Romantic love is a delusion that is based on sexual attraction. Most Nigerians get their ideas about love from Movies. Movies program us to seek romantic love above all else.

Nigerians are programmed by social media. Nigerians especially are the receiving end of these programming, many believe that sex and "love" are the key to happiness.

Men especially believe they need a woman's love to develop as men, they need to sexually satisfy a woman to prove their masculinity.

Men have been programmed to seek feminine approval when their own approval is all that matters.

This programming is intensifying. Every time I watch TV especially Hollywood, I see dominant women paired with feminized men who are trying to impress the women.

The average man spends 75% of his energy on it. Many men are ruined by divorce. What if men spent this energy elsewhere? On their work? On Enlightenment? On their music, hobbies or sports? On politics?

The social pressure to conform, to seek "a relationship" is overwhelming.

Maybe the real takeaway is this:

Men should never look to women to give them self-confidence but themselves