can't marry him, I saw his reaction.
He behaves as if there's a diamond in me he needs to own.
I feel scared sometimes. I don't know if this is love or something else.
He has been away all this years, while all these just of a sudden.

I'm confused, once I marry him, we're married forever and I don't want to make mistake.

How, what should I do to make him stop acting all he's doing? He act as if he's in competition with all the men in my life.

Experienced people in the house please, advice.

tobechi74:


What about sex? Talk true. Does he Bleep you better ? That is the main reason you are confused. Nothing confuses a lady better than an abusive , useless guy who perfom well in bed

Spy360:
Deardoveylove

I am married and so in a position to advice you.

1. Why are you confused? Is it that you don't love him but want to marry him simply because he is the father of your son? Or that your father wants you to? Either of these is not a good reason. Marry him because you choose to.

2. He is insecure because of his financial situation. This means one of two things,- he is seeing you as an only hope for a wife as he has no money, so when he does have what happens? Or he sincerely hopes to marry you and is scared of losing you due to his lack of money.

3. Any woman (or man) who can not assure their spouse of their place in their hearts is not good material. It's your duty to ensure he is safe even when not with you. So don't be tired of picking his calls. Sign of tiredness tells him something may be going wrong.

4. What is delaying the union? If you guys cannot make up your minds to settle down within three months that relationship will most likely not work out.

SweetCunt97:
Red flag. Your dad sef get wahala. What if this one doesn't give u peace of mind cos believe me it will get worse after I do. Men who exhibit such trait could b dangerous.

That he's ur baby daddy does not mean you'll marry him.

Deardoveylove:
We are planning towards January.

Ginaz:
"Do you still love him"?

Let's start from there.

Deardoveylove:
my dad will never let me be. He's insisting I can't have a baby for one man and marry another.

Deardoveylove:
I can say it's because of my son and my Dad wouldn't let me marry any other guy.

Deardoveylove:
I can say it's because of my son and my Dad wouldn't let me marry any other guy.