The fear of God, tolerance. and cash of course.

adaphik:

The fear of God, first.
Cash 2nd
Compatibility
Love
Sex
Understanding
Communication
Respect
Tolerance
Friendship

N/B: Even with love, do not underestimate the disaster poverty can cause.

onyezebros:

adamsrib (f) Re: Requirements For Good Marriage
« #5 on: March 26, 2011, 05:43 AM »

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Friendship
Communication
Determination
Patience
Forgiveness
A short memory
Sense of humor
Compatible sex drives
Love
God

i think the short memory means to easily forget the past (wrongs) and focus and look ahead.

i have done a work on something related, it is how to express your love and you could check it out on http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=195562883793222

God, Understanding, forgiveness, tolerance, etc. Having a personal relationship with God(IF u believe in God) wraps all the ingredients up 

1 The fear of GOD

2 Understanding

3 Love

4 Forgiveness

pumpkin88:

good sex, and for the wifey, always look good and stay trimmed!
don't walk around the house, tying a wrapper around your chest, smelling of onoins,
smell good, look good, learn the art of sex! its totally important, buy books that teach sex, or ask friends, get grounded in the school of sex!
above all, be a good listener, don't nag your hubby,

i hope this helps!

Are you married? i have my reasons for asking

@HIGH CHIEF,

Yes i am happily married, why?

How long have you been married now?

4years, y?

^^^Have you wondered what would happen to your marriage when the sex depreciates and the beauty fades? Have you?

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a
Mistake.Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr /Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they’ll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone". You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION #1:
Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel,eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.Two things can happen in a marriage. (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing

.QUESTION #2:
Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The Basis of having good communication is trust I.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings.A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:
Is he/she a mensch? (or mensh, somebody good, kind, decent & honorable) A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing". So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:

How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self absorbed? To measure this,think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc, How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be some
one who loves others! You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse"! If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

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Another perspective,

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.Once you decide to commit to someone, over time,his or her flaws,vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you like your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses and strengths.You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect,but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other,or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hugs, calls, touching, notes, etc.)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
0. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace the passion.
There it goes. . . Success is nothing without someone to share it with

when sex fades, and good looks fade, which of course would be much later, then the "companinship" of a listening wife, who doesn't nag her husband, takes over, b.t.w. wouldn't you rather grow old with the one woman/man who makes you feel like a man/woman? why do people criticise or rather shy away from SEX-TOPICS? for heaven's sake, it was invented by God, its no sin, as long as its done between a husband and a wife.

^^^Nobody is shying away from sex related topics, but the foundation of your marriage should not be sex. I suggest you read through the comment above yours, you will learn a thing or two

The best thing, Don't get married

Love for each other
Mind blowing sexxxxx
Patience
Enjoying life thru fun and holidays
Same values
Wisdom
Good food
RESPECT for eachother
Beauty
Health
Good rest
Finance
Last but not least playing monopoly or ludo together or some raw childish fun and dating eachother.

pumpkin88:

when sex fades, and good looks fade, which of course would be much later, then the "companinship" of a listening wife, who doesn't nag her husband, takes over, b.t.w. wouldn't you rather grow old with the one woman/man who makes you feel like a man/woman? why do people criticise or rather shy away from SEX-TOPICS? for heaven's sake, it was invented by God, its no sin, as long as its done between a husband and a wife.

Or between two consenting adults.

Just keep asking the man , baby do i still look good for you? what should i change about my looks? wear what the young girls of nowadays are wearing,be hardworking and trust me , dont nag, even satan hates nagging

Love, Respect, and mutual understanding

Na2; u're too much. Did u do that piece all by urself? Its very insightful, I must say.

Marriage is not as easy as people thought. Both rich and poor faces marriage challenges.
But these few points would help you.

1. Good communication
2. Perseverance
3. Forgiven Spirit
4. Love

1.GOD.
2.Love.
3.Communication.
4.Forgiving heart.
5.Good Sex.
6.Money.
7.Endurance.
8.Patience
9.Wisdom.
10.Sharing the same values.

Just one requirement; TRUE LOVE.
Problem these days is most people do not understand what true love means. They mistake infatuation for love and when the infatuation goes away, there's nothing else to "hold" on to. Some others marry because they are getting old and all their friends are married. Yet others see marriage as a solution to their personal problems! LOVE alone is all that is required. True love that is! Its not money, (some rich people are not fulfilled in their marriages), Its not sex, (Sex should be part of natural outcome of marital LOVE and not just an avenue for pleasure alone) but I guess a beautiful combination of ALL of the factors mentioned by everyone else and that beautiful combination is LOVE. True LOVE.

full acceptance of ur partner's imperfection and or ability to endure