Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

xProfx:
Pay less attention to him... The worst thing you can do is trying to force someone to respect you. I have realised age is a fake instrument that only worked in the past so don't let your age difference make you think he will respect you so much.

The best way you can get him to respect you is to stop trying, just be a more simple person and treat him like an adult, like your mate. Learn to forgive him in advance cos he will still offend you and you will still offend him...

Just be nice to him for no reason than the blood you share... Buy him little things like drinks and snacks when you go to the supermarket and just give him without asking. Advise him less, let him realize his own mistakes...

kenwills:


He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Tony142:





u are mad, who told u na who get money be senior? idiot



my father is the richest in his family, my father is also the last born out of 7 children, if there is a family meeting if the elder ones are talking my father dare not open his mouth to talk, it is what ever the senior ones said that he will agree on, he did not have his one say.

KCNATH:

That was then o on ur father side.
Today money speaks and is more respected

kenwills:

He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs. Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me. I do give him money sometimes.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

quentin06:


Are you a lady or a guy? Why will your younger brother hate you so much? Is he sponsoring your education,? your data is incomplete need for info for better advice.

teedoxman89:
Bros no vex oo.. first. The yahoo he is into has he been cashing out a lot,

does he gives ur parent money?

Does ur parent support his yahoo

Is he a bit supportive at home?

And you have you been staying home a lot due to the strike?
From morning till night does he sees you?

If yes then bro it will be very hard because if you aren’t involve in providing little at home, no one will respect you if you don’t have money. But if truely your home is a very strict one, don’t beat him at all. Seize his phone and laptop that he uses for the yahoo he is only doing those because of the 25$ to 100$ gift card client Gives him.

BlueKiddo:

@op how old is this brother of your's

Greenback:

What!!!!
You are 26 and hes 17!!
Wait o,do you have any physical structure less than him? I mean,is he taller or bulky than you are?
Guy beat the hell out of him seriously. Don't mind those peeps saying buy this n that for him,for what nah,are you born to be pampering your junior?
See what should be more of a concern to you and everyone is your education and him being into internet scam cos one day,he might end up caught and disgracing you your family.

Stop doing petty things,keep studying to be a better person,keep a group of bright acada guys and if possible,get something doing for the time being.

cassyrooy:
Anything that cannot make you happy should have no hand in your unhappy state.

Forget your brother, he's simply ignorant of this unprecedented time in your life. Ghost the hell out of him and concentrate on you.

Him go learn the hard way.

Gokoyer1401:
Mark it down, he will start using 'sir' for you as soon as you starts getting change in your pocket.

tron23:
Just ignore him and focus on your career development. This means no good morning, no presents or gifts even recharge cards. Focus on yourself - career and money. Listen to me, there is nothing you can do that will change his disposition towards you. Look at Barack Obama, 2 term US President still getting abused by people who are not on his level.

I know what I am talking about, ignore him and face your front. Peace.

talktrue1234:
He is an immature fool, he will learn with time, I pray he is able to forgive himself by then, but what are your parent, especially your mom saying about it?

kenwills:


Whenever I correct him they're tell me to mind my business and that statement gives him wings to disobey the more.

Tony142:




it is better for people to fear u than to respect u, I do not like respect I prefer being feared



when u are too farmilar with someone that person will start taking you for granted, the reason why your younger brother is disrespecting you is because u are too close to him, it is because u laugh with him too much, as from today stop laughing with him, ignored him, act like he does not exit, if u follow what I told u to do he will start respecting you, when he start respecting u he will want to come close to you, but pls do not allow him, I repeat do not allow him to come close to you again, the more he try to come close and form farmilarity the more u should distance yourself away from him


if u want to punish him and make him humble faster, tell him that u will report him to EFCC for doing yahoo, he go humble sharp sharp, Lol

neonbash0:
Bid your time

Graduate
Get a job
Move out


And then cut him and anyone who makes you feel less than.
I know what you're going through.
My friend's mom literally went through all this and when she finally graduated, got a job and then moved out: it took them few years to realize that she ain't coming back to the family home to stay, only visit.

She got married and she and her husband left for the US.

At the moment: her immediate family is still trying to reconcile with her but she don't want them no more.


HEY THERE!

LISTEN.
THE BEST REVENGE IS SUCCESS.

DON'T FORGET THIS
❤️X�️

chris51:



9 years is a huge age gap.
Please report the matter to your parents. They should get involved

blazebaba:
Them never born that pikin well....you fit repeat am again....

Mostly my younger ones are female only our last born....boy be feeling fly cos we don reach the same height,telling me straight to my face say if we fight nothing wey i go fit do am cos i no dey stay around them,i just laff it off and tell him mama say "our prick be of the same size no mean say the flesh no thick pass eachother ooo"....The day wey he do am reach,na joke him call am,boy later start begging calling for him mama...

OP ehn!!...that brother of urs need some thorough discipline,he still has the guts telling other kids in the neigborhood to step on ur EGO when he is supposed to be the one defending you when you not there.....bros no be soo....who born monkey,wey i don first you enter this world wey you still con be my junior brother...

Xano:


In some instances, parents are at fault, because when inform them, their response is not adequate.

My advice:
Treat him as if he does not exist. Do not respond or at look him. Walk pass him. Ignore him completely. Do this for several months.

If he deliberately walks into your lane, slap the hell out of him. Then walk away.

If he walks up to you when you are in conversation with your guys verbally humiliate him. He wouldn't come again.

The above advice might be extreme, but DON'T change for him to respect you. You are the elder brother, be one.

kenwills:


Whenever I correct him, she tells me to mind my business and that statement gives him wings to disobey the more.

kenwills:


I'm a guy.
He is still in secondary school and does'nt support me in anyway.
I don't know why he disregards me that much cos I do advice him and mind my business often.

EM123:
I think u should stay away from him , before small boy go beat old man , behave as if u don't know him , i think if u do this he won't respect or disrespect u . Your value will remain with u and when u resume school , don't go home when ever u have holiday , stay away from home for a long time let your brother and parents miss your presence.

Godpikin4real:
What ur parents reaction 2 dat?

Most times, mothers tend 2 b in support cos of d little change she collects from him.

Dollar7gs:
it is not because he has not made money as some people re saying here, cos at this stage now both of them re growing and in school, someth factors i consider responsible for this is first, what is the family up bringing and training like? are both parents living? if yes, what do they say wen ur younger brother disrespect u? I say this cos in my family where i grow up, my parents inforce discipline, they sternly resist any of the younger ones disrespecting their seniors, infact u earn serious punishment if u do. Another thing i think lead to this is like the guy in question is too quiet, even in his submitions here, u can vividly notice that frm his writeup, and because of being too cold, the small younger brother, he seniors with oclose to 10yrs want to over shadow him. Who does that in my family? i have 4 junior brothers following me and we even give only 2 yrs gap and they re way taller and bigger than me, yet i command their respest till tommorow, 3 of them re even married and even their wifes follow suit in that respect, so i guess u sowed this seed u re reaping now....and most, importantly, its obvious that guy has joined bad gangs, u can see that even in ur neighborhood, with even the age difference, he commands much respect than u, thats why, he could influence younger guys there to insult u, cos those guys too dnt have respect for u, not just ur younger brother. To tackle this, one, using for or beating him like some people re saying will not help, it will worsen the already bad situation, u re going to use diplomacy here, by first working on ur own self confidence that is already shaltered, then u re going to give him some distance, pay less attention on what he does, focus more on u, talk less to him, by this i dont mean keep malice with him, no, but only talk wit him wen neccessary. then stamp ur authority as the senior, this u do intelligently, wen issues arises that demands u to show up as the senior, take responsibilities, stop being too cold, be the man. I hope this helps...

mountex:
Please dont let his actions affect you emotionally, he doesnt respect you because he has started keeping friends of your age whom he relate with concerning the Internet fraud stop cautioning him and let him make mistakes he will later run to u. U can also make ur self less available in the house that is some of the things weh dey cause see finish and insults.

Aparche:
Op...I think you should start ghosting him. Start ignoring him and whatever he does, pretend as if he doesn't exist. Talk to him only when it's absolutely necessary, otherwise anytime you're alone with him in the house, carry novel and be reading. If he says something, expecting you to respond...ignore him. Start giving one word answers to his questions & comments, like yes, no, I don't know, Ok, fine.
Also if you used to beg him to help you do chores or borrow stuff from him. STOP!
When he realizes that you hardly talk to him & he trying to gist with you, and engage you has become an uphill task. His brain will reset and the insults and mockery will stop.